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Original poster

to think that age 9 is too young to go the cinema in the evening without an adult ....?

501 replies

dicksbird · 19/04/2009 15:42

Just collected DD from a sleepover. She is 9 but friend she stayed with is 10 and another girl also sleeping over is just 10. They are all in year 5.

I knew there was some mention that a cinema trip may be involved but I wasnt specifically told beforehand.

Now I find out they were dropped outside the cinema at 6.30pm amd picked up at 8.30 from outside. None of them had a mobile phone !!

Mumsney jury what do you think ??? Am i just being silly ???

OP posts:
hayley79 · 19/04/2009 17:50

my son went to a friends house for halloween and they went trick or treating on their own which i didnt know... my son NEVER went to his house again

womblingfree · 19/04/2009 17:52

hayley - can understand that - I'd be fuming if my DD went somewhere and was allowed out trick or treating at any age TBH.

hayley79 · 19/04/2009 17:58

i know i didnt know they where going i just thought he was going 4 a party i do not let me kids out and he was 12

Original poster
dicksbird · 19/04/2009 17:58

the thing is when you have other peoples children to stay you are in parentus locus.

They let her do domething which I think is illegal and actually amounts to neglect.

If something had happened to one of them who is responsible ? Look at Holly and Jessica.

Actually typing this I feel quite sick.

OP posts:
hayley79 · 19/04/2009 18:00

my kids cry and everthing cause there mates are out playing and they r not allowed i have to explain to them time and time again that i am there mother and i will not let them out and it is up to other people what they do its a nasty world and people out there

BitOfFun · 19/04/2009 18:03

Oh FGS

It's FINE, OP.

OrmIrian · 19/04/2009 18:09

Yes you are being silly. They were being dropped off and picked up. Absolutely fine. But I guess you should have been told.

Why didn't any of them have a mobile?

TheProfiteroleThief · 19/04/2009 18:15

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piscesmoon · 19/04/2009 18:20

I really don't see what could go wrong. I thought from the start it was going to be late, but it was 6.30 to 8.30. I would expect that the finishing time had been worked out. If there was an emergency all they had to do was ask one of the staff to phone for them-they are not going to refuse 9 and 10 year olds.

SoupDragon · 19/04/2009 18:22

Knowing where our local cinemas are, no farking way would I let my 10yo DS be there alone at that time.

39and3quarters · 19/04/2009 18:23

YANBU My DD is 9 and I was surprised when she mentioned two of her friends had been to the cinema on their own recently - and that was in the afternoon! I've taken her and various friends to the cinema several times recently and always sat beside them - they haven't complained altho prob only a matter of time before they want me to sit a few rows behind - that would be ok though. Also think 9 too young for a mobile. Agree you should've been asked (not told) in advance

hayley79 · 19/04/2009 18:23

i suprised they let them in on their own their sud b a law

piscesmoon · 19/04/2009 18:31

I think that some of you must have very immature 10 year olds-most could cope perfectly well with sitting in a cinema for 2 hours and coming out and waiting for a lift. It really would be the nanny state if there was a law against it!

BitOfFun · 19/04/2009 18:31
Hmm
spicemonster · 19/04/2009 18:31

YABU - I used to do this all the time when I was young.

But I would have liked to have been asked.

Incidentally, it isn't illegal. Perhaps you should find out the facts before flinging round accusations:

PG: "General viewing, but some scenes may be unsuitable for some children. Unaccompanied children of any age may watch. A 'PG' film should not disturb a child aged around eight or older. However, parents are advised to consider whether the content may upset younger or more sensitive children."

OrmIrian · 19/04/2009 18:32

Yes I'm a bit too bof. I can't beleive that in most circs there is any risk to this.

TheProfiteroleThief · 19/04/2009 18:33

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hayley79 · 19/04/2009 18:34

i dont belive in putting my kids in dangerous situtions i think i love them loads more than that

hayley79 · 19/04/2009 18:35

flinging accusations who is doing that then??

piscesmoon · 19/04/2009 18:36

I absolutely hate mine hayley-that is why I expose them to all sort of danger!! What total rubbish! I agree she should have been asked first.

cornsilk · 19/04/2009 18:37

FGS.

ruddynorah · 19/04/2009 18:37

are you not concerned hayley that you are over protecting your 12 yr old in not letting him out ever? when will he be ready?

Original poster
dicksbird · 19/04/2009 18:38

spicemonster I didnt mean it was illegal in that sense but rather it was possibly neglectful.

I guess I was just shocked that was all.

I still wouldnt allow it though. I disagree with this idea that if they are mature and sensible that is fine.

Its not that that bothered me its all the other people in the cinema on a saturday night !!

You can judge your own children but never others !!

9 is too young.

OP posts:
spicemonster · 19/04/2009 18:39

hayleyd the OP was:

"They let her do something which I think is illegal and actually amounts to neglect."

I think that's a massive overreaction and it's not true either. Obviously you agree with the OP hayleyd.

I would always ask another parent before dropping their child at the cinema. Not least because it means you don't get threads on MN slagging you off afterwards!

piscesmoon · 19/04/2009 18:40

I don't think that OP gave enough information. It would depend a lot on the situation. Mine is multicomplex away from a town centre and perfectly safe at 8.30- I might not agree in a different setting.