ok...will try this again, aibu to be put off a school by the amount of children with SN?

[daftpunk]

posted this in education, (Pre-school, like the twit that i am).....my ds is due to start secondary school in 2 years so we're looking around already, i am a bit put off by a school with lots of SN children, as SN also means behaviour problems....i'm not sure if i am being unreasonable.

Yes of course YABU. Also ignorant, prejudiced, blinkered and narrowminded.

NEXT!

madbad is it sweet or salted popcorn?

back aganst the wall within 10 minutes...record for me...why can't you just try and understand me.?

"oh god, can i not ask a reasonable question without being called a troll"

Yes you can. However I think you must now surely realise that this isn't what other posters consider to be a "reasonable question"!

I will answer seriously even though I think you are just being an arse

If a school has a high number of SEN or SN it usually means the school sees the plusses of inclusion

The children will be supported well as if they weren't, the parents with the children with SEN wouldn't send them there. The non SEN will be more tolerant and accepting of people with SEN/SN and the community will be a better place

The top secondary in our borough is highly inclusive and has a much bigger than average intake of SEN/SN. The reason it is top is, it supports ALL children in all their needs. The inclusion works as it is carried out to perfection

SEN/SN covers a large group and you are ignorant in the extreme

You are being hugely unreasonable.

What is the school's ofsted like?

We do understand you DP. We just don't agree with you.

i'm just trying to do the best for my ds...that's all.

I'm sorry, have not reaD THE THREAD, BUT IS THE OP for real??

(will rtead thread now)

Why have you put in your title "will try this again"? Have you already asked this question?

And don't play the "nobody understands me" card, you are intelligent. You absolutely KNOW that you are winding people up, upsetting people. Trouble is, that gives you a kick doesn't it? You get enjoyment out of offending and upsetting people. I wonder how long before you are booted off Mumsnet?

daftpunk, most mothers would understand if you had concerns about your child's education but not when you are speaking so derogatory about children with special needs.

rhubarb, i posted this originally in education, but wrong section.....i don't want a fight over this.....honestly.

Dp I think you need to look closer into what the school achieve, how they achieve and go see it for yourself and ask questions. just like we do for all schools.

then make your mind up for what is best for your situation.

Look - if you are trying to do your best for your DS, then rather than posting ignorant and inflammatory comments on AIBU you should be going out and visiting schools and making an effort to find out which one is genuinely going to suit your child's needs. The proportion of SEN children in a particular school is neither here nor there, it is how well the school is educating ALL it's pupils -NT and SN - that should be your concern.

Is there another question you are really asking? Like: what does SN mean? What impact does a child with SN have on school life? How are children with SN integrated within the school?

Well go and find out more if you are concerned, DP.
A child in my son's class is labelled SN because she has a colostomy bag.
My son is far more likely to cause a disruption in class to be honest, and he has no SN/SEN that we know of at the moment.

Well said Rhubarb.

My experience of working with SN children was a good one.

My experience of working with children with behavioural problems was a different, interesting and challenging one!!!

My son is going to experience, meet and learn how to react to, respect or ignore all kinds of behaviours. And I hope his peers and friends he chooses are well behaved, nice kids, SN, SEN or not.

So if you are trying to do your best, have you looked at the Ofsted report, have to found out what SN issues you are looking at here with this particualr school?

"as SN also means behaviour problems"

From that comment alone I somehow doubt it. You seem to have just jumped to a (ill-informed and prejudiced)conclusion.

thank you LGP

Daftpunk... it's ok to say that you only want to do the best for your children, but how is posting a deliberately antagonistic thread achieving that?
You don't want dc in a school with sn children, don't send them, it's your choice. However, do it quietly without offending and antagonizing.

Why should we try and understand someone who has no willing to understand, empathise, or educate themselves about others?

Well, my DDs class has 1 boy with SEN/SN and the school is wholly inequipped to deal with him. Refuses to accept his statement and won't provide one-to-one (as per on statement) yet wants to expel everytime he 'plays up'.

I would prefer a school that acknowledges SN/SEN and can cope, rather than ours that sees itself too good to have "unruly children"

You need to check that the school is providing good teaching standards to all, no matter what.