Blimey! I go out to get some shoppping in (doors lock, key left in etc, so he can't get in ) seriously! NO food in the house.
I come back to find all you guys! Bless. That is all I can say right now.
Ok. mushy moment over. {pulls self together with big kleenex sniff}
Today I have:
Driven past 'his' house. Car there. Gone for a theraputic 1/2 hours angry ten pin bowling.
Driven past his house, again. Car still there This is half 12 by now. Curtains? Shut. Surprise surprise!
Gone to buy food. Kids enjoy this oddly enough. Well not the shopping but the eating of!
Gone to diy place and looked at new lock for front door. Bloody dbl glazing. Too much. Will leave key turned in door lock and use back door as he doesn't have that key.
Come home put food away.
Kids home from school.
Phoned very nice epople at the Police. Wanted to know exactly where i stand. Phew.
I then phoned removal firm to get his stuff and take it to him (really don;t want him back here!!!!!) Who are happy to come get his things for me. They are the same peoplewho moved me a few months ago. As he hung up it sounded to me like he would be more than happy do a little more than deliver boxes. Something along the lines of gutters, kneecaps and raised voices. His last words to me were (in his braod galswegian tones) see ya in the mornin and don;t worry we'll sort out something.
I stand very firmly within my rights to kick his sorry arse to the curb and leave it there. He does not have the right to reenter the house to collect his things unless I want him to. Even then I can get the police to be here when he does. And did I want to file a report for him being a 'domestically aggressive nuisance?' says the nice lady at the police helpline. Oh and don;t let him back in and really think about filing! says she 'unofficially.'
So here I am after floods of tears (sheesh, get a grip woman) to the police lady and fl;oods of tears after the removal man (blimey! kleenex are going to have to deliver a van load!) thinking that I have been very very very stupid this past year, especially as his 'ex' texted me this afternoon telling me he has been sleeping around constantly but I should be grateful that he keeps coming back to ME! And that 'this is just him, like it or not it's just the way he is' and if I loved him I would just take him back and get on with things as normal! Cheee-rist!!! Have I been lucky.
Of to STD clinic first thing next week and fingers crossed!!!!!! As well as knees!
trillian
Huge, enormous, grateful thanks for kick up the bum and comments.! Thank you. [hug]
paranoid
His daughter already knows what he is like, sadly, but it is hard when you are ten to do much about it! But thank you anyway.
nancy
Seriously?? Really seriously. NEITHER DID I!!! Glad I found them from somehwere. [phew]
pingviner
(great name btw!) A good nights sleeep? Haven't had one in years! Lol'd but it's the thought hat counts huh? The council will just laugh, but whatever happens will so what else can I do but put my hands up and take whatever they dish out. cest la vie!
Idrank
(another great name!) His things never got unpacked. So no probs there. Anyway it's not mmy problem as the removal men will ahve to sort that out! Poor guys. Don't envy them when they get there. Ouch. My ears'll be smarting from all the way over here!
auntyitaly
All I can say is: SPOT ON. All of your post. All of it. [big hugs]
caramel
You really know what you are talking about! What quals do you have?? Sounds like some sort of degree in there to me. Bit like him, only his is in reverse and up his own arse. Damn him and his NLP and whatever else he has. Twisted. Too twisted. No chance whatsoever of me changing my mind. It's done. I'm done. What's the saying fool me once shame on me? Well it's third time unlucky and he's the idiot looking stupid at the end of it all. I should put out a public health warrant on him!
drlove
It's gooten to me too! And always has. but all along? I'm being unreasonable! He is twisted. It's deeply sad. But thank you for your post. Oooo, chucking it out the window?? Nah, too messy. cahnces are he'd leave it there. It would be very satisfying. Do you think I could justtify an' accidental' setting fire tio his 'replica 1 12th scale models of the titanic' they are aboth VERY wooden!!!!? Burn well i Think!
Oh and the hair is very ISH. but then mine always are for a few weeks and then they turn out ok.lol
buda
I don;t have any relatives here. My brother lives in spain and it's only my mum after that. Small clan over here. The rest still live in Oz. But the police ahve said that they can be here when he does. I'm hoping the removal will just do it. can't afford it but really don;t want him coming round and scaring the children.
Sigh. Off to cook for 'starving' children. Honestly! Do they really need feeding alll that regularly????
Thanks everyone and sorry if I missed anybody out personally! Terribly blonde and just a little stressed out! Forgive me??
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