To think perhaps this wasn't the most appropriate way to bf baby in a public place?

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OK I am usually all for breast feeding have breast fed all 3 of my dcs and if they were hungry in restraunt on train etc I would cover and feed them, however this shocked me.
Was in supermarket last night with 2 dds aged 5 and 7. Dds had nipped off to pick up some juice when dd1 rushed up to me with a bright red face and ushered my to the next aisle. There was a woman standing with her shirt unbuttoned feeding a baby who was sat upright in a trolley so every one that walked by could see exactly what she was doing and also had a clear view of her other boob that was hanging out her bra . Not only that the baby must have been about 7 or 8 months and was straining to reach as she sort of crouched to it's level.
Surely this is not the best way and she could have left her trolley and went into the baby room she didn't have that much stuff in there any way.

YABU

If it bothers you, look elsewhere or walk away.

Litchick, I don't think citing other cultures is saying those women are more empowered. It's saying that our attitude to breasts is a cultural construct.

Qually - there's a difference between uber-discreet, normally and hanging your boobs over the handle of the trolly .... quite a difference.

I'm all for BF and if she'd been walking around bf - no worries - but dangling your boobs over the trolley. Just YUCK.

I disagree, litchick. There are plenty of lessons to be learned from other cultures. Just because certain countries are more impoverished than ours doesn't mean we should ignore ALL their experiences, should it? No need to chuck the baby out with the bathwater.

I don't think that acknowledging that in many (although not all) African countries, women are free to breastfeed without judgement or disapproval, is tantamount to proclaiming them free in all aspects of life. Nor is it to say that their entire culture is palatable to us.

can I just throw in a thought about the "one breast at a time, if you must" sentiment?

There is No Way that my dd will countenance feeding respectably on one side for a decent amount of time whilst the other side remains safely encased in my clobber.

Her current method insists upon swapping back and forth from one side to the other every few seconds. And she can scoop a reluctant boob out of it's clothing with the deftness of a Monte Carlo croupier.

So there.

what a load of shit
your all just jealous that you aren't relaxed enough with you body to do it

pah

gecko would happily get a PROPER 'fill her up' feed like that
the only difference is I wouldn't have had my other boob swinging free

and you can stick your baby room up you arse

thats just a passive aggresive way of getting boobs that are being used for the purpose intended out of the way

.....lets just be happy with tits out all over the newspapers but GOD FORBID anyone actually feed a baby!!!

I haven't read through the rest of the posts on here but I do think it could have been done a better way. I have breastfed all 3 of my children but have done it as discreetly as possible whilst out and about - that said, I wouldn't deliberately hide myself away to do it. What I disagree with is the comfort of the baby. What the lady has done is just as bad as when I see mothers propping a baby's bottle up on a blanket whilst a baby is in a car seat or pram just to save them from having to hold the bottle themselves. Surely the mother could have lifted the baby from the trolley and fed whilst she walked round the aisles? Just as someone can bottle feed whilst walking round the aisles. I know I could breastfeed one handed and push a trolley at the one time! Or I would at least have brought my child out of the trolley, fed them and placed them back in!

i weould struggle to carry gecko (2 yrs) around and push trolley

she would rather do it as op has said

she would also try and hoik my other bbok out to 'tune the radio' or 'squeeze for ripeness'

she would have been told no and either accepted that or boths boobs weent away

serioulsy, does a boob or two really bother anyone THAT much??

I'm mystified by some of the language used on this thread. When are breasts ever 'yuck' , why is theis woman 'brazen' (as in hussy presumably )? Whay are some women SO negative about a beautiful and functional part of other women's bodies?

"I'm all for breastfeeding, but..." ever hear the phrase "everything before the but is bullshit"?

OED definition of discreet is "careful not to attract attention or give offence". Why should babies feeding have to feed in this way? Why do some people thing bf is offensive for goodness sake? It's what breasts (AKA mammary glands) are made for!

People comparing breastfeeding whilst showing some flesh to having sex in public, defacating or urinating also puzzle me. Breastfeeding isn't dirty or unhygenic like defacating. Having sex is a private act of love or passion between two individuals -a better analogy wuld be eating a meal, and I don't feel the need to cover my head with a towel or seek a privaate room when I eat in a restaurant. Urinating in public leaves a smelly waste bodily fluid everywhere. Breastfeeding transfers milk directly from boob to baby (save the odd spray , but that's more like spilling a drink).

hear hear grendle

Grendle - I did not say breasts were yuck, I said draping them over a trolley was yuck (BIG difference). Why not pick the poor thing up and feed it properly and not hang her boobs over the trolley??

'Everything before the but is bullshit' is such a stupid saying. I am all for breastfeeding (walking around/shopping/ letting it all hang out is fine) BUT I'd rather her not bounce her boobs on the trolley or sit in the trolley to do it(and I'd prefer to see her feeding the baby properly). I'd much rather see a bit of boob than have a babies head covered to protect the mothers modesty too - but I can understand why some mums feel more comfortable doing this.

Agree Grendle.

I also have a 'radio tuner'. He does it so often, that I forget now, but I have small breasts so it's not too much of a problem!

ChippingIn -I too can understand why some mums might want to cover up, but it should be their decision not something thrust on them.

I still fail to see why feeding in that manner is yuck. It's interesting also that you choose the word "properly" -you seem have a particular view of how breastfeeding ought to be done.

Grendle Properly - as in, pay some attention to the baby, make sure it's comfortable etc not just wave a boob in it's general direction... Do you honestly think that child was comfortable and nicely latched on in that position?

I guess I am failing to get my point across here - but will try again. I don't care how much boob she flashes whilst holding the baby in her arms and feeding it, however, I think it's quite a different thing altogether to leave the baby in the trolley, feeding it over the handle of the trolley.

I don't understand why you don't find this an odd thing to do tbh.

I dunno. I was in a bf clinic and one of the supporters had her 1 yr old with her - her daughter more or less leapt at her, was scooped up, and started to feed in the most blunt way imaginable. tbh all I thought was, "how is it possible to just shove your boob in the baby's general direction and bam, latch?" because I'd been trying for 13 weeks, with infinite care, patience and skilled tuition, and mostly failed.

So no, I wouldn't think "yuck" at a woman able to latch a baby in a supermarket trolley. I'd be awed by her bf skill - probably bound up and ask for tips, actually.

Seems a very bizarre and uncomfortable way to feed a baby to me, and of course it's going to attract attention. My kids would have ben very interested (not that that is a problem, I'm always up for conversation starters). Crouching down whilst the baby sucks your breast sitting in a trolley seat just seems a really peculiar way to do things. I've fed out and about, but I would either have picked the children up, or sat down on the floor (if there was no where to sit). Seems very uncomfortable and I really can't see that any multitasking was possible unless the woman had very large breasts and was able to push the trolley along and whilst crouching and walking also was able to look for and reach up and out for shopping. I just think that's unlikely to have been possible, so yes odd.

I had to lay Tom on a table and BF (there wasn't much room) at KFC once when they wouldn't give me hot water for his bottle. It was in the Enoch centre in Glasgow. I wasn't wearing the bestest of top either as I hadn't planned on having to feed him (hence wanting the hot water).

As has been mentioned a few times now the babies age was only mentioned to set the scene ie baby was up right in trolley seat and not one of the lie back seats. was def not a dig at feeding older babies i fed mind for well over a year ok

"my eyes move side to side and my head turns from left to right on my neck and I can do a 360 if I so choose "
goodness me hunker, that sounds more painful than feeding your baby in a trolley!

The baby wouldnt be a few weeks if it could sit.

Its not something I would do personally, as it doesnt sound very comfortable!

StayFrosty - how can I put this more clearly than it has already been put???

The. Age. Of. The. Baby. Is. Not. The. Issue. Here.

Why can't people mind their own? Well, if you don't want people to read your t-shirt, don't wear one with writing on it!! If you don't want people to think you're a bit odd.... don't do odd things....