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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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...to think you shouldn't walk round starkers in front of your son's ten-year old friend?

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fossa · 09/04/2009 20:49

No problem with nudity in front of your own family, in your own home, I know everyone has their own comfort zone.

But DS was on a sleepover where the mum walked into the bedroom in the morning with nothing on... that's odd, right? She said she forgot he was there... Just not something I would have done.

OP posts:

motheroftwoboys · 11/04/2009 19:34

It is easy to say you shouldn't wander around naked when there are overnight visitors. However, in our house there are often overnight visitors that we don't know about till the next day. Our DS1 often brings mates back to sleep after they have been out to clubs and unless we hear them come in we have no idea they are in the house. Both DH and I wander round in the nude, always have, and we have certainly have a couple of occasions when one of us have wandered into DSs room not realising anyone was there - to switch off the horribly loud alarm that he has forgotten to "unset" etc. It has been worse, my DH snores and on a particularly bad night, if we think DS is out, then either he or I may go into his room to sleep. V. embarrassing if there is someone in the bed!! btw our sons are nearly 19 and nearly 17 and they have never had any problem with seeing us naked. They will often come in and chat when we are in the bath or shower. I really can't see a problem. I never saw my parents naked, ever, and I think that is much more odd.

TheLadyEvenstar · 11/04/2009 19:43

Mother, I make you right there, there is more of a problem when there is never a time a child sees their parent naked as apposed to the way some are. As I say my ds1 is almost 11 and still showers with me if he feels like jumping in with me. and as we have a mahoosive shower there has been occassions when dp, ds1, ds2 and I have been in the shower together......mind you the shower is massive lol.

TheLadyEvenstar · 11/04/2009 23:36

I just asked my ds1 if he got embarrassed when i walked about naked and he said No mummy we are not born wearing clothes.

So i showed him this thread...he made me laugh

to quote him word for word

"these people need to relax mum, at our age boys talk more about toys and things than seeing their parents or friends parents naked. I mean come on mum we are all going to see a naked woman one day whether we are 5 or 25, at least seeing our mums we know that love comes in all shapes"

hmmm not sure whether that was a compliment or i should start a diet now lmao

Mumcentreplus · 11/04/2009 23:45

you done good Lady!

TheLadyEvenstar · 11/04/2009 23:49

Mum, thankyou, I have never hidden myself behind a curtain or anything at the end of the day i hate being clothed so was only natural he followed suit lol

Mumcentreplus · 12/04/2009 00:04

lol..me too..i don't have sons..but I really don't think I would be any other way...

TheLadyEvenstar · 12/04/2009 00:13

Mum,I had to ask him what he thought and he did make me laugh...he is going to be 11 in July i wonder if he will change.

MoreLikeMiranda · 12/04/2009 16:57

he he he...TheLadyEvenstar, you remind me of school kids saying "if you don't believe me ask my mum"

Good for you, if your son did indeed say this then well done for having such an eloquent son. But I must say, the reason there is an age limit on voting is because children are easily manipulated into agreeing with their parents. I don;t think there are manyten year old boys who would disagree with their mum when they clearly feel so passionately about it.

Even if he genuinely feel this way he may feel differently when he's older.. or he may not. Either way this is just the opinion of one boy who doesn't know any better so it's hardly case closed.

Besides, just because I will feel inappropriate being naked in front of a ten year old boy, doesn't mean that you should follow suit.

The problem lies with some random flashing her bits to a child that isn't hers. So whilst I couldn't care less how you or anyone else dresses or undresses in front of your children, I wouldn't expect you to do it in front on mine.

Which is the issue OP raised.

Two other points:

It also completely natural to defecate... would you drop you do this in public or in front of ahouse guest or anyone?

If it sooo acceptable and natural why do people get arrested for indecent exposure if they are in public?

redsock · 13/04/2009 10:51

Onagar : You have obviously not read all of minxofmancunias posts. What she went through as a child WAS emotional abuse IMO..denied a swimsuit as a child when she desperately wanted to cover up, together with parents who flaunt nudity and try and impose it on her?

minx, I do not think you are repressed, just think you had extremely tactless parents who could not pick up on your upset if it hit them in the face.
And as for women baring all in the gym changing room, yes, why do they do this?
There are plenty of changing rooms in my gym, yet you get the ones who not only like to get changed near the lockers in the open bit, but wander around drying hair/faffing with bags/talking on mobiles etc before putting clothes on. Flaunting their nudity in other words. Why?

Mumcentreplus · 13/04/2009 12:07

why do you care?

TheLadyEvenstar · 14/04/2009 09:53

why does it matter if women walk around nude in a womens changing room???

tallulahbelly · 14/04/2009 11:49

All these years I've been flaunting my nakedness in the changing room at the gym when when I've been under the impression that I was just getting changed

Blondeshavemorefun · 14/04/2009 12:08

changing rooms are just that to change into

some strip right in front, others hide under a towel, i generally face wall,get take clothes off,wrap towel round me

so guess others can either see my fabby white arse or my neatly waxed bush

but you kinda expect to see female bodies there in all kinds of undress

you dont expect to see someone mum naked in your bedroom

TheYearOfTheCat · 14/04/2009 12:30

I think the mother concerned should have mentioned it to the OP, rather than regaling other people in the playground with the story. The OP says the woman was joking about it in the playground, yet her son, rightly or wrongly, was embarrassed by the situation.

I wonder will the OP allow her DS to sleep-over there again?

redsock · 16/04/2009 11:53

Coming back late to this..
In my gym, there are cubicles, for privacy, plenty of them. I use them.

Lots do not use these, thay stay in the main open bit, and wander around naked, using hairdryers/putting make up on, naked..so, flaunting.

BarefootShirl · 16/04/2009 13:13

Have been away for a few days, so only just seen this thread. To add my tuppence, I often go around nude at home, especially in summer, and have been "caught out" on more than one occasion by DD or DS bringing friends home unexpectedly. Because they have often seen me nude they think nothing of it - usually I will just go and cover up but if it is DD's friends then I may not bother as I know them quite well.

Before you start passing judgment - I have spoken to the other mothers at various times and they have had no issues with my nudity in front of their DCs. If they did then of course I would cover up accordingly.

I am with LadyEvenstar on this - it is only a naked body! I am not being sexual in any way, nor am I an exhibitionist - I just prefer to not where clothes .

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