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Original poster

...to think you shouldn't walk round starkers in front of your son's ten-year old friend?

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fossa · 09/04/2009 20:49

No problem with nudity in front of your own family, in your own home, I know everyone has their own comfort zone.

But DS was on a sleepover where the mum walked into the bedroom in the morning with nothing on... that's odd, right? She said she forgot he was there... Just not something I would have done.

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Lilyloo · 09/04/2009 20:50

But maybe she was mortified as she said she had 'forgotten' ??Not a conscious decision

loobeylou · 09/04/2009 20:54

we had a neighbour who used to sunbathe topless in her garden, and all day long her teenage sons friends would be in and out of their house and garden like she was a local tourist attraction. very odd IMO, but in OPs case i think it would have been a genuine mistake, though NOT one I would have made!

HerBeatitudeLittleBella · 09/04/2009 20:57

Yes YABU.

In the normal course of events, of course the woman shouldn't walk around nekkid in front of her DS's friends, whatever age they are.

But if she genuinely forgot that he was there, then she's just a bit forgetful and silly. It's not something to be bovvered about.

I'm v. forgetful but I hope I would never be quite that flaky.

LadyGlencoraPalliser · 09/04/2009 21:00

It's not like she did it on purpose fgs. YAB totally U.

MoreLikeMiranda · 09/04/2009 21:01

YANBU, I would not be happy about this.

I wonder what the responses would be if you had a DD staying there and it was the father "accidently" entering his daughters room naked?

loobeylou · 09/04/2009 21:02

excellent point Miranda

QuantitativeMeasure · 09/04/2009 21:03

I stayed at a friends house one night (I was about 14) and her dad walked in naked, in the middle of the night

Blondeshavemorefun · 09/04/2009 21:03

agree the answers would be and if it was a dad flapping his willy about infront of a girl

basically it is indecent exposure

though maybe she did really forget he was there, which to me is just as bad she forget she was looking after another child

LadyGlencoraPalliser · 09/04/2009 21:04

I would feel exactly the same. It was an accident. Despite the fact that you have put it in quotation marks, there is no reason to believe that it wasn't.

LadyGlencoraPalliser · 09/04/2009 21:04

Jeez Louise there are some uptight people about. It's only naked bodies fgs.

DandyLioness · 09/04/2009 21:04

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fossa · 09/04/2009 21:05

She didn't sound very mortified, she was telling everyone in the playground as though it was a huge joke. If it had been me, I would have been utterly horrified at myself, and feel sure that no-one would ever let their kids visit again.

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loobeylou · 09/04/2009 21:09

even if DH and me were in the habit of sleeping in the nude, we would cover up if we had houseguests of ANY age just in case of meeting on the landing on a visit to the loo, or in case one of the DC woke crying and we needed to be there in a hurry etc.

on waking my first thought is always to go see how the DC are, and she apparently forgot someone elses dc was even there

QuantitativeMeasure - what happened?!

Shambolic · 09/04/2009 21:11

Tricky one.

I will never forget when I was about 6 I stayed at a friends house and her mum came in to say night night and she was wearing a baby-doll nightie and she had no knickers on

I had never even imagined such things - my mum was a floor length cotton nightie with knickers underneath kind of a woman.

i suppose the point is that different people have different ways they are at home - and at night especially. DH and I both sleep naked and wander around and I can imagine it's easy to forget not to.

FWIW if my DD when older went to someones house and they saw the dad wandering down the corridor to go for a pee with nothing on (for eg) i wouldn't get too worked up about it.

Presumably the mum said "oh whoops" and wandered out again when she realised the other boy was there - and again if a dad did that I wouldn't be too fussed. if they had hung around I would not be so impressed.

noonki · 09/04/2009 21:11

if she was acting like a joke then it doesnt sound as if she meant it with ill intent. In fact that could have been my dad who is a dozy bugger and used to walk around naked (til we hit teens).

I guess people have different levels as to acceptablitiy of nudity.

Lilyloo · 09/04/2009 21:11

at telling everyone in school playground maybe she was doing that in case the story got out and she wanted to make sure anyone didn't think anything of it !!

but very different to 'walking round starkers'

i would guess she opened door walked in and walked out with a

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notapparent · 09/04/2009 21:17

Argh, reminds me of the time DP's nine yr old cousin burst into our room just after I had peeled off a swimming cozzie (about two months post baby) - I will never forget the look of unadulterated horror on his face as he verry swiftly reversed.... probably scarred for life!!

Portoeufino · 09/04/2009 21:17

Hmmm never thought about this. Is there an age they have to be where we all have to cover up? I know I wouldn't wander about naked at night if we had guests of any age......But then I am quite scary naked

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pointydog · 09/04/2009 21:21

hell's bells. how embarrassing. The boys will be talking about it non-stop. I wouldn't be able to show my face for months

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fossa · 09/04/2009 21:36

DS was very embarressed (sp?), She walked right across the room and opened the curtains.

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HerBeatitudeLittleBella · 09/04/2009 21:39

Oh blimey how traumatising. She opened the curtains.

Shambolic · 09/04/2009 21:43

I bet she opened the curtains (hope that's not slang for anything!), turned round, saw additional child in the room, and legged it mortified!

solidgoldshaggingbunnies · 09/04/2009 21:47

I think this sounds fairly harmless: it's not that unlikely that (if you are used to sleeping starkers) you might bumble around in your normal morning routine and then realise Whoops Oh SHit there's a visitor. And I agree that making a funny story of it in the playground is probably what she thought of as a better option than having it whispered about indefinitely...

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