to think that my darling teen niece has lied about something so serious she has potentially ruined someones career?

[ReesiRoo]

My lovely neice is 13 years old. Since the start of secondary school at age 11 she has been bullied. Although it has been all verbal and never violent, it has had a huge impact on her life and i've seen her go from a bubbly, confident girl to one who sits in her room constantly and doesn't know how to communicate anymore. It got to the point where DNeice was getting abuse from most of the kids in the class at every lesson, at break time, walking home from school, so it was happening several times a day. She is very bright but hates school or anything remotely academic as a result of the bullying.

My sister (neices mum) knows all about the bullying but has as much told her to get on with things and tell the kids to fuck off. Easy enough if neice was like that, but she is so painfully shy, it is never going to happen. I have thought about going into school to sort it for neice, but I didn't want anything bad to come of it, like making it worse for her, or my sister and I falling out. My neice has asked sister to move school on so many occasions, but Dsis has always refused, just for an easy life I suspect.

So now after 2 years of this DNeice has made an allegation towards one of her teachers. I can't go much into it but the teacher has been suspended and police have been involved. Dsis is STILL making DNeice go to school while all of this is happening and somehow, the kids in her class have got to know about it and as you can imagine, her life is a living hell with all the questioning and pointing, and word spreads quickly, so most of her year know about it now.

Thing is, I think my neice's allegations are false. I completely understand her reasons for coming up with this allegation, she wanted a way out, a way to actually make sis send her to a new school as it was probably the only way for her to get out of this hell hole of a school. I don't know what to do. If I ask DNeice directly, she will think I don't trust her and I am really the only adult figure in her life who she sees as reassurance and trustworthy, someone to talk to (least I hope she feels that way). Please advise.

Not foolish Doris. Normal. And kind.

lol i knew i recognised your name from somewhere! my first instinct (and response) was that you were truthful but then i thought 'man, i wonder if it's that freak trying to manipulate again?' not that i mentioned anything about it on here. i feel a bit sickened that i doubted you, actually, especially as yours was such a good post. soz.

Doris, am being a bit dense

Word? Sorry don't follow

(have been on a first aid course all day and head is full of resuscing children)

I agree SGB. Obviously a lot of problems rather than just vindictiveness. Very sad.

don't worry aitch (and BLW going down a STORM, a STORM, I tell you, at the MIL's today, completely converted her)

I'd posted a whole lot about the rape and my mother on another forum, so it was fresh at my fingertips and I launched in. (Wine allowing...)

Doris, sorry you have been sucked into this sorry mess

BLW rocks, yes?

Aitch - did you see yet that the other thread, by ALLOGIRL, or whatever about MN not being the same was also a troll, same as this thread LOLA, AKA AnnainManchester, AKA Reesiroo?

boysarelikedogs

'word' just being a silly Ali-G type expression for 'you speak the truth, man'

BLW does indeed rock. I have a small weight baby and it's transformed what could have been stressful, into play and fun and surprise that she does, yes, eats curried chicken, courgettes and avocado.

Oh no I have outed myself as being Old and Square

i think 'word' is what 'young people' say when they think another person has made a particularly apposite point.

blw good fun, i think. although dd2 a very different beast on that front i must say, more of a nibbler and a thrower. i'm glad she wasn't my first, but fortunately i know i have quite a bit of leeway (and she is a wee puddin').

hands BALD square tissue

AITCH - have you seen my earlier post yet?

i assumed allogirl was a troll, mind you i perhaps wrongly assumed she was lola.

(what with it being one of those things, lola, allo, what's that again?)

She was lola.

i was ANSWERING IT, you bossy mare.

not her most cunning disguise i don't think.

LOL Anagram?

'maybe she had been bullied herself and wanted to see how mums would have dealt with it. or maybe she wanted to control and manipulate people because she felt she wanted revenge.'

Or maybe he/she is just a sick, twisted fuck.

that's the fella.

technically that was a response to syc, but it has some resonance with expat's post also...

so when they ban people, i take it they just can't post but can log on?

Yes, they can still read. Before I registered for talk I used to read a lot of threads. She'll still be reading this no doubt.