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to think some women marry into wealth on purpose!

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tryingtobemarypoppins · 23/04/2009 22:15

I am meeting LOADS of "yummy mummy types" at the moment who have married really wealthy men, now SAHM, driving flash cars who before didn't work in higly paid jobs.....so begs the questio, did they set out to acheive this or marry for love?????

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tryingtobemarypoppins · 23/04/2009 22:43

No I wouldn't leave my DH I love him way too much. It's just annoying!

Frayedknot......I drive a 7 seater Renault. Doesn't have quite the same bling!!

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Tryharder · 23/04/2009 22:45

It would be nice not to have to worry about money, to drive a nice car,have lovely holidays and not to wake up every morning and think "Oh God,I've got to go to work".

But, I think a lot of wealthy men have large egos which need massaging, they also expect "trophy" wives hence pressure on said wife to stay thin/young/groomed 24/7.

I dunno really. I have always earned my own money and there's a lot to be said for it: if you earn it yourself, noone can take it away from you or use it against you.

Nancy66 · 23/04/2009 22:47

My sister married her husband because she thought he would eventually be loaded. His dad was a successful businessman and absolutely minted - my brother in law is his only child.

Unfortunately the dad married some gold digging ho, and professional widow, two years before he died and she copped the lot!

In fairness my sister thinks it's funny and has stayed married for 20 years and appears happy despite ending up with a pauper husband that hasn't got a pot to piss in...

BCNS · 23/04/2009 22:49

it all depends on who you date.. now if you only date money.. you'll fall in love with money.. and both of you in theory would be happy

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tryingtobemarypoppins · 23/04/2009 22:50

Nancy66 that's the stuff of movie makers!

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DottedPyjamas · 23/04/2009 22:50

"I met a lady in the park today with her husband. When I ask her what he did she said he was at home with her full time as he had a private income?????!!!! What's that all about???? "

It means he may have income on property. Lots of people have income from property rental, and they aren't necessarily very rich.

FrayedKnot · 23/04/2009 22:53

I would probably have assumed he was a drug dealer.

TheOldestCat · 23/04/2009 22:56

Agree, BCNS. When I got together with DH, my then landlady (in her early 20s, daddy had bought her the flat) said, very seriously. 'well it's lovely that you're so happy but he'll never be rich because he's a journalist'. I was shocked - what the heck did it matter? And I felt sad for her - she would only countenance going out with minted blokes because that's who she wanted to end up with. Talk about limiting your chance at happiness.

But who knows? I'm hoping she found a lovely man, who just happened to be loaded. But I wonder whether she's changed her mind and widened her view of the world.

ravenAK · 23/04/2009 22:57

...& why the assumption that he should be working? Why not just wonder (if you must) how come both of the couple get to pootle around the park...

They could've been mates of mine actually. The dw was the earner whilst dh was a SAHD, then dh came in for a substantial property inheritance which coincided with his dw developing a chronic illness & needing to give up work.

twinsetandpearls · 23/04/2009 22:58

I did, he was a twat, we divorced I learned my lesson.

Nancy66 · 23/04/2009 22:58

my mum was feckin OBSESSED with the notion that I should try and marry a doctor - typical Irish mother - never actually considered that I should try and BE a doctor myself....!

MrsSchadenfreude · 23/04/2009 23:00

The expat wives that I used to associate with, and who had bagged rich hubbies were almost without exception:

thick

blonde

very well groomed

They absolutely could not comprehend that I was the breadwinner - did my husband not provide for me?

Sorrento · 23/04/2009 23:12

I would not have married a bin man put it that way
No matter how good looking, kind, wonderful he may have been I had certain standards and aspirations and needed somebody with at least equal earning potential to achieve those goals.
I did kiss a lot of frogs to find the intelligent man who could keep me in the style I intended to become a customed to.

TheCrackFox · 23/04/2009 23:13

Being thick, blonde and well groomed never did me any harm.

twinsetandpearls · 23/04/2009 23:15

Marrying a rich twat taught me that if I have aspirations or goals I need to get them for myself.

wickerman · 23/04/2009 23:18

as against accidentally?

Sorrento · 23/04/2009 23:19

Are all twats rich or are all the rich twats then T&P ?

twinsetandpearls · 23/04/2009 23:22

I didn't say either, I happened to marry a twat because he was rich. One of the many reasons I am now so ambivalent about money and perhaps why my partner has nothing and I earn the money.

I dont see the need for a man or woman to rely on anyone else for anything unless one of you has chosen to be at home with children.

Overmydeadbody · 23/04/2009 23:28

YANBU, some women do.

It doesn't matter though does it? Probably a safer way to choose a husband than the notion of romantic love and happily ever afters.

Quattrocento · 23/04/2009 23:29

STOP PRESS - some people marry for money ...

Overmydeadbody · 23/04/2009 23:31

bin men earn more than you'd think actually, it's not a job anyone could do.

Mumcentreplus · 23/04/2009 23:32

hmmm..it's a Employers market..they don't earn as much as they used to..

Sorrento · 23/04/2009 23:37

My cousin married a bin our lives are not comparable .... he's a lovely guy, but then so is my DH, I couldn't marry only for money but not many people do IMO

Sorrento · 23/04/2009 23:37

A bin man not a bin, that would be just silly

TheCrackFox · 23/04/2009 23:40

silly but funny.

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