to think it is a bit bad to trick a dp/h into having another child

[timmette]

Read a post on this lovely website and it has prompted me to ask - aibu to think it is wrong to con ( can't think of a better word)a dh into having another child when he has stated he doesn't want too? I just think it is morally wrong - I know it is none of my business but I am a bit
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And Im sure you're perfect, Mumcentreplus.

namechangealert, check which name appears at the bottom of your post, before you post it.

Not that I'd know anything about namechanging, or anything.

Still a little paranoid though! I love my usual name and have quite a few friends on here, plus a distictive writing style so I must shut up now!

And really Old Lady... no name changes ever?!?!

Good point Frosty

whistles innocently and goes to start cooking tea

I think you give us more credit than you deserve when you say you have a 'distinctive writing style'. I'm not sure I could recognise anyone from their writing style alone (unless it was you-know-who, but that would almost certainly be a fake).

You're right Frosty, in an ideal world no-one would be forced or bullied or cajoled or blackmailed into being a parent, male or female.

Namechangealert things worked out for you and that's good.
But personally I know if I did this it would destroy my relationship and the guilt I would feel would be enormous - but that is me and my relationship and we place a high value on trust and honesty. I do feel it's a joint choice to make as is contraception - but that's just me and not a personal attack on anyone and nor am I perfect - I just mess up in other areas .

Trill - you know me. I have disguised my style a bit. Who is ' you know who??? ' Is it, well, you know who?

Tim - and I agree. Wanted to put across the point that it does happen, and Im not some conniving scummy bitch. I'm just normal. I would not do it now, but I did then without a second thought, really. I dont know why. A long time ago now though...

If I strated wiritng liek thsi wluod uyo tinhk I wsa trynig to wirte liek smeonoe?

(God that's really hard work )

Am with you.

Behind the times, but what happened to her?

It was just before I joined, I made the mistake of asking who this person was and why every other thread was lamenting her loss (it was really boring and confusing for a newbie) and got shouted at and accused of being a namechanging evil person

Apparently got stalked by someone from RL (or maybe more than one person) who figured out who she was and was generally horrible and stalkery, both here and in RL. So left and got all posts deleted. MN Classics has some crazy gaping holes in threads that look like this:

Yes I'm perfect ...well at least when it comes to tricking blokes into having kids with me..

trying to work out if that was a really nasty dig, but cant be arsed to

Can I have a little at spermsnatcher?

@ Spermsnatcher,I quite like Spermnapper too..hey I just saying..she asked ..

Quite like sperm catcher...

I just wanted to bring a little balance to the thread. I ain't daft, I know it's not the done thing and it's a shameful thing to admit, hence why I have done it under anonymity- bit cowardly I know.

I'm not really ' ashamed ' as such. We have a lovely DD, it wasn't really all that ' cloak and dagger ' and I still believe , to this day, that, for me, it was the right thing. Like I said, I knew he would come round.

I am impressed that most of you have been measured in your response.. and now half wish that I had posted under my name.

Come back if you like and admit it either again or just come out.

I don't think Mrs Judgeyknickers and her cronies are waiting and ready to hound you off MN for this one.

slyly sharpens pitchfork

Who is Mrs Judgeyknickers??

Mrs Judgeyknickers = a hypothetical person who would, as the name suggests, be judgey and unkind to someone on other topics/threads as the result of a revelation of this sort.

I don't know if you are MrsJudgeyknickers, only you can answer that. I wasn't suggesting that you were.