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to think a priest shouldn't invite little girls into his home

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TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 27/08/2009 18:44

Ok this is my 3rd AIBU of the night and usually steer clear of this section because it's scary

But anyway, everyone's being unreasonable at the mo and I need to get it out.

So we went to our priest the other night to sort out our wedding blessing. He's a nice guy, a little odd, but nice and about 60. We went to his house next to the church and school. When he opened the door there was a little girl of about 7 playing in the car park. He shouted to her 'would you like to come in?' she said no and he said 'why? Come in.' so she did.

Then he said 'where do you want to go? Do you want to watch television or talk?' she said watch TV and clearly felt a little uncomfortable. So he said 'right that's upstairs'. We followed and sorted out the blessing. He then gave DS and the girl a teddy each from his collection. We left and the little girl stayed.

He didn't ask her parents if she could come in- they wouldn't have known where she was, and it was just her and him.

Clearly nothing untoward, but it seems a bit naive for a man to invite a young girl into his home when no one else is there. All kinds of accusations could fly around.

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morningpaper · 28/08/2009 18:02

Satan ACTUALLY LIVES IN MUMSNET TOWERS?

I am a refugee. The Church of England is terribly liberal...

justabout · 28/08/2009 18:04

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morningpaper · 28/08/2009 18:04

Oh yes I was just joking about the communion and sex thing - it's only a TECHNICAL legality. I would advise having as much sex/communion as possible. But that's why I'm an anglican

morningpaper · 28/08/2009 18:04

lol justabout

are you feeling a frisson of excitement?

vinblanc · 28/08/2009 18:05

You don't have a full understanding of the Church of England. Liberalism is not where it is at.

morningpaper · 28/08/2009 18:05

aw don't deflate my optimism

justabout · 28/08/2009 18:06

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vinblanc · 28/08/2009 18:09

I don't appreciate your flippancy, rev. It is very distasteful.

I guess you are in a vibrant church, bursting at the seams with children and young people - 500 or more every Sunday - supporting the whole diocese via your parish share. Transforming your whole community, Chritian and heathen.

morningpaper · 28/08/2009 18:15

heathen?

justabout · 28/08/2009 18:20

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MillyR · 28/08/2009 18:23

Justabout

I got married (in a registry office) to my husband who is a Catholic. Does this mean he cannot take communion in the Catholic church? If so, how would he rectify the situation? Would we have to have a second wedding done by a priest?

justabout · 28/08/2009 18:23

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vinblanc · 28/08/2009 18:28

Did I accuse you of being Satanic? No, I did not.

Only that Satan was rubbing his hands with glee at the turn of this thread has taken into legalism, and away from mission and the life transforming message of the Christian faith.

I'm sorry that you don't see that.

There is no room for legalism or to challenge what is on the heart of a Mnetter because she lacks a particular piece of paper written in the right colour of ink.

I thought the job of fellow Christians was to encourage, uplift and edify one another. Not to put them down at every opportunity.

This is not what it means to be the hands and feet of Jesus.

LynetteScavo · 28/08/2009 18:33

MillyR - your DH shouln't take communion in a Catholic church.

Although - and this is a really big secret - DH has taken communion. I was beyond horrified when he told me (actually DS told me)but he said it seemed rude not too.

Personally I don't believe he'll rot in hell for it.

morningpaper · 28/08/2009 19:02

Milly: Yes technically, you'd need to have your marriage convalidated in the Catholic church and he shouldn't take communion or have sex with you until you've done so!

This is TECHNICALLY of course - in practice, most people don't adhere to canon law quite so strictly and most parish priests turn a blind eye (although some don't).

vinblanc: The matter we were discussing is ABOUT legalities i.e. civil law and canon law. Would you approve of a co-habiting couple that were not married?

morningpaper · 28/08/2009 19:03

And if someone told you that they've been baptised in Haribo instead of water, would you shrug and say 'ah well that's just a legality'?

LynetteScavo · 28/08/2009 19:10

Oooh, being baptised in Haribo sounds fun.

Katisha · 28/08/2009 19:14

I don't know - first it's guitars and now it's haribo in the font...

LynetteScavo · 28/08/2009 19:18
Grin
morningpaper · 28/08/2009 19:28

I can see it now: AIBU to expect that a parish priest should not be luring children into church by filling the font with Haribo?

mermalaid · 28/08/2009 19:42

FGS you lot, you've declared the OP a troll, a liar and convinced her her marriage blessing is a sham.

Sadly child abuse is not a rarity. If anyone has concerns, and gut feelings are often worth a lot, should be ringing the child protection team at their local social services

morningpaper · 28/08/2009 19:45

errr Without wishing to be pedantic, ringing social services would be rather extreme as mentioned below

dittany · 28/08/2009 19:46

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