To feel a bit put out at friends telling me, at the end of my impromptu visit, that they 'like to be telephoned before anyone pops in'?

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I'd understand if we'd turned up planning to stay for hours. But DS and I were in the area, and it would have seemed rude not to pop in for 10 minutes, IYSWIM. So we did, and they welcomed us in, and we chatted for 10 minutes in the garden - and then they said, "We prefer visitors to call before they pop in." They were washing up when we arrived.

Anyhow, I feel like a dog with its tail between its legs. I don't mind (in fact, rather like) friends descending on us for brief, impromptu visits - but that's me, I suppose. Were we being unreasonable to just pop in for a few minutes, unannounced?

@Moomoo75

Oh I HATE people popping in without notice including family. I think it's rude. I don't know if I would have said it like they did to you but maybe they are right to just say it as it is.

How did you find a 13 year old thread to reactivate?!

I like notice first -i don't like to be caught on the hop, and I often float around in my pants at home, so I don't appreciate impromptu visits 🤷

I don’t think I’ve ever seen a 13 year old thread resurrected before.

I hate unexpected visitors. I mean really hate them. Good on them for setting out their boundaries. It's ruder to turn up unannounced than not turn up at all. After all they wouldn't have known that you were in the area. What I don't know doesn't hurt me.

I really really don’t like folks popping in. Give me a call or text and the chance to decline. But turn up on my doorstep unannounced and I’ll feel awkward, put upon and will be taking measures to ensure I can avoid it happening again. You could have just text or ring in advance.

@RaskolnikovsGarret

I don’t think I’ve ever seen a 13 year old thread resurrected before.

Fgs, really. How annoying. I hate resurrected threads more than I hate unexpected guests. 😡

Are there rules about people popping into zombie threads without calling first?

I’m not sure what’s worse. An unexpected guest or a resurrected 13 year old thread!

I mean, i would have totally Been thinking the same as your Friends but i wouldn’t have the balls to say it, so kudos to them.

@Thunderduck

In my case practice putting on my happy face.

Same here. I have to get myself in the right frame of mind and become more outgoing than when I was probably walking around in a world of my own. I’m catapulted out and have to TALK.

I love my friends and one is a very occasional popper inner and I never feel at ease. I need to prepare myself

Wth dug this up? Bones are dust man

yabu why would you not check first? I think its weird to turn up unannounced and wouldn't like it at all!

@gamerchick

Wth dug this up? Bones are dust man

Shall we take bets on how many posters ignore the date of the OP and all subsequent posts in order to bestow their precious thoughts upon us all?

They’re my heroes tbh! I hate people turning up unannounced.

Good for them for having boundaries.

Ooh there's one already [thumbs up]

Two!

OMG! What is it with all you house proud people, don't you realise that friends pop in, because they want to see YOU and don't give a shit what your house looks like? This 'make an appointment' attitude speaks volumes about why society is the way it is these days.

Half the unexpected poppers-in from the start of this ancient thread are probably pushing up daisies. And still popping in supernaturally, moving small items around the possessing the baby monitor.

Someone has resurrected the thread that appears to be the birth place of the MN concept of “boundaries”.

You couldn’t have called 5 mins before to check it was ok? I would honestly hate someone just popping in as chances are the house will be a mess, I wouldn’t be wearing a bra etc etc. Surely even for people who are always neat and tidy they might be feeling under the weather, about to sit down to eat, scrubbing the bathroom etc etc. That being said I wouldn’t be rude enough to tell them!!

This thread was started two years before I found MN How lovely for it to be resurrected for no reason.

Oh hell no. The thought of anyone, including family, just 'popping by' fills me with anxiety. I hate welcoming people into my home without having a chance to freshen the house up, ensure no confidential docs are visible etc.

I’m one of those people who cannot stand anyone coming around unannounced, it’s polite to call beforehand so they can get prepared/ready. If I’m having a lazy day I’ll be in some fresh pjs/joggers, I really don’t want any unexpected guests if I’m not dressed for it or if I haven’t done the housework yet etc.

@EmpressaurusWitchDoesntBurn

Are there rules about people popping into zombie threads without calling first?

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