to be annoyed at this new term of 'full time mum'

[blondie80]

i know i'm not being unreasonable.

a woman on that lottery 1-100 show on sat night referred to herself as a 'full time mum'

i take it she meant sahm instead.

i have no bones with anyone's choice as to what the do, sahm of wohm.

but... i was so annoyed i felt she was referring to wohm as - part timers??

does she forget that we do the same stuff as well as a full week at work!!

i was with my mother when we watched the show, and she has 4 dc who have left home, and says she is still a full time mum regardless.

ok rant over.

We all think about our kids most of the time, whether we work or we don't, don't we? It's just that a full time mum doesn't have any other job title she can use. A part time mum can use her job title to define her place in life, rightly or wrongly.

If you ask a man what he does, he'll say I'm a banker. He might later say he has children, but he'll define himself by his job role. The same may apply with with a woman in the same role. She'll say she's a banker first and then may mention she has children in a later conversation.

A lot of people define themselves by their job roles. A mum who is not in employment will do likewise. Her job role is to be a mum and that's what she calls herself. I really don't see the problem with that...

Yes, but if you pressed people, I'm sure they'd acknowledge that people do not cease to be parents simply when they are not with their children. That would be ridiculous. They probably don't think that about their working husbands/wives.

What they would argue, I think reasonably, is that if you go out to work (as I will), you clearly cannot do the job of mothering while at work.

It's the difference between "doing" and "being", I suppose.

YABU

For watching that Lottery 1-100 show. Tis pants.

Wot sqilly sez. Innit.

Of course mums are still mums when they're out
but I don't know about the term 'fulltime mum'
would an absent father still be a fulltime dad because he thinks about his children.

I like Noonki's post at 13.23

Is SAHM - an americanism - while we're on the subject - I know that's where I have heard domestic engineer also - from friends on the other side - lol.

yeah i agree that the lottery show is pants, was in my mum's house and it was on cause she likes it.

probably is an american term.

domestic engineer makes me laugh!

I always say 'I work in the home'. I tell you what, going out to work would be alot easier, I am constantly on the go.

I'm a full time mum.

That's what I am, and that's what I will carry on referring to myself as too. Other people can refer to themselves however they please, it doesn't affect me.

'If you refer to us as wohm, refer to yourselves as sahm'

So it's 'them' and 'us' then. Why do women hate each other so much?

Hi elling

blondie, how would you have prefered her to describe herself?
just out of interest.

You're not wrong, luvoneson! I'm almost looking forward to going back to work so that I can have a cup of tea or a poo in peace. Maybe even at the same time!

and blondie how do you describe yourself?

hope its not working mother

"I'm almost looking forward to going back to work so that I can have a cup of tea or a poo in peace"

I'd like to be a fly on the wall at your interview....
"and can you tell us, Penthesileia, why you want this job"

Lol at Penthesileia. I do remember that feeling of going to work for some peace.

I have just read the first and last few posts and to be frank I think the OP is being a little oversensitive.

Actually it's the same as me calling myself a librarian - I wasn't working as a librarian, but I still was one. I had my qualification & I was still paying my subscription to the bloodsuckers Library Association. But I was working as a mother.

Would anyone in paid employment, when asked what they do, say I'm a mum and a banker?

Or would you just say I'm in banking?

Doesn't that sum things up really???

Scotia, with respect i think you are being a bit touchy. Who cares what we are called. We are all mums so we are equal no matter what we do or what we call ourselves. Where's the sisterhood?

some of you have taken this way out of context.

small egg, it's not how i would like her to describe herself, it's that i took it that she implied only some mum's are full time mum's, which i don't agree with.

why do you 'hope' i don't describe myself as a working mother?? that is exactly what i am, a mother who works!

it depends on how the question is asked. depending on if i'm asked,

where do you work? town i work in
what do you work as? job title
who do you work for? employers name

blondie - your post at 14:03:
'all mothers are full time regardless of whether the work or not.'

I don't know any mothers that don't work.

So YABU to complain about this woman's use of language when you're being so loose with it yourself

But Blondie, she didn't say "I'm a full time mum.........unlike Blondie80"
She just described herself.

Well I just typed a lenthly reply pretty much sayng what squilly said but she has said it better than I could.

Chill out girls the sun is shining. Well it is in my neck of the woods

lol so are you saying full time mums don't work?

ifso i can assure you they do, very hard.

i cannot wait to become a working mum, ah lunch hours and breaks and days off and holidays.
bliss

op stop feeling to gulity and enjoy it.