In thinking BFing baby in a baby change with a queue outside the door is selfish and a bit mingin'.

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Went to a busy garden center today, dd had a poo. All the toilets had queues, even the disabled loo.

Stood in the queue for the baby change for about ten minutes, Mummy's and kiddies going in and out pretty quick. The couple in front of me had a girl about 4 months old (can't be sure but she was holding her head up strongly and was quite big).

They went into the baby change and after about 5 minutes the woman behind me told me to knock on the door. I said to wait another couple of minutes as it could've been a messy one. So another 5 minutes later the woman behind me tells me to knock on the door again, I was just thinking about doing it anyway. So I knock on the door and shout "Is everything okay?".

There was no answer so I knocked again. Still no answer so the woman behind me pushes past and hammers on the door, she shouts "Can you hurry up, there's a queue out here".

There's no answer so the woman grabs a passing member of staff who knocks then unlocks the door. I can see the woman sitting on the baby change counter feeding her baby while the man is sitting on the child toilet. The staff member just asks them if they are okay, closes the door and locks it again. The woman behind me is furious and hammers on the door shouting "This is a toilet not a bloody feeding room". Then she stands behind me as the couple come out. The mum who was feeding glowers at my dd and says "She should be using a toilet by now anyway". I say "What? She's 2" and because I'm annoyed that she's picked on my dd I say "Feeding your baby in a toilet is disgusting and bloody selfish". Then I slam the door before she can reply.

I change dd at light speed and head out, the couple are looking at cards right outside the door to the toilets and she calls me a twat when I walk past. I make a show of covering dd's ears and say loudly "Don't you dare swear in front of my daughter". Everyone looked at her in a very disapproving way.

So while I'm a huge advocate for bfing, having bf my dd until she stopped herself and will bf my ds thats due in August, I honestly think it's selfish to bf a baby in a busy baby change.

SHIT

The other day I saw a lady in Richmond put her child down to change her on the floor of a mixed public bathroom, without a mat mind you, which was all wet, disgustingly dirty with men and women coming out of the toilets almost stepping on the poor child. Generally I mind my own business but I almost felt sick to my stomach.

If this really happened I would say that you were all being as unreasonable as each other. I blame the heat.

ummm...that was selfish of her. She could have told the long queue that she would be at least 10 mins!

I BF my son and there is no way I would have done that. As it was a garden centre, I presume she had a car to BF in (I used to do that is I didn't want to feed in public).

I wouldn't have knocked on the door though or said anything to her. I would have left the Q and changed my child somewhere else probably.

Anyway, I think you were being reasonable it was selfish of her to hog the facilities for that long, especially as she hadn't told anyone and made them wait and wait!