To think that health professionals should not call me MUM

[Reallytired]

DD had her jabs today and the nurse kept on calling me "Mum" even though I said to her that I did not want her to call me "Mum". I told her that it was a biological impossiblity that I was her mother.

I have two children and I am happy for me to call me Mum, but I do have a proper name and I think health professionals should use it.

That is differnet though, becky.

Surely there are more important things to get upset about?
Whitecat- I'm not sure why you are comparing the word 'mum' with derogatory phrases like 'smackhead'. They are hardly comparable! I'm not sure why you feel the medical profession has lower professional standards than the legal profession and it dosen't seem particularly relevant to this thread anyone.

Absolutely agree with OP - it's giving you a label. Was really p off when the vet called me by the cat's name too!

I will say 'ask dad' if all is well, and 'ask your dad' if he is in my bad books.

I know what I prefer for overall harmony.

The defiition of 'rude' is obv so subjective

ok my head hurts now. Off to bed to ponder.

I am sure you will have a vision in teh night and all will become clear, gibbon

Small white cat, think you are getting your wires crossed here. In your "criminal" days, you would be addressing your client by their name. The nurses are addressing their patients by their names too.

And, a lawyer/client situation is much more formal than a patient/nurse situation. For obvious reasons, which I'm sure you will understand.

You embarrass yourself luvvy.

See chichi and vinblanc, this proves my hastily formulated theory that this is all about two different kinds of people who won't ever see eye to eye. I can't imagine calling my husband 'Dad'. I would be pretty upset if he called me 'Mum'. It's not something we would ever do. That's not who we are. I am becky and he is beckyshusband and one of our roles in life is to be Mum and Dad. Which is why I bristle and feel that Mum from an HCP is condescending and rude.

no, pointy, he is their Dad, they call him Dad, that is his role in your household, he is the only Dad they have etc etc. again, no biggie. unless their grandpa was also in the house and then it might become confusing.

but if the receptionist was to call him Dad, that would be weird, wouldn't it? because he's not her dad.

I don't think the definition of rudeness is that subjective. I worked in quite a few different jobs and the training courses on how to communicate with the client group are always pretty much the same.

lord help us if thsi is a definition of two very differnet kinds of people in the world

nannynick great idea, my midwife left me an envelope at the surgery a few weeks back and on the front she stuck a post-it note with my name on. The post it note pad was a freebie from "Mirena". Dp couldn't see the irony of the midwife leaving me a note on a piece of paper advertising contraception, but being pregnant with baby no 4 in 5 years I do wonder if she was hinting, she does have a wicked sense of humour...

but he's not my dad, aitch, that woul dbe very wrong, and occasionally in a conversation I have referred to him as dad.

Gibboninaribbon, I adore your name.

hmmm ... chichichien ... does it occur to you that this is an enjoyable argument that I might not be taking too desperately seriously?

mariemarie... if the defendant's dad was in the room i take it you wouldn't expect him to be called 'DAD' by swc? i mean, you'd hope that she'd be arsed to call him 'mr such and such'?

A court room is completely differnet from a consulting room. One is formal, and the other is meant to put you at ease.

s'ok beck, am not taKING TOO seriously

But for those of us who don't like informality, it doesn't put us at our ease!