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to applaud DH for threatening to break legs of little hoodies.......

191 replies

loflo · 09/04/2009 20:08

Driving home tonight with DH and DS and our local gang of wee knobs hardmen are throwing stones at moving cars. Clever boys that they are.

DH goes to turn our car and they do it again - so DH marches over and says in no uncertain terms that if they do it again he won't mess about it.

I have no problem at all with kids being out playing - I lived two minutes away from our current house when I grew up (and dinosaurs roamed) and we all played outside. But FFS DS is 5 and knows that throwing stones at cars is v wrong and these "young men" are at a guess 9 or 10.

Just waiting to wake up tomorrow morning to a horses head in my bed with a warning.....

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SoupDreggon · 09/04/2009 20:10

Ha actually threatened to break the legs of some 9-10 year olds? Sounds charming.

Original poster
loflo · 09/04/2009 20:14

oh so it's acceptable to chuck stones at cars and think its ok then....

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duchesse · 09/04/2009 20:15

Soupdreggon- I'm guessing you don't live in an area that is regularly held to ransom by vicious little thugs completely out of control, calling the fire brigade just to pelt fire engines with bricks, pushing dog poo through people's doors, harassing people to the brik of suicide, or you might have more sympathy for the OP. It's enough to drive anyone to the edge- I just hope that your DH does not snap because he will not be found in the right and could end up in prison. I know that just from the teaching the little --fuckers- darlings.

AnyFuckerStealsHerKidsEggs · 09/04/2009 20:16

two wrongs don't make a right

a grown man threatening violence to 10 year olds ??

also not good for your ds to see

SoupDreggon · 09/04/2009 20:17

I didn't say that.

If you think it's acceptable for a grown man to threaten 10 year olds with physical violence, you have a serious problem.

Your DH sounds like a tosser.

southeastastra · 09/04/2009 20:17

there are no deterrents anymore, kids are just allowed to get away with it.

seeker · 09/04/2009 20:18

He is an adult-they are children. Repulsive children, I agree, but children none the less.

PullMyFinger · 09/04/2009 20:19

Why applaud one for feral behaviour and decry another ?

YABU and you know it

Claire2009 · 09/04/2009 20:19

Eh, yeh thats v clever..

As another said, 2 wrongs dont make a right and a grown man threatening a 9 & 10yo is wrong.

Ah well, expect a slashed tyred car tomorrow....they're hardly likely to listen to a strange man threatening them..

Disenchantegg3 · 09/04/2009 20:19

What alernative is there? Im not condoning violence to children but the police wont give a shit.

A threat like that means nothing to these little fuckers.

A group tried to put our window through a few weeks back.. whilst my tiny newborn was on the couch underneath.

Can you imagine what could have happened to her if the window had smashed.

But for them its all just a bit of fun.

SoupDreggon · 09/04/2009 20:20

The right thing to do would have been to call the police, not threaten them.

AnyFuckerStealsHerKidsEggs · 09/04/2009 20:20

lack of parental supervision /guidance is the problem

which is why a bloke physically threatening some kids is also wrong

the days when the community as a whole parented children are (sadly) gone

and the fuckwit parents don't give a shit

Original poster
loflo · 09/04/2009 20:20

DS was put into the house so didn't see. But he would know that its not acceptable and so did they. And threatening violence is not right but what else do you do when they have spent the last two weeks terrorising the old ladies who live around here and generally being leery little bastards? I take it Soup that you know where your kids are and what they are doing right now cos obviously some parents round here don't......

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hatwoman · 09/04/2009 20:21

confronting them, telling them to stop, even frogmarching them home (I think), yes. but not threatening them with violence. it won't teach them anything positive about how to function as a positive part of society

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loflo · 09/04/2009 20:23

The police yeah right. Cos they would come running round (not) and give them a warning (the third or fourth of the easter holidays) and the little darlings would give them a special salute as they drive by.

As for DH being a tosser no he aint. He is a hardworking man who has just bought a new car soup that cost less than your childrens teeth. So who's the tosser?

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southeastastra · 09/04/2009 20:24

are the police doing anything about their behaviour? assuming others have contacted them before.

it's sad but being violent back to them will only inflame the situation.

Mooseheart · 09/04/2009 20:24

If they are threatening old people and making a nuisance of themselves, have the police been informed?

lilymolly · 09/04/2009 20:24

Well I applaud your dh.

Time something was done about these little tear aways who think they rule the roost and have NO respect for elders/authority.

duchesse · 09/04/2009 20:24

He sounds like a very angry man actually. And it is dangerous to be angry when there seems to be no way to deal with these children- not even the police are interested as prosecution is unlikely. That's why I said that for his sake I hope he doesn't act upon his anger.

Yesterday, a kid in the cinema (about 7-8) turned around and threw popcorn straight at me with some force, grinned and turned around again. Her mother saw her do it and said nothing, so after about 30 seconds I leaned over and said to the kid "please do NOT throw popcorn at me again" in my most teacherly voice. Bloody weird mother started shouting at me, effing and blinding, and telling me not to speak to her child "like that" (what, politely?). And that is why we have problems with some children- because their parents think their misbehaviour is less important than the parents' pride. And apparently it is perfectly OK for a 7 yr old kid to throw popcorn deliberately in the face of random adults.

Mooseheart · 09/04/2009 20:24

sorry x-posts SEA

nickytwotimes · 09/04/2009 20:24

I don't think it was the right thing to do, but I do understand.
Until we moved here, I would have thought it totally unreasonable, but having lived near some scumbags now, I totally understand.
THe police can't do anything really and often, parents of kids that behave in ways like this are completely unreasonable.
I don't know what the solution is. Threatening violence won't make help, butlivign next tothis kind of thing does wear you down to that level after while.

Mooseheart · 09/04/2009 20:25

Duchesse [shock} the stupidity of some people never fails to astound me...

Lilyloo · 09/04/2009 20:26

Tough call
I am sure this is a last resort for your dh and am hoping he wouldn't follow this through.

To call her dh a tosser is a bit harsh when these kids have been terrorising the neighbourhood.

My uncle was actually assaulted by 4 lads this week after they stole something of his market stall. He asked for it back and they turned on him. He is 50 fgs the lads were 10 , 11,14 and 15.

The police said they are well known for thieveing in the area and would give them a 'warning'

Agree with Anyfucker

nickytwotimes · 09/04/2009 20:27

And I agree with anyfucker.
LAck of parental supervision is the problem. It is the same with the handful of kids near us who ruin things for everyone else.
The parents don't give a shit. It is a hopeless situation.

SoupDreggon · 09/04/2009 20:27

WTF have my children's teeth got to do with it?? Fuck off.

Your DH may be "hard working" but he is a tosser for threatening to break a 10 year old's legs.

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