To be so upset and angry because of complaint about my friend breastfeeding?

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My friend and work colleague had a DD 6 months ago. We both work in a primary school.

Several weeks ago my friend visited her old reception class in school. The class topic has been 'Growing' ang the reception teacher thought it would be nice for my friend to bring her DD in during the lesson where they would be talking about babies.

I've just had a phone call from my friend and I'm really angry at what she told me.

Apparently at the end of the lesson in school my friend needed to feed her DD and so sat quietly in the reading corner away from the children while she BF.

Friend had a call from the head on Friday telling her that a parent has complained about her BF'ing in front of the children

This parent said that her DS had said he had seen Mrs "boobies" and had been a bit giggley about it.

The head is being lovely and only spoke to my friend about purely to let her know what has happen and as far as I know this parent has been put in her place.

I am just so shocked that this parent could do this. I know the parent in question and the more I think about it I#m getting more and more angry!!!!

I am sorry you had troubles bf, but other's people's issues are not my problem are they? If a mother is simply getting on with it, it matters not one jot what anyone else thinks or feels.

By discussing suncream etc I was simply stating that legislation is stupid and the system is ridiculous. what you are failing to see is that i am in support of the baby being bf. . . . just i know what bloomin loop holes you go through in school ...... my friends daughter is in yr6 and the amount of information and permission slips the parents were given about sex ed was ridiculous. instead of parents trusting schools to do the right thing the school had to check the parents were happy before doing anything and give specific details of what each lesson would consist of. THE SYSTEM IS RIDICULOUS!!!!! My dd ws a nightmare and whatever way i fed her is irrelevant.... if she needed feeding i would have fed her in the middle of the street if i had to..... whether bottle or bf!!!!!!!

"oh sorry. We will make sure she grows that back before coming on air, how inconsiderate of her"

Yes, misguided, self centred and stupid.

I am not upset.... i find it amusing that some people are getting so uppity.... but thanks it has taken my mind off my morning sickness!!!!!

I have absolutely no idea what you are talking about scm.

YOu did say you were quite upset though which I thuoght would be a shame that's all.

I don't understand what ou're arguing then sparkly, I thought you meant that bf mothers should have to pander to uncomfortable parents?

uppity?
uppity is dictating how and when someone else's child gets fed!

you're obviously

i just dont like people making me question my opinions and feel bad for saying my bit. I respect everyones opinions on here!

This is AIBU. Opinions are going to be questioned, sorry.

I respect opinions by questioning them.

Do you think parents who feel uncomfortable about bf should take precedence, or the baby who needs feeding? That's what it comes down to, ultimately.

SCM;

you have to be prepared for your opinions to be questioned...rule no; 1.

wasting my education...... not at all but just perhaps give the parents no scope for arguing by pre empting their issues and telling them straight!
Uppity was simply a light hearted way of saying getting on one.

Hang on, why should parents be asked if they mind their child being in a room with a baby who is being bf? Will that apply with bottles too?? Fuck sake this is pathetic. My 21month old knows that ds is having 'ninnins' (dindins) when i am bf him. if certain parents are so far stuck up their own arses that they dont want their pfb being 'exposed' to a woman doing the most natural thing in the world, then, in all honesty, they need to drag their kids out of school and never let them do anything at all. i am stick to the back teeth of pathetic people who think women dont have the right to feed their baby wherever, and whenever they want. and some of you on here ought to be damned right ashamed of yourselves!

No one is interested in making you feel bad for saying your bit, that is not fair on the thread. You don't have to question your opinions if you don't want to. Just fold your arms and stick your chin out like my dh does.

But questioning my own opinions keeps me humble, rounded, grounded, mad, bad and dangerous to know. It is part of being an enlightened individual.

I can question my own opinion and still think everyone else is a nutter and I should rule the world. What with my opinion being right an' all.

What else would you prewarn them about?
The problem is that you're singling breastfeeding out, which reinforces the idea that it's unusual or unacceptable.

I have never posted on a thread like this before. I dont mind people offering a different point of view but there is a way to do it. stealth.... just read what i have put and you will see that of course the baby needed feeding but perhaps it could have been discussed in the lesson and perhaps been a teaching point where the children learnt the correct name for 'boobies' etc.... i have had all this discussion with my dd and i personally WOULD NOT have an issue with it happening bang slap in front of her.

spm - it may make you quake interest you to know if you are new to mn, that this has kept quite cool I think. It could have gone with a mushroom shaped cloud and a bang. There can be some right old humdingers around here.

Then everyone chats about Lost on another thread or whatever. It's all good.

Or maybe you have been around years and I am being patronising, sorry!

If a baby was bottle fed in class i would expect the teacher to discuss that some babies are breast fed and give the other side of the story aswell. tree..... think my pregnancy hormones are flying high sorry!!!
In my last reception class a little girl lifted up her top and pretended to feed the dolly.... and actually i have seen boys doing it...... but some kids still gave the baby a bottle!!

scm - I have nearly been in tears on threads, and I'm miss not confrontational pants. I'd turn to blubber in some debates.

Heartened my dd1 not only child getting her 'little boobies' out at school.

HAve been on here a while but avoid anything too controversial but i think people often respond without really reading what you have said.... also typing message is so different to having a conversation face to face..... i have written many text messages which have been taken the wrong way etc.

My dd asked me if i was having a baby the other day because she said ....Your boobs must be full of milk because they are MAFFIS!! (Massive) She doesnt know i am pregnant but asked me if i ever have a baby can she try some of mummys milk. Shall i open a debate about that!!!!

Raisingrill I'm not quite sure what point you're trying to make by posting up a photo of a baby being breastfed addressed to me in particular.

Perhaps you could enlighten me because it's gone somewhat over my head I have to say.