To be so upset and angry because of complaint about my friend breastfeeding?

[memoo]

My friend and work colleague had a DD 6 months ago. We both work in a primary school.

Several weeks ago my friend visited her old reception class in school. The class topic has been 'Growing' ang the reception teacher thought it would be nice for my friend to bring her DD in during the lesson where they would be talking about babies.

I've just had a phone call from my friend and I'm really angry at what she told me.

Apparently at the end of the lesson in school my friend needed to feed her DD and so sat quietly in the reading corner away from the children while she BF.

Friend had a call from the head on Friday telling her that a parent has complained about her BF'ing in front of the children

This parent said that her DS had said he had seen Mrs "boobies" and had been a bit giggley about it.

The head is being lovely and only spoke to my friend about purely to let her know what has happen and as far as I know this parent has been put in her place.

I am just so shocked that this parent could do this. I know the parent in question and the more I think about it I#m getting more and more angry!!!!

DP, I agree with you about the 'who will they come after next' idea. I was not at all surprised by the BNP rape comments, because I just presume they are against the liberty of many people, not just the group they are currently targeting.

What evidence do you have that your views are normal and mainstream, Daftpunk?

DP, I spent a fair few years in a abusive marriage. My ex was also verbally abusive to our DC.

I am now living with the most wondeful man I ever met and I'm 5 months pregnant.

My children love my DP, and he is a wonderfully positive presence in theirs lives.

Based on your argument do you think my DC were better off when I was married to their father?

Can I just refer people to my earlier post in which I said that there is no difference in sexual awareness between a gay and a straight person in childhood? I was very clear, or so I thought. I thought I would reiterate this, as people seem to be addressing their comments to me a la "Greeny, I know a child who is gay" etc

[Matthew Hopkins emoticon]

Sorry greeny I meantit in an I agree with you sorta way LOL

Yes, I agree that Greensneeze made it clear that she was not differentiating between children's awareness of being gay or straight.

oh ok

but you weren't the first!

Look I am not taking r4esponsibility for other peoples answers on MN PMSL, what sorts of trouble would I get myself into?

No no no!

memoo;

women and children need protecting from violent men...and as i said earlier, most women will be abused either physically or verbally in their own home, by their husband/partner...that has to stop...you were right to leave him.

if my dh admitted to an affair however, i wouldn't think my marriage was over, if he was truely sorry i would keep my marriage together.....for my dc.

Is it that easy DP? I'd try my best also but everything would change- the specialness would vanish, trust damaged- I'm not certain I could manage it in the longterm.

How good you are as a parent depends on many things and tehre isn't a set scale anyway, some are good at different bits. If my friend who is in his twenties, a primary teacher and also gay never gets to be a aprent it will be a damned shame IMO. Whereas there's many a straight person never should have procreted, It's dow to an awful lot of things nad gay / straight is the least of them. IMVHO.

So children are better off with married parents...except when they aren't?

Well thought out argument there dafty!

"my views are not actually that outrageous, quite mainstream infact....and i don't have any political leanings towards the BNP...because once they'd kicked out all the immigrants and banned homosexuality they'd come after the catholics...shut our schools etc.."

Are you saying that they are right on the immigrants and gays but would go too far with the catholics.....?

jopie;

i don't want to turn this thread into a warm up act for the nuremberg rally......it is pointless me saying anything.

Seems to me you don't actually have much to say, soundbites are pretty meaningless when you have neither the information or the understanding to back it up.

What - so most women will be verbally or physically abused by male partners, but that's the best environment for children?

DP - this is really sad - it seems to me (and my apologies if this isn't the case) that your resignation over men's and women's roles and behaviour stem from your own experience, and that that is universal. It really really isn't. My dad has never ever been physically or verbally abusive to my mum, and neither has my dh to me, or my BIL to my sister - it just doesn't have to be that way.

Daft Punk has triggered Godwin's law I'm afraid, so you'll have to carry on the discussion elsewhere. Why not start a thread with a title that's actually about married vs unmarried parents, then anyone who is interested can hide it join in the discussion?

jopie;

what is your point?

or are you pointless...

I don't know if that's true Greeny.Many people who are gay report they felt 'different' to their peers from quite a young age.

DP, I think jopie is saying that you don't back up your assertions with any evidence.

Can't you just answer her perfectly reasonable question DP?

Ooh clever dafty, deflect a sensible question with a half hearted barb...I applaud your genius.

Can't you answer a simple question? Can't you defend your opinions? Why not?

katiestar [bangs head]

I have said (repeatedly now) that I think gay people become awareo f their sexuality when they are children, just as heterosexual people do. In that sense there is no developmental difference - ie gay people don't find out later

I feel responsible for causing this confusion about Greensneeze!

Katiestar, I think what GS is saying is that some children are aware that they are gay, and some are aware that are straight, from an early age, and that both are equally valid.

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