kittywise - look, we've obviously going to not agree about this so I won't even bother as I remember your little gem of a comment about your black au pair from a while ago and how you handled any comments from people who didn't agree with you.
I'm black, Micheal Jackson is black... Barack Obama is black, he's the first black president in the white house - end.
I'm not denying my heritage, in fact, I am blessed to be able to have the right to call myself black, proud of every part of my heritage, using the cultures in me to assert myself a young black woman.
I don't give a flying fudge what your DP has to say about it, nor your mixed race friends.
I hate the way you group cultures together! when we all accused you of being a racist when you made your black au pair comment, you informed us you couldn't possibly be racist because your DP is indian.
... you may as well have said you're not racist cuz you have a colour TV [hmmm]