To think that health professionals should not call me MUM

[Reallytired]

DD had her jabs today and the nurse kept on calling me "Mum" even though I said to her that I did not want her to call me "Mum". I told her that it was a biological impossiblity that I was her mother.

I have two children and I am happy for me to call me Mum, but I do have a proper name and I think health professionals should use it.

reallytired
did oyu REALLY tell her NOT to clal you it

I always want to but dont do it

its even odder when its a babay - fair enough if referring to you like wiht a toddler" just hop on mums knee"
but a baby
fukcing annoying

pinkgerbera - you may not have realised it's patronising, or intended any insult, but now you've read the thread, any danger you might stop doing it - as the BMA advises?

Think you were missing the point talking about "Mum" being who the parent is in relation to the child. If you address me directly as "Mum" as in, Mum can you just do this, you are talking as if I am your Mum, not his.

Think about Riven's excellent point - if you are anaesthetising someone accompanied by their spouse, do you address that spouse as 'wife' or 'husband'?

like i say, pitysake, they did it to me while dd2 was in the incubator. i'm sure she couldn't have given a fuck at that point, but i did.

fascinated to see the hcps who can read a thread like this and declare us all wrong. lol.

ah AIthc I AM impressed

well done you. When dd is really old you can say " hey you were ill but LISTEN to what I said"

tee hee
right if they try it with me again.. not that I go to the drs much any more

yeah, how strange that the people who deny being patronising come on here and patronise us by refusing to accept that we know how we feel...

nd dont get me on reading hte NOTES

ds2 in fracture clinic
saw dr" now what is the problem here"

me" he hurt his hand and came into a nd e then was recalled"

him " when was that"

me " well i presume all this is in the notes IN YOUR HAND"

lol pitysake, christ no i never said anything. i just meekly replied 'no' in answer to 'has mum had her bath?'

however, at three o clock in the morning, when a paediatrician shook a bottle of cow and gate in front of me when i was reluctantly topping up dd2 saying 'JUST BECAUSE IT SAYS COW ON THE FRONT DOESN'T MEAN THERE'S COW IN THE BOTTLE'... then i drew myself up to my full height and sent her out of the room.

and then i blubbed for about thirty minutes.

Wow aitch i'm not surprised you blubbed - there may not have been a cow in the bottle but there was one serious cow in the room.

Both, snapple!

What?

This could all be avoided if they just went the American way and 'ma'am' and 'sir'd everyone.

Even better is the practice in law enforcement and criminal law of using the term 'individual' with the 3rd person.

cow in the bottle and in the room - stupid doc clearly hadn't read the ingredients. What the hell did s/he think formula was made from, super-scienctific-miracle fluid?

oops, I do know how to spell scientific, honest.

i can answer that, actually. it is made of 'chemicals from a lab'. lol.

she was appalling, and i did complain about her the next day. she was basically put on special measures with the hospital, they took it very seriously. (mind you my pal is the boss so...)

Should bloody well think so! Sheesh. Just goes to show AAA at A-level doesn't actually mean you aren't thick as two short planks.

no one has declared anyone wrong aitch,but you did say you ere "very bored" hearing XYZ lines

LOL would lines be someone else subjective opinion and explanation?

just as you aitch have your opinion expect to hear others too.dont lump all hcp together as a homogeneous mass

just as all mums are not the same
not all hcp are same either

for i think the third time i'm about to draw your attention to what i actually SAID, sm. i can write, in fact i do so for a living, so i'm generally pretty accurate.

"fascinated to see the hcps who can read a thread like this and declare us all wrong. lol."

that's what i wrote. i am fascinated to see the hcps who can read a thread like this and declare us all wrong.

not 'all the hcps', so no lumping.

while the ones who think that our opinion is invalid, or wrong, have undoubtedly been in the majority, i was referring specifically to the subset of those who were dismissive on this thread.

ease up on Thebold it is very foot stamping and churlish

look go make a big pyre in the garden and chuck a token nurse/doctor on it.that will teach em for ever saying mum to anyone.

and it wasn't xyz lines, plural.

it was one line, to the effect that hcps can call people what they want, in a manner that characterises every doctor patient interaction as an emergency.

has any fucker said

"hey i love it"????

no

yes go read a post modern interpretation about power and hegemony in the professions and then beat a doctor or nurse about the head with it

all this perceived power tussle and disrespect form hcp, i am surprised you don't make your gp sign code of suitable verbal salutations each consultation

hey i love it
yes

ah you dont count

ah cant go fiddling rules to suit yourself
i love it yes yes

no no no I cant hear you

now we have NO ONE on this " like it" list