for being pissed off at dh that he........

[thepuddingchef]

has decided to use his entire inheritance on his hobby??
I really don't know whether I am being a cow or not. The short story is....we're not very affluent, but get by.....we are moving in a few weeks nearer my parents so that I can go back to work part-time. His mother passed away in dec, anyway after much speculation the ammount he was going to get from his mothers estate is only going to be in the region of £1500. We don't have this money yet, but he has already put a deposit on an item for his hobby....which will cost £800 in total, and I saw an email this morning with him discussing buying another item for his hobby, £900 ono. I haven't confronted him about it as I just don't know whether I have the right to feel pissed off as it is his mothers money....equally it would have been nice to buy something for the kids.....as always with kids there is lots they need......what would you do?? Am I being unreasonable?

I have returned to apologise for getting so angry and emotional earlier in the thread. That is not to say I have changed my mind; Your husband is still a selfish, dangerous wanker. You however, should have sympathy, not be shouted at. Though you'd have been better posting in Relationships rather than AIBU.

Please reread the thread and realise that not one person thinks his behaviour is reasonable or even normal grown-up married man behaviour. Turn to your parents and leave behind this soul destoying marriage you are in. You owe it to yourself and your kids. Good luck!

Lulumama i agree he is a prize arse but i don't think we should force the OP into thinking she should leave him. It is possible with councelling he could see the error of his ways and start treating her like a princess, like she deserves, who knows. Just wanted to say she had other options.

i cant beleive your dh can be so selfish and spend money on his hobby when you need debts paid off and tyres on cars etc

can you say that you drove the car, and that you got pulled over by a police man and then he gave you 7 days to get new tyres and tax etc sorted or you will be fined?

I would personally put your children in the car and drive to a tyre place and get them put on - yes i know you dont want to drive an unsafe car, but your dh isnt likely to replace them.

any sensible man should see that this money left is a godsend to you both and not to be spent on fun stuff, but the essentials

How are things?

I had a bit of a to do with dh today about money spent on his hobby and it made me think o you and how you're doing