to think that my darling teen niece has lied about something so serious she has potentially ruined someones career?

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My lovely neice is 13 years old. Since the start of secondary school at age 11 she has been bullied. Although it has been all verbal and never violent, it has had a huge impact on her life and i've seen her go from a bubbly, confident girl to one who sits in her room constantly and doesn't know how to communicate anymore. It got to the point where DNeice was getting abuse from most of the kids in the class at every lesson, at break time, walking home from school, so it was happening several times a day. She is very bright but hates school or anything remotely academic as a result of the bullying.

My sister (neices mum) knows all about the bullying but has as much told her to get on with things and tell the kids to fuck off. Easy enough if neice was like that, but she is so painfully shy, it is never going to happen. I have thought about going into school to sort it for neice, but I didn't want anything bad to come of it, like making it worse for her, or my sister and I falling out. My neice has asked sister to move school on so many occasions, but Dsis has always refused, just for an easy life I suspect.

So now after 2 years of this DNeice has made an allegation towards one of her teachers. I can't go much into it but the teacher has been suspended and police have been involved. Dsis is STILL making DNeice go to school while all of this is happening and somehow, the kids in her class have got to know about it and as you can imagine, her life is a living hell with all the questioning and pointing, and word spreads quickly, so most of her year know about it now.

Thing is, I think my neice's allegations are false. I completely understand her reasons for coming up with this allegation, she wanted a way out, a way to actually make sis send her to a new school as it was probably the only way for her to get out of this hell hole of a school. I don't know what to do. If I ask DNeice directly, she will think I don't trust her and I am really the only adult figure in her life who she sees as reassurance and trustworthy, someone to talk to (least I hope she feels that way). Please advise.

I am a rape victim. I've also tried to kill myself as an indirect result of it.

Can I ask why you doubt her? I ask because my mother didn't believe me when I told her I was raped on my year off in Russia.

But, that asked, I agree with scary teacher's advice. If you feel hinky (I don't know you so can't tell if there are any issues between you and your sister and niece or whether you doubt her for any other reason) there may be a reason and too much is at stake.

Oh, it's VERY likely that a 13 year old are able to make that thought process dittany

I am a rape victim. I've also tried to kill myself as an indirect result of it.

Can I ask why you doubt her? I ask because my mother didn't believe me when I told her I was raped on my year off in Russia.

But, that asked, I agree with scary teacher's advice. If you feel hinky (I don't know you so can't tell if there are any issues between you and your sister and niece or whether you doubt her for any other reason) there may be a reason and too much is at stake.

Oh, it's VERY likely that a 13 year old are able to make that thought process dittany

Oops, sorry posted twice

Blimey. Read the whole thread now. So it's a troll?

sorry doris. a sick individual who feeds on other people sharing their stories.

very sorry about this, doris.

You know, I belong to a few different forums, but this place has the most trollery by far This is the first time that I've come across a troll outing themselves, though, and then trying to cover it up with a story my 8 year old son would pull holes in

I read this and I feel incredibly lucky. Because I have never been through what so many of you have been. And I feel cross that I have to feel lucky. It shouldn't be lucky, it should be normal

oh well dittany, i assume mnhq are onto her by now, even if it might take until monday for action to be taken. all of them. i presume this has been reported, btw?

what irks is emotive topic inciting someone else to respond

and then probably getting a hit reading it

I have reported.

I ask what I asked last week.

What do you do when you get a feeling that someone isn't genuine?

The very first posts I read from Lola gave me a bad vibe and tbh I would hide all her threads and very very rarely post on them.

I made one comment about her leading a dramatic life and was shot down. No one got the hint.

I have reported to MNHQ in the past but have lost faith to be honest as 99% of the time I get the no evidence is a troll, better to see how it pans out, etc etc.

I reported this hours ago btw.

Lola did not troll under her own name, not like this. She came across as a very naive person.

reported here too

is dorisbonkers lola too?

I remember a poster coming on saying her DH had beaten her for not cleaning the house, we all went
She then said she was pregnant, we all went
She then said she was in laborer and was waiting for her mum to take her to the hospital and would we "talk" to her while she waited, we did.

She then came back the next day said she had had a baby girl called her Hope and she was in SCBU very sick, she had a photo and everything

She was a troll, a sick sick troll but she was good.

Now when I see threads along the lines of the above I do this face it makes you distrustful of posters and someone who really needs the help and support that is so freely given her most of the time may get shouted down as a troll and not get the help they were so in need of.

only mn know, i suppose. and lola.

I am sure Lola posted on some threads I have been on / started and was quite sane and un-troll like

After quite a lot of digging around we've found some behind the scenes evidence that all is not quite what it seems here - so we're inclined to agree with many of you that Lola is in fact a troll rather than a showgirl.

As a result we've banned Lola (plus Resiroo and MySilencedPast). Thanks to everyone who reported this.

Thanks for the update Justine.

thank you justine