to want Formula Feeding Mums to QUIT calling my BF dd tiny

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Nearly everytime we meet someone with a dc the same age as dd, they comment on how small she is compared to their large child.

She is bang on the 50 centile mark for both height and weight on the breastfed growth charts issued by the World Health Organization (but not on the formula fed charts currently used by the NHS).

The WHO charts plot the growth of normal human growth patterns, not the sped up growth of babies fed on bovine hormone infused milk.

AIBU to want people to be aware that normal-weight breastfed babies are not small for their age?

This is not a rant against FF, just one on those who use this as a benchmark for judging other children.

Ignorance sucks.

YABU

and spoiling for a fight

YANBU to be fed up with the 'tiny' comments, it must be grating.
However, please note that the standard charts are not based on just ff babies, but on a mix of bf & ff. Otherwise you run the risk of getting the ignorant tag thrown back at you!
Both my (bf'd) dc were right at the bottom of the charts for weight so I can sympathise with the constant digs.

DH and I had a conversation last night where he mentioned that a new thing had been introduced where breast fed babies and ff babies are measured on different charts. Apparently this was all over the news.

I was as in my DS2's red book there were separate charts for FF and BF babies, as there were for boys and girls; the unwanted pages were just torn out. I am looking at it now, the graph page is entitled "breast from birth."

Perhaps it's just our area...

Mind you, I wonder what happens if you switch to formula after 3 months, presumably then the centiles on the graph become a bit misleading.

The WHO charts are due to make an appearance any day now in my part of the NHS (hurrah).

I'm forever getting told DS is 'small' for his age as he's 'only' on the 9th centile for weight - drives me barmy!

He is happy, alert & thriving - eats like a horse & on the go all the time!

Who cares what a blooming chart says - ARGH!

So no, YANBU!

Oh dear

YANBU for being sensitive about comments about your baby

YABU for your horrid rant 'babies fed on bovine hormone infused milk.' fgs

Urgh

I was very sensitive to my babies being called small when they were newborn.

One mum at the school gates said, Oh I wish I had had a tiny baby, both mine were whoppers, and I wanted to poke her in the eyes. But I know (and knew in my heart then too) that she was just chatting and was not being nasty, it was just that I was soooo sensitive.

YABU
why are you bothered what other people think? If you're happy and you feel you're baby's happy, then what should it matter to you what other people say? Wouldn't you rather people thought your little baby girl is petite rather than have them say she's a heffalump?
Suspect you just want to get a snitty thread going......

God, I know what you mean, I can't stand people who bang on about the size of their kids and so many people do. I've seen many poor first time mothers at weighing clinics left opened mouthed by some gobby woman comparing the size of her enormous baby to the the tiny one. I feel like saying, "It's got nothing to do with you, it isn't an achievement at all, it's called genetics, get a life"

sorry, YOUR baby

I can understand, my son is very tall and slender he is on the 50th centile of both b.f and ff babies yet when I say that in response to he looks awful skinny. I get yes but he is very tall. He is three now and people still say this. So I would try and get used to it. Reply with yes isn't she lovely and petite.

Does Formula speed up growth?

Really?

< wonders if this is why my babies were so feckin slow at doing everything >

YABU

What makes you assume all these people who make comments about your baby are feeding theirs on formula?

Ignorance does indeed suck.

You should be aware that the charts are being amended in England to buck the trend of breastfed babies been deemed underweight.

YABVU

your post is inflammatory and i speak as a mother who has breastfed two daughters, exclusively for the first 26 wks and now onto solids with the second. The first breastfed exclusively for 13 yes 13 months before accepting solids and I expressed a blooming lot of milk at work (full time) in order for her to have that. [preen]

you are using AIBU to boast, IMO.

There is nothing wrong with quietly pointing out that your dd is on the 50th to your friends so you are amazed that she looks small to them. End of.

Some babies just seem tinier than others.
My ds was always referred to as tiny even though, like yours, he was pretty much in the 50th centiles weight/length.

He was fed on bovine hormone infused milk.

I dont remember feeling quite so angry as you though, are you normally this stressed and easily upset?

oh, both my dd's have been on or below the 50% percentile all of their short lives but me and my mates don't spend much any time talking about their weights.

Like I said, just a rant for people who judge others without the proper information, nothing against ff.

Jack- thanks, meant to say bf & ff charts

BoysALD- "YABU for your horrid rant 'babies fed on bovine hormone infused milk.' fgs ----not a horrid rant: bovine=cow, hormone infused= hormones that remain in the milk. facts.

FM- I'd love to say that I'm not bothered by what other people think but day after day of the same ignorant comments really does start to make me doubt things despite what I read and know

Holy moly - if you've started down the competitive charts and statistics comparisons now...God help you when they start handing out the reading books in reception class...

YABU - get on with enjoying your dd and stop being paranoid about what other people say.

eugh @ bovine hormone infused milk.

you have killed off any chance of any sort of sensible discussion

and come back under your usual username.

troll coward.

Oh gawd. DD kept to her 99.7th centile "sped up growth of babies fed on bovine hormone infused milk" line very nicely while being breastfed. Clearly her growth was not that of normal humans...

AntiAnit - "Like I said, just a rant for people who judge others without the proper information"

Ermmm...Pot. Kettle. Black.