To be annoyed with xDP for taking off the condom

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ok, I have been single for a long time but have still regularly sleeping with xDP, we have never used condoms and we had a condition that if we slept with anybody else unprotected we would tell each other and start using condoms.

Recently I ended up have unprotected sex and told xDP about this and he came over last night and we ended up getting together, we used condoms but when he was taking me from behind he took off the condom.

Then I got annoyed with him for being so stupid, I was still annoyed at myself for being so stupid, and was lecturing him about STDs and had a go at him and he said it wasn't all his fault, which I felt very about because I still love him and wanted to wear a condom because I didn't want to risk passing anything on.

so, AIBU to be annoyed at him?
And is he BU to think that it is partly my fault when I didn't even want him to have unprotected sex with me?

You don't have to tell him anything about any new men. You have split. He is controlling you again. The best thing you can do is only contact him about the children and change the subject if he asks about your life.

He is very controlling and there are still signs of you defending him in this thread. You have to make a decision to stop seeing him, not just becuase someone else tells you to or because you should but because you want to, there is a difference and this is probably why you have had him back the other times.

You need some RL help to keep strong.

You can do it.

He hs upped the pace and is now texting my every few mins, nd ws yesterdy, i hve asked him a few times to delete my number, but he sys he will then i still end up with texts

I m on payG but hve pid for my texts and clls for next month and don't want to (and can't relly afford to) just waste them, i wonder if i can just change my number

he is trying lots of different ngles, from telling me if i loved him i wouldn't do this, that i hve never loved him, that i hve used him, that he is going to find someone else to use him, telling me if i don't come back he will go off with someone else, i m tired of it.

Just delete the texts without reading them and ignore the bloke. Let him find someone else. You need to make your mind up as to whether you want this bloke in your life or not. If you don't then put your phone on silent so the texts don't disturb you and delete them without reading them and stop thinking about him.
He sounds childish and tiresome.

tmi

Grrrrrr- He is a SHIT, he will never change because men like him don't. The only thing you can do is protect yourself from him by finally breaking away from him. Please recognise that he is more dangerous to you at the moment (emotionally at the very least)than any outside agency can possibly be- use them to help you break free from him. Call the police if comes to your house angry, and fgs do not let him in if he comes in a bad mood. Personally I would tell him to fck off for good and stick* to it. That's the only way you will ever get rid of him- ignore all texts, take the advice of others on here re phones etc, and start to get your own life.

My sister's bastard ex has now smashed her rear car window three times in a year (every time she refuses some demand of other), having given up on ever being able to control her again, but she has finally got the better of him. It has taken her 4 years though to get to this stage, and a huge amount of strength and resolve she never thought she had four years ago.

You too have that strength and resolve and you certainly deserve better than this arsehole.