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To not want to make myself look awful just to please DH

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BackOnMyWord · 27/03/2009 12:45

Very bashful namechanger

Ok here goes.

DH and I have had this thing where we have agreed to do the other's favourite fantasy. We've done mine, which was nice .

The trouble is I thought I knew what his was going to be and it's not what I expected.

So, if you were in this position would you so some or any of the following:

a. put on a lot of weight
b. wear clothes he likes but make you look like something Wayne Rooney would go for
c. stop removing unwanted hair
d. dye hair appalling/unflattering colour

It's one of those but I am too embarrassed to say which.

DH thinks I have conned him, he doesn't think his request is a big deal.

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OhBling · 27/03/2009 12:46

This is a bit weird, but I'm having a stressful day so will enjoy the light entertainment aspect!

I would happily do b and c. a and d are too long term - IMHO doing someone's fantasy should last a night, or maybe a weekend, not a few months/years!

Fimbo · 27/03/2009 12:46

Well I reckon it is either b or c.

I wouldn't do any on the list tbh.

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion · 27/03/2009 12:47

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flowerybeanbag · 27/03/2009 12:48

You could do b and c on a very temporary basis, which wouldn't be so bad.

belcantwait · 27/03/2009 12:48

omg thats very weird. why oh why would he want you to do any of these things?!
no def not to any of them.

yanbu at all.

ps bet its all of them btw. it is isnt it?

subtlemouse · 27/03/2009 12:48

Do you have to do this thing permanently? Other than the weight, none of it need last indefinitely. How long did yours last? Reciprocity would suggest you should at least try it out - but not if if's the weight (obv)...

Penthesileia · 27/03/2009 12:48

These are not equal.

A) Is dangerous, difficult to reverse
B) All the time? If only during sex, then what's the problem?
C) Again, not like B - takes a bit of time, but at least you could reverse it quickly when you want
D) Temporary dyes might be the solution?

This is really weird, I must admit.

Are you something of a stunnah, and your DH wants to slum it with a minger, or something?

On a temporary basis, I might consider B), C), and D), if the sex was going to be really good! Never A).

DSM · 27/03/2009 12:48

a) no
b) yes
c) yes (temporarily)
d) Only with a wash in - wash out dye, not even semi permanent, unless I wanted the change.

What is it?

BonsoirAnna · 27/03/2009 12:48

I wouldn't be able to do (a). I wouldn't do (b) or (d). I might be persuaded into (c) for a little while in mid-winter.

BitOfFun · 27/03/2009 12:49

The clothes I could do, and as for the rest - yep, my DP must be living your DP's dream

MrsTittleMouse · 27/03/2009 12:50

I would do b. or c. as long as it wasn't in public and DH didn't mind if I had all the hair removed before we go on holiday.
a. - I wouldn't put on weight - it's unhealthy and none of my clothes would fit!
d. - I'd get a wig. In fact DH and I have discussed doing this for bedroom purposes.

NotQuiteCockney · 27/03/2009 12:51

Yeah, those fantasies are all different. A) is very diffferent. B) is easy to do. C) and D) are fairly reversible.

Presumably he just wants you to try whatever it is, not do it forever - presumably, he's not continually doing your fantasy, 24/7?

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BitOfFun · 27/03/2009 12:52

I never before realized that being fat, hairy and having bad highlights and no dress sense make a girl Hot Stuff...

Fuck me, that's lifted my mood no end

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MrsTittleMouse · 27/03/2009 12:53

Thinking about this, I reckon it's d. Get a blonde/jet black/whatever wig and keep it for the bedroom only.

BitOfFun · 27/03/2009 12:53

How about a merkin? < helpful >

ThePellyandMe · 27/03/2009 12:55

Well the only one I would do would be (c). And that would be and is only during winter when it suits me

I wouldn't do any of them just to suit DP, they are odd fantasies to have. I wouldn't expect DP to do things like that for me either.

All sounds a bit weird to me really.

PinkTulips · 27/03/2009 12:56

a. put on a lot of weight... depends, are you underweight? if not then no i wouldn't at all
b. wear clothes he likes but make you look like something Wayne Rooney would go for... if you're not comfortable in them then your discomfort would show and they wouldn't be sexy so no... only in the bedroom
c. stop removing unwanted hair... down below yes if he wanted as who'd see but him, although i think i'd be a bit irritated tbh... underarms and legs i wouldn't grow for him though as they're on show to the public.
d. dye hair appalling/unflattering colour... depends on the colour but if you think it's unflattering then no, probably not.

EdwardBear · 27/03/2009 12:57

I'd do b (but only in the house/bedroom not in public!) and c but not the others.
a is very unhealthy and very very weird

LittleBitOfDustInMyEye · 27/03/2009 13:00

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ohdearwhatamess · 27/03/2009 13:01

Wouldn't do any (perhaps C) at a push). A) is downright odd, imo.

Curiousmama · 27/03/2009 13:01

A wig?

If it's the weight thing then I'd be wondering how much he loved me?

The hair thing...is he european?

The clothes I've done as I like to dress up.

Nabster · 27/03/2009 13:02

I would do c but my hubby wouldn't want me to do his fantasy if it made me feel rubbish.

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