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AIBU?

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Original poster

To be scared to meet MNers in real life?

143 replies

JoblessNobless · 12/03/2009 13:16

Longtime lurked here who seldom posts as you all seem much wittier and wiser than me!

I notice that there are meet ups between MNers regularly. My question is, are the ones you have met really as dazzling in their charm or pithy in their wit as they would have you believe? Or (gulp) even more so?

Of course, if they are crashingly dull feel free to say so, haha. Personally I would be quite scared to meet some...too good to be true, or maybe intimidating. What are your experiences, and AIBU?

OP posts:
SoupDragon · 12/03/2009 13:17

I once turned up for a meetup and didn't go over and introduce myself. The 2 that were there seemed to be getting on well and I couldn't bring myself to interrupt

FAQinglovely · 12/03/2009 13:17

oh I'm crashingly dull as I'm sure ShelleyLou, Divvy, Quadrophenia and ItsMYmummy will all testify (who are all the exact opposite)

cornsilk · 12/03/2009 13:19

I went to a meet up and couldn't find anybody!

Stretch · 12/03/2009 13:20

We had a meeting a few months ago and it went well! Although it was funny introducing ourselves! "Hi, I'm Stretch!"

Wonder if Anyfucker or Mitchyinge announce their names in public

Original poster
JoblessNobless · 12/03/2009 13:20

Have you (whispers) met anyone famous here?

OP posts:
Bramshott · 12/03/2009 13:21

I've met quite a lot of people on my ante-natal thread. They are all lovely!! It is sometimes a bit wierd though, because you feel like you know someone really well, but relating to them in RL is different and it takes time to build up closeness.

Morloth · 12/03/2009 13:22

I never ever meet people from internet message boards. Never, way too much chance of the crazies!

TrillianAstra · 12/03/2009 13:22

I would only go if we all called each other by MN names.

If it were real names I would
A: forget everyone's name
and
B: forget who everyone was on MN, and be posting things like 'I met you at X, your name begins with R, we talked about Y, but WHO ARE YOU?'

FAQinglovely · 12/03/2009 13:26

I'm just hoping that tomorrow night I don't intoduce ShelleyLou and Divvy to everyone else (all NON-MNer's) as "ShelleyLou and Divvy"

BitOfFun · 12/03/2009 13:26

Soupdragon, you could have sat at a table on your own with your cuddly bat, and the meetup would have come to you!

I met a very dazzling MNer last weekend who was everything you would expect [smug]. I imagine she though I was a bit on the slightly insane side though as I always drink and talk too much. In life, not just meeting MNers

wannaBe · 12/03/2009 13:27

I have only ever met one MN'er in rl and she was lovely.

However the thought of a full-on meet up is somewhat terrifying and I fear that I would end up sitting in a corner while everyone laughed and joked around me, totally oblivious to my existance.

In fact on one occasion I did join in a local meet up thread for my area and amazingly as soon as I posted the thread died, so I think I got the message.

shelleylou · 12/03/2009 13:30

FAQ is lovely. dont worry bout that lol ,mine makes no difference really. Got called louise at doctors the other day

FAQinglovely · 12/03/2009 13:32

well it's not so much your MN name I'm worried about - I mean it's not too far off your RL name - but imagine if I introduced Divvy as "Divvy"

shelleylou · 12/03/2009 13:33

ye that could be taken completely wrong would be a bit

MrsMattie · 12/03/2009 13:34

Haven't been brave enough. I quite like the relative anonymity of MN and think ti would spoil it if, fro instance, cod was a librarian called Jane with nothing to say for herself in RL

wannaBe · 12/03/2009 13:36

there is a parent at my ds' school who is called Div.

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 12/03/2009 13:37

I'm in two minds so YANBU.

I was busy for the last one that we had locally and felt quite relieved about that!

Fimbo · 12/03/2009 13:39

I am far to dull to go to a meet up. Plus I would want to lose at least 3 stone first. Everyone always seems to be glam.

BouncingTurtle · 12/03/2009 13:39

I've met a few MNers.
They were the scariest bunch of bitches I have ever met. I have been forced to enter the witness protection programme as I fear for my life - they regularly sacrifice spotty chavs boys to the God of Boden.

I'm kidding

All the MNers I've met are lovely and surprisingly normal!

OrmIrian · 12/03/2009 13:40

Oh I'm dull. I pride myself on it. You wouldn't be afraid to meet me.

Kathyis6incheshigh · 12/03/2009 13:41

Yes my only objection to meet-ups is that most people on here seem to go on self-deprecatingly about how overweight and dowdy they are, and then when you meet them in RL they all look lovely.

ABetaDad · 12/03/2009 13:41

I am very worried that. I would never go to a meet up. I would not get invited anyway.

There is two MN on here who I defnitely do know but they do not know me. There are a whole load of you who live near me and to be honest I think there are a few in the kids school.

I just hope they don't start asking for playdates or I will be quickly outed.

MrsJoeMcIntyre · 12/03/2009 13:42

I've met quite a few, and been on holiday with two. They're all lovely.

TrillianAstra · 12/03/2009 13:45

ABetaDad - you mean the women chasing you in their 4x4s trying to ask your children round to play (or do you call it 'angling for free childcare'?) are the ones who aren't on MN?

SoupDragon · 12/03/2009 13:45

It was pre Bat, BitOfFun

I am so dull in RL. Shy, awkward and, er, dull.