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To be so upset and angry because of complaint about my friend breastfeeding?

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memoo · 17/05/2009 14:59

My friend and work colleague had a DD 6 months ago. We both work in a primary school.

Several weeks ago my friend visited her old reception class in school. The class topic has been 'Growing' ang the reception teacher thought it would be nice for my friend to bring her DD in during the lesson where they would be talking about babies.

I've just had a phone call from my friend and I'm really angry at what she told me.

Apparently at the end of the lesson in school my friend needed to feed her DD and so sat quietly in the reading corner away from the children while she BF.

Friend had a call from the head on Friday telling her that a parent has complained about her BF'ing in front of the children

This parent said that her DS had said he had seen Mrs "boobies" and had been a bit giggley about it.

The head is being lovely and only spoke to my friend about purely to let her know what has happen and as far as I know this parent has been put in her place.

I am just so shocked that this parent could do this. I know the parent in question and the more I think about it I#m getting more and more angry!!!!

OP posts:
ninamag · 18/05/2009 10:07

I went to small school in Spain when I was a child. My headmistress used to live next to school, her mother looked after her children when she was at work. Whenever she needed to feed her baby she would simply pop in with the baby and my headmistress would feed the baby, whether she was in a meeting, teaching or anything else. I am still close friends with most of my classmates and funnily enough all of us have breastfed our babies wherever or whenever we wanted to. Looking back I think this is the biggest gift that she taught me. No parents or children ever complained it was just normal.

OlympedeGouges · 18/05/2009 10:11

that's lovely ninamag.

Rubyrubyruby · 18/05/2009 10:12

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JoPie · 18/05/2009 10:15

Depends on where on the continent...in France you are completely bizarre if you BF past 3 months, and past 6 months you are practically sectioned!

AitchTwoOh · 18/05/2009 10:17

aah, that's lovely nina.

dp i'm intrigued and a bit repulsed by your worldview. i think it is more mainstream than i care to admit. and UKIP... christ.

InternationalFlight · 18/05/2009 10:20

what H said...

Boco · 18/05/2009 10:21

I think DP's world view is very mainstream - only on mn does it really stand out as unusual and different. And I think her view that she's just speaking Common Sense and FACT also v. representative of right wing / daily mail opinion.

InternationalFlight · 18/05/2009 10:22

In fact I think DP will look back on the kind of cr*p she's spouting now with some wincing, in a few years when her adolescent idealism has been cruelly shafted by, erm, educative happenings. Well, one can hope.

JoPie · 18/05/2009 10:24

Except she's pushing 40, IF!

AitchTwoOh · 18/05/2009 10:25

she's late thirties, apparently, IF. she's stuck now, she'll not be learning another thing thank you very much.

AitchTwoOh · 18/05/2009 10:25

(sorry dp to talk about you like you're not here).

MillyR · 18/05/2009 10:27

Boco - I am really surprised by that! I always think of MN as being quite right wing. I am not saying you are wrong, but it just concerns me that I must live in such a bubble because a lot of the views on MN seems so extreme compared to the views that seem to be held locally to me.

OlympedeGouges · 18/05/2009 10:30

I agree Boco sadly.

daftpunk · 18/05/2009 10:31

do you know what fascism is?

it's forcing people to except an ideal...

you are forcing me to except something i don't agree with.

MillyR · 18/05/2009 10:34

You are not being forced. There is no gun to your head and you are not going to be sent to prison. Your posts have not been deleted.

AitchTwoOh · 18/05/2009 10:35

well, no, that's not it at all. i'm really interested in your opinions and why you hold them, but you just won't hold them up to the light for us. you keep avoiding the difficult questions on here, tbh, and are now positioning yourself as a victim of fascism. it's not on, tbh.

RedOnHerHead · 18/05/2009 10:35

Daftpunk - do you have children, and if so, what are their ages?
I'm just wondering what your views would be if they came to you and told you they were gay - and how would you feel then if your views were to deprive them of a family?

I have gay/lesbian friends - My one friend got pregnant very young because she forced herself to be with a man because of being scared of homophobic opinions. She is now engaged to a lovely woman and they are both happy and are raising her DS(10) so well. He is so polite, knows right from wrong etc..... and I see no problems at all.

Another friend (male) lives with a man and is desperate for a family. He loves children and wants to be a father. If they can do the job better than some heterosexual parents, then why deprive them of that. They can foster regardless of their sexual orientation.

Daftpunk - people shouldn't stay in relationships for the children - it doesn't work like that. They pick up on the negativeness in the relationship and it does them no good at all. I would rather grow up in a home with one parent or gay parents than a home with argueing heterosexual ones.

JoPie · 18/05/2009 10:35

And you want to ban gay people from having children, and assert marriage as an ideal, and have some very odd ideas about what to do with immigrants....thats facism, not someone disturbing your narrow minded worldview by breastfeeding in front of you.

You should be ashamed of yourself calling othes facist with the shit you come out with.....

OlympedeGouges · 18/05/2009 10:36

er, how are we forcing you? Are you in prison? Is your life in danger? Please don't bandy terms around like that, it is distasteful.
Making unreasonable statements and having most people disagree with you is not fascism dear.

Boco · 18/05/2009 10:38

DP there's a big difference between forcing and challenging. If you read something you think is fundamentally wrong, you challenge it, which is what people are doing with you, and what you have been doing back, it's debate, not fascism. And actually although I don't agree with what you believe at all, I have to respect you for sheer bloodymindedness in coming back and sticking to your views

treedelivery · 18/05/2009 10:42

Back to boobs - i love 'em.

Having had a muse, when I ought to have been parenting, the whole 'where a baby can get his dinner' boils down to this imo

Why shouldn't a bubba get his dinner when he wants it?
Why should he have to eat it in a toilet?
Why should he have to be moved before he gets lunch?
Why should he have to hide to eat?
Why should he eat with a blanket on his head? I don't.
So what if someone he has never met and doesn't care about doesn't want to see him have dinner?
Who cares what a 3rd person thinks?

Why should the baby compromise?

[obviously a mother may decide to do one of the above, but a baby couldn't give a rat's ass if he feeds on his head, he just wants the milk]

So really, what's the debate? x has their opinion, y has theirs, and z needs lunch. Lunch will always come first for me

AS to the whole gay parenting debate, at least it saves us all having to intellectual brain time to the UKIP - Gross generalisation, but they do it all the time so I will return the favour - UKIP seems to be against differences in the social imagined construct of 'norm', given the debate here, and as I hate all that bad karma I can toss their leaflets in the bin. Hurrah!

whatwouldyoudothen · 18/05/2009 10:56

God I'm confused.

So it's ok for children to see a baby being breastfed as long as they are from an umarried or same-sex home because they're fucked anyway.

Is that right?

RedOnHerHead · 18/05/2009 10:56

I think someone mentioned about 100 posts ago that the law is now on our side regarding breastfeeding in public????
Maybe you should take a look at Morgan's blog to see that this new equalities bill isn't all it's craked up to be.

Habbibu · 18/05/2009 11:04

dp, you were trying to get me to accept your take on the world as fact on the feminist books thread, iirc...

daftpunk · 18/05/2009 11:07

aitch;

are you deliberately mis-reading me?

i said earlier i'm not a fascist....i would be 4th on their hit list list.

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