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To be scared to meet MNers in real life?

143 replies

JoblessNobless · 12/03/2009 13:16

Longtime lurked here who seldom posts as you all seem much wittier and wiser than me!

I notice that there are meet ups between MNers regularly. My question is, are the ones you have met really as dazzling in their charm or pithy in their wit as they would have you believe? Or (gulp) even more so?

Of course, if they are crashingly dull feel free to say so, haha. Personally I would be quite scared to meet some...too good to be true, or maybe intimidating. What are your experiences, and AIBU?

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BitOfFun · 12/03/2009 13:45

Some of them look like Melinda Messenger, doncha know...

MrsJoeMcIntyre · 12/03/2009 13:46

Allegedly.

BitOfFun · 12/03/2009 13:47

Someone on here that is, not me!

Aww, I imagine the bat as your constant companion...and MNers would fight to take him home for the weekend like nursery schoolchildren

HecatesTwopenceworth · 12/03/2009 13:48

I've met a few (not big groups...2, 1, 2) and they were all really nice people.

ABetaDad - don't be daft, you don't need an invite to the big meet-ups, you just put your name down and show up! I'm sure they'd love to beat see you.

MrsJoeMcIntyre · 12/03/2009 13:48
Rhubarb · 12/03/2009 13:49

ABetaDad, why do you think you would not get invited? I know it can be a bit cliquey on here, with Mumsnetters chatting amongst themselves and alluding to events you've no knowledge of.

BUT, we've had lots of new people join Mumsnet and their names get quickly integrated with the rest. I never know whether I'm talking to an oldie or a newbie anyway, the names change so often, but it doesn't really matter. If someone has something to say or they need advice, they are treated all the same. I would never click on a thread just because it was started by custy, or give advice only because it was custy who was asking. And neither would anyone else.

We open threads because their title draws us in, and if we have something to add, we add it.

As for meeting in real life. Yes it can be nerve-wracking, for all of us. You get comments like "you don't look like I thought you'd look" and you never know whether that's a compliment or an insult!

In fact, speaking from experience, I usually go and chat to those people I've not seen before, who may not know me. Because then I don't feel like I'm being judged for not living up to my persona on here.

Besides, most people are far too concerned with how THEY look to notice how YOU look.

BitOfFun · 12/03/2009 13:49
BitOfFun · 12/03/2009 13:51

Ah, you can reassure us now Roobs, because you are famous...

laweaselmys · 12/03/2009 13:53

I'm not funny in RL, and sometimes I am vaguely amusing on MN. Could cause issues.

Actually, given how many people there are on MN I'm sure it's far more likely I wouldn't really remember much about people there, and would just have a great time. Have to build up a bit of confidence first - maybe in a few years!

Rhubarb · 12/03/2009 13:54

Yes and what comment did I get from a Mumsnetter recently? "you don't look like I thought you would" I daren't ask what she thought I would look like!

TrillianAstra · 12/03/2009 13:54

Wouldn't it be awful if you went to a meetup, chatted to someone for a bit and thought they were great, and then they revealed that they were your worst MN enemy? It would ruin all the fun. (the fun of having an enemy, not the fun of the meet-up)

Not that I have the name-memory to have an enemy, but I have seen threads about threads and people having a go at one another, wouldn't it be hilarious if they chatted nicely, one casually brushed her long hair off her name badge, and the other stalked off in a huff?

TrillianAstra · 12/03/2009 13:55

Unless that was your alternative picture as well as your alternative name, Rhubarb...

MrsJoeMcIntyre · 12/03/2009 13:55

I always worry that I am a huge disappointment when I meet other MNers. I think because it's such an anonymous way to communicate, you have to be prepared to let the mask slip when you actually meet in RL.

laweaselmys · 12/03/2009 13:55

The question is Rhubarb would you come dressed as David or not??

TrillianAstra · 12/03/2009 13:56

Nah she looks more like Tom Baker

wannaBe · 12/03/2009 14:01

I think I am quite invisible on here, so am positive I would be even more so in rl.

Rhubarb · 12/03/2009 14:03
Wizzska · 12/03/2009 14:04

Ooh, all this talk makes me want to go to a meet up. I've only knowingly met one mumsnetter before and she is lovely.

GetOrfMoiLand · 12/03/2009 14:06

No, would feel a bit silly if nobody knew who the hell I was

Plus youi have certain ideas of how people would be - can you imagine if Cod turned out to be frumpily dressed with no make up, or Lulumama turned out to be not as lovely as she appears on MN. Would be v disappointing.

TrillianAstra · 12/03/2009 14:06

That's it, I'm off to my running attempting to jog very slowly thread to say that I can't run today because Rhubarb kicked me in the arse.

(and because I want to eat sweets and MN instead)

BitOfFun · 12/03/2009 14:07

Who are Wannabe and this GetOrf person anyway?

laweaselmys · 12/03/2009 14:08

Have realised my real issue - am a young mum, I could turn up and be faced with a room full of my friends parents. Not that they're not lovely people but I would cack myself mightily at the thought of some of the stuff I have said on here!

Rhubarb · 12/03/2009 14:09

I'd really like to meet Wannabe, she's my hero!

TrillianAstra · 12/03/2009 14:10

I'm not allowed to go until I actually am a Mum. Or at least preggers (but then I won't be able to drink, and I think I might need lots one).

BitOfFun · 12/03/2009 14:11

[gimmer]

Yes law, I'm sure I would have a mouth like a cat's arse

And we'd talk about our sex lives and you would feel queasy...

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