or is it too early to be annoyed by lack of thank you's for Christmas gifts?

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Dh and I sent 15 gifts to a variety of children this year (mostly kids of friends who also sent gifts to our dc's). Have only received 4 thank you's. Our dc's thank you's were posted by the end of 2008. I don't even expect thank you cards but a text, phone call or email would be nice.
or do you reckon end of Jan is time after which lack of thank you's becomes rudeness?

i've handed out/posted most of them but still a couple to go, so i hope it's not too late.

I think it is a bit late. Ive sent out thank-yous for Christmas presents and my son's birthday (4th Jan). I have not received one thank you from any of the children we sent presents to. How rude. So, IMO, YANBU

not too late, but really should be here by now, mine were done by 2009

and to never send them

thanks for reminding me, shoppingbags - dd must do hers tonight!

I'm pretty hot on thank you cards - am generally well known for my pedanticness efficiency on these matters. But, I only posted dd's this morning. In return we sent about 20-something children's presents and have received 4 (which actually equates to 8 of those 20-something as some were multi-family).

I was spurned on by the fact it is dd's birthday in less than 2 weeks so the fun will begin again.

My Mum commented on the phone today that she'd only received 1 so far and that was from my bro who often doesn't even remember.

Never sent a thank you, have no intention of getting DS to send them.

You shouldn't give to receive! When presents were handed over wasn't a verbal thank you included? That should be enough to avoid being impolite, Why do you need it in writing?

as long as we get ours out by easter i reckon we're okay doing them at all - especially when they're home-made efforts - i think is what matters.

I know it's easier for me as mine are too young to do their own and I know older children take a lot of nagging but half those kids are under 3 and so their parents could do them. And an email takes a few seconds to write. grrr

Posted mine so a thank you would also have been an acknowledgement of receipt! And it's good manners.

don't need it in writing. All but 2 of the gifts were posted so I don't even know that they were received at all as there has been no response at all. Like I said a text would be fine by me.

ours were posted on saturday, DD1 had 24 to write and she's only 6 so it took a while.

Some people are big on thank you cards. Some aren't. As long as you get a thank you, verbal or written, I think that's enough.

If you want to send written thank yous then brilliant but don't be pissed off if others don't see it as necessary.

We have never sent thank-you's either. Gosh with all the presents my two get it would take a month to write them.

We just say thank-you in person the next time we see the giver.

Wouldn't mind a verbal thank you or a text. Something is better than nothing.

dont need it in writing, but do expect one once the present has been opened

I am puzzled by thank you letters. I haven't ever sent one - all my DC's gifts were given in person and we thanked the giver verbally. Even if someone had posted a present for my DCs I think I would phone and say thanks. I wouldn't take offence if I were you.

People might have also lost track of who sent what etc.

OK, agree if posted some sort of thanks got the presents would be appreciated, as you say a text even before they were opened would probably be my solution, so sender doesn't worry about whether it arrived at all.

I reckon the twelfth day of Christmas is the cut-off point to send and/or receive thank-yous.

I do make the DCs write letters even if they thanked the giver in person at the time. I think most (not all, but most) people - especially of the older variety- like to have something in return, be it a letter/card/illegible scrawl from the child they've gone to the bother of choosing something for.

We have done all our thank you letters.

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Last week I uploaded some pics to Truprint including one of the kiddies in front of the tree. I got 15 prints off that one at a cost of 9p each, put one in with each letter. If I can't remember who sent what I just put thank you for our lovely pressies and then some chit chat about some christmas activity they did.

I can't abide texts as thankyou. SIl texts us after her childrens parties with 'tx 4 pres'. Thats it. I'd rather she didn't bother.

I like to send thank yous myself, but don't get worked up if I don't get them from those we have given presents to.

oh I'm always on a high horse about this - we have only had 3 thank yous so far for presents and wrote all of ours before the end of December -it's something that I think is very important

Oh dear I haven't done them yet. I have a few friends that I know like to receive them, even if the gift is opened and I have thanked them for it in their presence. Makes me wish they hadn't bothered actually.

I think any form of thank you is fine actually. I always write / send nice foto thankyou card to posted ones, unopened at time of giving ones, or they ring and say thanks. It's just good manners.

I agree thank you letters are important but ...

I hope it's not too late as dd has done 5 and has 6 more to go ... and as she does them all by hand and needs help it's taking a bit of time (she's only 5) (

I send as many presents as we receive (have large family and a trillion cousins) and I personally think by the end of January is fine ....