..to really take a dislike people who I only know as paragraphs on a webpage??

[thinkaboutthepepilepticdogs]

I've namechanged for this, and won't name any of the MNetters that I'm referring to (so please don't either!). BUT, do you ever find the same MNetters on threads you are commenting on - and they always disagree with what you think??

This seems to happen to me alot and I find myself really disliking them, which is ridiculous. Sat here on my computer, they aren't even real people, just paragraphs of text on the screen so how can I dislike them so much??!

Am I the only one that gets this? Or are there more of you out there that are just as irrational as me?

[Penthesileia]

Yes, that too, Lenin.

Night all.

[junglist1]

I hate people who make underhand snidey insults then call me aggressive and deny it was directed at me.
I hate people who insist accents make people sound thick.
I hate people who say abused women are bad mums.

So far I hate 3 people but I've forgotten one of their names. That bugs me I might be nice to it by accident

[tatt]

it's unreasonable to dislike someone simply because they always disagree with you. Who knows, you might learn something from them. However there are people on mumsnet who express views that I find very repugnant and/or - usually and - are offensive to others. I wouldn't associate with people like that in RL so I try to avoid them here.

Unfortunately the internet brings out the worst in people. In RL the look of disgust/ horror on other faces would keep them a bit quieter. Here they find other people who secretly have the same twisted nature and come to think it is acceptable.

[LadyStealthPolarBear]

yes I never liked that dragonbutter either, although I used to pretend i did

[Platesmasher]

[tinkerbel72]

I'm a bit suprised at people who namechange to start a thread.

Agree with tatt, on the more contraversial threads (interesting threads?) then you are likely to find others disagreeing with you, it would be very dull if we all thought the same thing. If it narks you so much that people don't agree with you then its your problem not theirs.

But agree that there are some real shockers who don't ever have an interesting pov and come on to be offensive - we all know them though and can just avoid.

[AnyFucker]

junglist, that other person is me teehee

[TheCrackFox]

Mumsnet would be crap if we all agreed with each other. It would be just like Netmums.

[scottishmummy]

i dont dislike anyone on MN. i may dislike posts.not individual posters

how can you dislike someone with whom your only interaction is words on a screen. i genuinely dont understand the strenth of feeling somebuild up about aome anony,ous burd with a pc and opnion

genuinely if you are irked or perplexed by an anonymous poster it is time to take wee breather,step back from pc

switch off and switch off

[OrmIrian]

There used to be some like that when I first got here. They made me feel a bit insecure as if I was a total twat who was always wrong! They were clearly quite unpleasant individuals! And then as the months went past some of them began to agree with me so they were much much nicer people. I had clearly re-educated them sucessfully .

[Mumcentreplus]

Now wouldn't life and tintenet be boring if we all agreed?

[GreensleevesFlouncedLikeAKnob]

I bloody hate these threads

I just KNOW all the comments about obnoxious offensive dog-with-a-bone posters are about me

[katiestar]

I think on the internet people perhaps say what they really think , wheras in RL you say what peope want to hear ?

[Mumcentreplus]

I think some people are ruder, more obnoxious and down-right evil on the internet mainly because in RL they would get a slap

[UnquietDad]

A lot of us get frustrated, I think, by the way that this kind of interaction requires a complete, formulated, date-stamped reply, whereas in real life you'd be cutting across each other, making conciliatory "um" and "ah" noises and smiling noddy faces and so on.

I'm quite glad MN doesn't have a quote facility, because this encourages "fisking" - the breaking down of posts into constituent points and "addressing" of each one. Often this is not "addressing" at all, but simply "saying the opposite of", like in the Monty Python sketch ("that's not an argument, it's just contradiction"). And this process can miss the cumulative effect of the points and the way they form the overall sweep of an argument.

[thinkaboutthepepilepticdogs]

Anyfucker 'goodness me, you shouldn't need to namechange for responding to someone in kind' - no its not that I needed to name change so much as I didn't want to make the other poster feel bad that I was just talking about them.

I think it is a bit unreasonable of me to take a dislike against a fellow MNetter just based on what they type so I wanted to name change to avoid any nastiness. I'm not being wuss, just hoping to avoid any unnecessary unpleasantness.

LesbianCommunist I agree, it sucks when the opposite happens too. When you're reading a controversial thread and you see a poster you recognise and you think 'good, here comes some common sense' and then, as you said it, they make a tit of themselves. Its such a disappointment.

I think all these namechanges are inevitable now with this DM article each week. Its just sensible to protect yourself a bit if you are in the habit of telling people a lot about yourself, you need to be safe online. People don't realise that all the little bits of information you give out in threads add up to build a picture of someone, added to that the info on your profile and your pictures and you can be making yourself vulnerable.

Anyway, glad I'm not the only one who thinks 'oh, here we go' when we see someone we don't like much on a thread!!

[katiestar]

Yes and little bits of quotes posted can seem very inflamatory wheras in context they weren't that at all.

[Disenchanted3]

I dislike about 4 people at the moment





I just avoid them.

[FlightHattendant]

I've been wondering how I come across. I suspect I am considered patronising and rather pious at times.

right?

sorry

[Mumcentreplus]

Dammit! what I hate is when someone starts a thread about other people they can't stand and I spend half my time trying to guess who they are Dammit!..

[mollyroger]

Greeney, I hate it when people I think of as feisty and don't-give-a-damn get all paranoid...that's my job.

[Morloth]

I have a bit of a list of "Mental, do not engage" people.

Either they become hysterical at the drop of a hat or have a bee in their bonnet about something specific and will not ever ever admit that someone else's opinion might be valid. Then there are the one trick pony people who just bring up the same thing over and over and over again.

However, sometimes these types are fun to set off as well.

It is just a messageboard, I turn it off periodically and I assume everyone is lying, I lie about stuff on the internet, I don't want anyone getting too much of an idea about me.

[LetThemEatCake]

what about irrationally liking people who are just names on a screen/ paragraphs on a webpage?

I have a huge fondness for platesmasher, for instance, as well as AnyFucker, as mentioned before. Also megglevache and geordieminx.

Is that wrong? am I freakish? incapable of forming real relationships in RL? a stalker?

[AnyFucker]

ltec, you sound like a well-adjusted and highly intelligent person to me < smirk >