No slug, I've just noticed that women in their late 30s/40s seem to have a somewhat different attitide to/perception of these issues than women my age and a few years younger. Perhaps it's right, and we feel differently because we didn't 'fight the fight' and live the struggle or whatever and take the gains for granted. I'm not saying that the things you keep quoting at me are bad or indeed unwanted. I'm saying they're not what I associate with the term feminism. Tbh, I don't feel I ever was part of the struggle. Maybe that's wrong, but I was actually 26 before I encountered even the slightest suggestion of sexism. I have always known I am 100% equal to any man and can do anything I want to. It never entered my head that I wasn't. As far as my experiences were concerned that battle was done and dusted. Of course, I accept that it's not the case/been the case for everyone. Just that I don't identify it as my personal battle. People banging on about sisterhood just don't sound like people I know and am friends with.
Before I get accused of being narrow-minded and solely focussed on my own experiences, of course I care about rape, discrimination or many other issues you could name. They're just not what I've grown up with as examples of 'feminism'. It's about what the term means to me, not the concepts you identify with it.
The first time I encountered someone who was introduced as a feminist it was at a 6th form prize-giving. It was a high-flying divorced city business woman who raved on and on about getting good childcare while you were pregnant to be sure you could get back to the grindstone whilst your new sproglet was cared for by someone else. It totally turned me off her and everything she stood for. Of course she's not the only example, there are figures on TV etc etc. The whole idea of female promiscuity (or sexual liberation, if you like) also doesn't sit any better with my beliefs than the same behaviour in men.
I've just asked dh to define 'feminist' and he said to him it conjures up an image of Germain Greer, some of whose views seem a little odd (e.g. she's defended FGM). He then added, or someone who fights for women's rights in a less than fair or sensible way. He is also a well-educated generally normal sensitive middle-class man of a similar age to me who takes more than an average interest in childcare and cleaning.
Mostly I just see women as people, nothing more nothing less. I certainly don't see the whole set-up of society as male-dominated or out to get us or anything.
I also agree that Delia's comment about hating men is a little odd .