To want DS to go to nursery full time...?

[LadyOfWaffle]

He went from 3 mornings to 5 mornings over the last half term and is starting a new nursery on Monday that's 5 afternoons, but they have started a lunctime club so you can join a morning and an afternoon together. I am a SAHM but DS seems to need so much more than I can give him (he loves school so so much) and TBH I could do with the longer break to look after DS2 (who seems to take second place abit?) and start some college work. He has just turned 3, which makes me feel like I am coping out abit IYSWIM... I just feel guilty for even dreaming thinking about it.

Hmmm DillyDayDreamer -my DS on the other hand was absolutely thrilled to go back to nursery, thrilled to stay for lunch and til 3 for two days and not at all pleased that he would not be staying on Thursday and Friday. His behaviour which was terrible during the holidays (for him-he's generally a good boy) has reverted to the lovely little boy I had before the holidays.
And I got to spend a little one to one time with the baby and managed to do some cooking in advance and cleaning and decluttering while she napped for 2 hours then pick up DS and bring him home to a clean calm house, tea sorted, which meant we could spend the whole afternoon at the playground/library/playing in the garden with the bubble machine rather than rush around frantically to get it all done in the one and a half hour window between dropping him off and picking him up and really spend no quality time at all with his baby sister-let alone make phone calls/send e-mails/even sit down drink a cup of tea and read the paper...Hey it works for us! But it just shows all children are different and have different needs.

I know where my dd would rather be - not at home with me all irritable cos I'm trying to do my Uni work and with no other children to play with!! As long as you have developed a secure and loving relationship with your baby when they were tiny they will carry that love with them all day long when they go into nursery care. Humans are social beings and young children thrive on a diet of mixed social interaction.

"As long as you have developed a secure and loving relationship with your baby when they were tiny they will carry that love with them all day long when they go into nursery care."

That's a lovely way of putting it, Dolly.

LadyG this was my post from Sunday.
I only have an issue with full time not with PT. Even children who are 4/5 struggle with full days at school ( I CM a boy who is almost 5) They are shattered when they get in. If that age feel like that, how will it affect a 3yo. Fine if there are resting facilities, but assuming a pre-school doesn't normally, the LO would be knackered.

I have no issue at all with nursery, I send mine for socialising with children the same age and so I get time to study for my degree module. I have also been a FT working mum for a few months and hated missing my dd. I was lucky that we could just about cope without my wage and then I became a CM and saw the other perspective. No matter how loving/caring or stimulating a childcare facility is, it can not and should not attempt to replace parents. Parents are usually the best people to provide care for children, even parents judged as being poor would mean no less to their child iyswim.