To ask DH to bring a couple of bits of shopping home?

[starsnstripes]

Emailed DH to ask if he would bring some milk and bread home on the way back from work as thought I had some in the freezer.

He replied "Yes ok"

Then he sent a seperate e mail titled "Why"

It read
"why are running out of basic items?"

Know that sounds pretty tame but he has been really agrumentive recently and questioning everything I have'nt done or criticising what I have done.

It's just another case of him being verbally abusive and controlling.

I was gonna say it sounds like he's losing it... Thats a real weird thing to say.

He must have had loads to drink in those few hours.
What is going through your mind now stars? How is this making you feel... Try and think about it hard and it might give you the strength to leave xxxxxxx

Tomorrow is a new day, ring Womens Aid in the morning.

Practice saying the words 'please help me I need to leave my husband'.

One small step at a time, let that be your small step for tomorrow.

what's he up to now stars? Please say he's passed out again.

Honestly, these people are talking sense (I've been lurking).

He is experiencing alcoholic psychosis. If you are lucky he will pass out & just be unpleasant to you tomorrow. Or he could be a serious danger - to himself, you, or your children - tonight.

I have been here before many many times before.
The conversations with people who are'nt there.
He was having a conversation in the cloakroom with one of his work colleagues earlier so he thought.
Forgot he also asked if the children were still kicking off.

Just went up to check.
He has passed out on the bed in his clothes.

Keep safe lovey.

Goodnight xxx
Sending strength and positive thoughts your way...

And again (i know ur not religious)

But may God hold you and your DC in the palm of his hand

xxxxxx

Will keep safe.

Cazzaben-that is a comforting thought.
I do not attend church as such but we have a lovely church in our local town where I often go and sit for some quiet time and to think about people I have lost.

On thing I have been thinking about .
I think I mentioned it before.
If anyone who is tech minded could advise me on what I would need to take with me with my laptop so I could access the internet.
At the moment I am on wireless which I obviously I would'nt take with me.
I know there is wires to plug into a phone line but of course it won't be this phone number I would be connecting to.
Does that matter?
I think someone mentioned something you can buy to plug into your laptop.
If anyone could help I would appreciate it.

You need to get a mobile internet device so you can access the net via your mobile phone. I set mine up via my mobile phone provider - think this is the simplest way. HTH.

I've been lurking here but just wanted to say good luck. And hugs.

It was me stars. Mentioned it pages back. My friend was in the refuge and bought ( from 3 ) a dongle that you can top up pay as you go. It was £39.99 but they had lots of options and deals. It's mobile, so works in most places. And easy to set up.

Just go to your mobile provider's website and you'll find all the info. Example

Don't forget you can use wireless for free in some places, like some McDonalds and some coffee shops - not brilliant but would do until you get something more permanent set up! Mobile broadband, which is what Franch is suggesting, is fairly patchy in Norfolk as far as I know.

To be able to plug in to use the internet via a phone line you'd need to be signed up to an internet provider. I'll have a look around and see where there's free internet in your area.

What mobile company are you with by the way? Some of them provide free coverage in some areas.

Oh it's all a bit confusing.

I have a really old basic mobile phone,it is vodaphone.
I just go into a newsagent and buy credit and add the code to my phone to top it up.
Sorry am a bit sketchy with all this.

Am off to bed now, stars - I hope that you get a peaceful night,

Sweet dreams.
xx

It depends how old your laptop is stars, mine is wifi enabled, which means it has built a built in wireless receiver. Mine has a little blue receiver symbol that lights up. My laptop is about 18 months old.

I can see you have moved forward Stars, I'm so pleased for you. You are getting stronger every day and more importantly you are getting less satisfied with his behaviour. Every day is a step forward.

I also agree with the trial separation theory - why worry about more than a day or two at a time? Just put yourself in a position of control and remove your DCs from any impact and only then deal with his response. Telling him in advance just puts your children in the firing line.

With you in mind, I asked my mother about her view of my ex. I would never have said that I was in an abusive relationship but she thinks he was a bully and was abusive.

I left after my partner knocked me to the floor. After, when I told my xp I was shocked about him doing that, his reaction was 'I know, I didn't think I could still do it after all this time' (he had used a particular martial art manouvre on me although he hadn't trained for a few years). The lack of remorse or acknowledgement of his bad behaviour was the nail in the coffin for me. I was considerably less impressed than him.

All my friends were asking me what was I waiting for? I had no good answer for them, just excuses but not a single one of them said 'told you so' when I left. And that is not what you will get here or anywhere else-everyone is on your side.

OK, well if you're on Pay As You Go then you can get mobile broadband from any company - this page should help you with which company has the best coverage in your area, if you need help going through your options let me know!

By the way sorry to bail on you but I'm off to bed now, I'll be checking in at 8am though so will answer any questions then!

Stay safe and have a good sleep.

((((hugs)))) stars

Thanks sunnygirl.

The laptop is about 4 yrs old .
It is a fulitsu siemens and does have a green wireless light next to the on button.

Ckelpie-I think that is what is so unbelievable that there is no remorse.
H used to have remorse but has't for some time.

PMSL- Have had a look,may need your help.
Presumbably I would go with vodaphone as my phone is vodaphone.
Also i notice oyu can top up via the internet using your debit card so that would be handy.
So you buy the stick intially with some credit on it,is thst right?
then it said you pay £15 to top it up.

How long would £15 last for?

Thanks everyone.
off to bed soon myself,my head is racing at the moment so may stay up a bit and make notes.

Stars, not posted before but following your progress and wanted to add my voice to the rest. Thinking of you and wishing you strength and love. X