to think it is a bit bad to trick a dp/h into having another child

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Read a post on this lovely website and it has prompted me to ask - aibu to think it is wrong to con ( can't think of a better word)a dh into having another child when he has stated he doesn't want too? I just think it is morally wrong - I know it is none of my business but I am a bit
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I don't think thats the same thing though is it, that many posters are talking about?
Being upfront and saying that you will not take responsibility for contraception, will not have a termination etc, that hands over the responsibility to the man and it does become his problem. As long as he knows, thats not deceit.

The sperm-snatchers though are a different kettle altogether, the pretending to be on the pill, straight out lying types are the ones that are being judged I think.

Peachy, what fantastic goal-post shifting skills you possess. I shall leave it here as it's worthless discussing an issue with someone who says one thing and then later claims to have said something different.

Well I've said everything on my mind and I haven't said anything different. You're very demanding and I'm trying to make dinner. I've fessed up to the minor trickery with DP and said I don't think it's any sort of hanging offence to push things along in a stable relationship when your DH is intransigently delaying. I think marriage is a contract and if you go into it wanting kids together, then the other partner is very wrong to deny you them later. I think my friend was treated appallingly in this way. I have maintained all the way through that while I know it's not the right thing to do, it's totally understandable in some circumstances. You then applied my views to every situation which was a bit wearing frankly! I also believe the pill has cons for some people and think it was the law not just contraception that changed things for women.