to think it strange that MIL is booking a family hols for her, DIL, DH and his brother and to not invite me and DD?

[dol1y]

We get on pretty well and I don't think its a malicious attempt to exclude us it just seems a bit strange. It also means DH will have to use annual leave and I will be on my own with 5mo DD for the time they are away. DH will be expected to pay his share for the accommodation etc at a hotel - we are struggling to get a week away in Wales in a caravan over the summer! I don't think its malicious but it does seem a bit thoughtless. So... AIBU??

[warthog]

WHAT HAPPENED??????????

[FlappyTheBat]

another bump

[JetLi]

YANBU - Jeez I thought my MIL was baaaaaad!

[radstar]

Have read parts of the thread, so sorry if someone covered this. But I don't understand why MIL doesn't want her grandchild to go? In my experience (and it seems the experience of a lot of people on here)they can't keep their hands off new grandchildren!?!

I would be really hurt by the exclusion of her as well as not liking by excluded myself, your DP should say "no thanks, its either all of us or none of us"

Hope you sort it x

[dizzydixies]

did we ever get an update re this?

[NanaJo]

YANBU at all!! I thought I was the only one who had had this bizarre experience! Years ago my in-laws gave as Christmas gifts, tickets to Hawaii for themselves, my DH and his two older sisters. They excluded myself and two bils! They said they wanted to have a holiday with just their original family unit! Mind you, these were all adults in their 30s with seven young children between them. I was both hurt and appalled. Fortunately my DH refused to go without me, as did one of my sils. In the end my inlaws went by themselves. My mil, especially, was very angry and bitter about this for a long time. She blamed me the most, for some reason. Your DH should simply tell them he won't be going on any holiday without you and your baby. He's a man, not a child.

[NetworkGuy]

There's a bit of a difference though NanaJo (not to take away from how silly the MIL was) because in your case the parents got the tickets, where with the OP, the MIL is not 'treating' them, but expects them to pay their share, so impacts on not just time with OP and family, but hits the OP's family savings on top of annual leave etc etc.

[diddl]

So your DH, an adult, wants to go on holiday with his brother, Mum(my) & Dad(dy)?
That he´s cionsidering it should be grounds for divorce!

[Blackduck]

On the other hand having just suffered Disneyland Paris with dp, ds, mil and fil and the rest of his family I would not have been the least bit offended if I had not been invited (in fact I was looking for every excuse!)