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to enjoy wine every night?

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barnsleybelle · 25/07/2009 17:49

Been to a football gala today with ds and got involved in a discussion about drinking.
I probably drink at least 2 glasses of wine every night. Sometimes half bottle sometimes full.
DH works away so my nights when dcs are in bed are my time. I look forward to my wine.
Anyway equal amounts of mums at the gala either agreed with me or were horrified.
What's the general opinion on here i wonder???

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expatinscotland · 26/07/2009 21:51

A lots of public advertisements on the health risks of being fat and pictures of clogged arteries on crip packets and chocolate bars and cakes.

Overweight and obese people would be regularly ostrasised socially, told they're just in denial about their food addiction and they'd have more energy and feel better if they lost weight and found another way to relax besides food.

Mmm, that chilli I made is calling my name, especially because I've got another bag of Fritos and put the damn scale back in the loft!

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barnsleybelle · 26/07/2009 21:55

Good point expat. Some of the women at the gala i spoke to who told me about the health risks etc etc were overweight. Eating burgers at the gala and feeding their children the same. I know a couple of them drive to school everyday and never do exercise.
Their business and not one i would choose to comment on. However, it did amuse me secretly to hear their open musings of how my health was at risk.
Incidently, DS and i cycled 5 miles to the gala (me with dd in the seat behind me).

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ilovemydogandmrobama · 26/07/2009 21:57

Right, where are you getting your Frito supply???

K999 · 26/07/2009 21:58

I drink pretty much the same as you do barnsleybelle...I love my glass or two of wine at night once the kids are in bed. I can easily sink a whole bottle on a Friday night and not be drunk....there are days when I dont touch a drop and days when I do. I dont worry about it tbh. I smoke as well so that makes me even worse!! But I try to treat every day as if it were my last. I am currently on my 2nd glass of wine and have an interview to prepare for tomorrow! May as well forget that....

nicefleece · 26/07/2009 22:03

Try not having a glass until after you have eaten - read somewhere that you fancy one more if you are hungry.

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barnsleybelle · 26/07/2009 22:03

K999... ditto in every aspect!!!! I too am on my 2nd and have an interview tomorrow . I've been a sahm for 2.5 years and am ready to rejoin the British work force

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K999 · 26/07/2009 22:06

Lets drink to that then!! I shall go and top up my glass....and sneak off for a quick cig!!

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barnsleybelle · 26/07/2009 22:08

@ K999... enjoy and good luck tomorrow.

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expatinscotland · 26/07/2009 22:10

[Wipes chilli off chin]

My mom just sent over a care package. FOUR bags of Frito's.

F*ck drink, I got Frito's, man .

K999 · 26/07/2009 22:10

You too....speak to you tomorrow night and we can either toast our brilliant interviews or drown or sorrows! Either way, a glass of wine will feature!!!

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barnsleybelle · 26/07/2009 22:17

Eeh expat you do tickle me...

K999, yes, who knows we may even being going for the same job

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bibbitybobbityhat · 26/07/2009 22:20

Expat - I don't know if its wrong of me to bring this up here but I was under the impression that you had "come out" for want of a better term, as an alcoholic, on Mumsnet? If I am wrong about that then I do apologise and am willing to take any scorn on the chin.

But if you are, whilst quite understanding that you wouldn't want to evangelise, I hope you are not declaring that heavy drinking is safe just because the drinker does not appear to be addicted to it.

The risks from drinking too much alcohol are not limited to being or becoming addicted to it, imho. It is a substance to be treated with caution like sugar, saturated fat and all sorts of other occasional treats, imho.

expatinscotland · 26/07/2009 22:24

yes, bibbity, I don't drink.

hence, all my posts about food .

but others do drink and are not addicted.

expatinscotland · 26/07/2009 22:26

'I hope you are not declaring that heavy drinking is safe just because the drinker does not appear to be addicted to it.'

And, IMO, no one really knows the definition of 'heavy drinking' for an individual (well, it can be assumed for some people like, say, Gazza or a bottle of voddy a day).

But I am overweight.

And I know it puts my health at risk.

K999 · 26/07/2009 22:27

Barnsleybelle....are you also going for the wine tasting job at Blossom Hill? I got turned down from the fag smoking tester at Benson and Hedges so thought the wine tasting job was worth a bash!!

expatinscotland · 26/07/2009 22:30

'It is a substance to be treated with caution like sugar, saturated fat and all sorts of other occasional treats, imho.'

Sorry, but I disagree.

You're dead a long time.

And if some like to have a glass of wine or two every night, or a bar of choccie, or transfat, then FFS, if it's not having a terrible effect on their lives, why demonise it all and make it 'occassional treat only'.

IMO when you start classing what is basically a foodstuff as 'bad' or 'good' you wind up with, well the obesity and binge drinking problems we've got in teh UK.

trixymalixy · 26/07/2009 22:31

yabu, you really need to give your liver a couple of nights off in between to recover.

DH used to drink a couple of glasses every night and now has liver problems.

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barnsleybelle · 26/07/2009 22:31

@ K999

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expatinscotland · 26/07/2009 22:31

K99, my mom got turned down from a smoking cessation trial because she was not addicted enough.

They wanted my dad, but he didn't want to stop smoking.

K999 · 26/07/2009 22:39

Expat - no shit?? How addicted do you have to be?? LOL at your dad! I recently quit for 4 months using the inhalator and patches before starting again! I basically just missed smoking.....perhaps will try again....tbh no-one ever really knows for sure what's safe and what's not. I come from a family of smokers/drinkers....my granparents on both sides liked a smoke and a tipple and all lived in to their late 80's....DP's grandparents died in their 60's and did not smoke or drink....go figure?? When I die at least I can say I have lived and loved every moment.....

expatinscotland · 26/07/2009 22:43

She can take it or leave wrt fags. So she was not a 'good candidate'.

The ILs are teetotal and MIL never smoked or drank once in her whole life.

They both look and have the health of people in their 80s despite being in their 60s and though my mother is 8 months older than MIL and my dad is WAY older than both of them the ILs definitely have one foot in it by comparison, IYKWIM.

My folks, however, are both very laid-back, jolly types.

expatinscotland · 26/07/2009 22:47

Oh, she's smoked since 1958, btw.

K999 · 26/07/2009 22:49

I think, tbh, stress has a huge part to play on the issue of health!! I am fairly laid back and so are most of my family, except one aunty who is so up tight and stressed. I dont know if there is a link to the fact that she has had 2 brain haemorrhages,and suffers from manic depression....she doesnt drink or smoke and sometimes I wonder if having a glass of wine and a fag would help...

SolidGoldBrass · 27/07/2009 01:12

Bear in mind that we are ALL going to die. Of something. You can be a self-denying, god-bothering, cat-sbum-mouth at everyone else and get killed by a pint of frozen piss falling out of an aeroplane - or get cancer of some description because o one actually knows what causes some cancers.

People are entitled to damage their own health - if you whine and bleat that they are not especially if they have children then you are going to have to outlaw contact sports, travel to places without decent plumbing, extreme sports, political activism and quite a few other things. If a person's drinking is affecting other people in the household then it needs to be addressed. If it's affecting the workplace then it needs to be addressed. But if it's not, then it's up to an individual to decide how much risk to take.

HarryB · 27/07/2009 09:19

I think a bottle of wine per day when on holiday or something is fine, but long term it can't be good.

I'm a total lightweight these days. I have 2 glasses with dinner a couple of nights per week. Very occasionally I might have a bottle, but that is only if out with friends - which of course is a rarity now I have DS. I used to drink at least 40 units per week and thought I was healthy on it - it was only when I gave up completely when I got pregnant that I realised how shit I felt before.

Now, I just can't function the morning after I've had a drink. I get ratty and everything seems like a mountain rather than a molehill.