To think a single women should not keeping coming on to a man when she knows he is married??

[memoo]

and that his wife is 7 months pregnant!!!!

I'm getting really pissed off with this women at DH's work. She is always flirting with DH, I know this because DH is very open about it and doesn't try to hide it from me.

When we went out on his works do at xmas she was all smiles at DH but completely ignored me.

She is always sending DH emails with rude jokes in them and she usually includes quite suggestive comments too.

she even commented in one "bet you're not getting much with memoo being all fat and pregnant"

Yesterday DH said when she was showing him something on his computer she was leant over him almost shoving her boobs in the back of his head!!!

DH says if it carrys on he is going to have a chat with his boss.

but why the feck does somebody think its ok to behave like this with a married man!!!!

I agree with MorrisZap. A bit of 'flirting' in the workplace is pretty normal and can be fun.

As long as she hasn't pulled his willy out or something I can't see the problem.

If he's uncomfortable he should just tell her.

monkeytrousers - that's a really stupid thing to say. I'm single and I would never in a million years pursue a married man.

He shouldn't get HR involved at this stage because he hasn't told her to stop. He needs to tell her first, being very clear that he considers it harassment and, if it doesn't stop, he will be speaking to HR. I bet that'll be the end of it.

Spice, please read what I actually say. I said 'find more attractive' not 'try to get' or 'pursue'

Nope, can't say I even found an attached man more attractive. Quite the opposite, in fact. Sort of the same reaction I have towards other women: nada.

That's a bit lame MT, surely they have pretty much the same meaning?

Eh? Lame? Do you 'pursue' every man you find vaguely attractive?

No.

That's lame.

What was your whole point then about the natural truth and women finding attached men more attractive?

Why say this if in fact you meant they have a secret attraction that they don't act upon?

IMHO if a man is not finding this enjoyable or flattering he could and would put a stop to it quite decisively. If I was married and some bloke was behaving inappropriately with me I would tell him coldly and firmly in no uncertain terms.

I agree with Dittany.

Okay then MT, just to be quite clear, I do not find them more attractive. And 'you'll just have to take my word for it' has got to be one of the lamest arguments in the history of lame arguments.

Are you the sort of woman who stops socialising with their single friends once you're married in case they try and lure your husband into their evil web the moment you've gone for a wee or something?

alot of single women do find married men attractive..well known fact..

Is that like the well known fact that children with SN are really shit to have in an NT school daftpunk?

Uh Oh......

is it a well known fact that you shoudn't drag other threads all over mumsnet?

Yes not good forum etiquette is it? but like Spicemonster I can't help but think about that thread whenever I see your name DP.

dittany...single women like married men...the excitement of taking somthing off another woman...they don't really want the hassle of a f/t partner...a married man isn't always hanging around...quite a few reasons..

Yes you're right, it is bad form. It's also bad form to make asenine sweeping statements about a group of women.

Like 'all married women are frigid and don't put out which is why their husbands are always chasing pussy'. Stupid and insulting isn't it?

Actaully, of all the usual monogamists could untwist their knickers for a minute...
It's a bit harder than some of you appear to think to deal with a person who is sexually harassing you in the workplace It's harder still when it's a bloke on the receiving end because too many people still think that only men are predators an all women are victims. The OP's H is probably petrified of a) the woman claiming he harassed her first
b) not being believed
c) being percieved as a wuss, spoilsport or loser by his colleagues
d) feeling guilty about whether it's somehow his fault that he is being harassed (just like any victim of low-level harassment ie if the other person hasn't actually pulled your pants down then it's not assault etc).