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AIBU to be disappointed and quite frankly let down and pissed off with dh for getting me slippers for xmas?!

187 replies

pinktree · 26/12/2008 11:24

Ok so am I or am I being spoilt?

I am angry, 30 wks pregnant and hormonal so don't be too harsh!

Oh and I made a detailed list for him back in November! Although we did only get paid on 20th Dec (Own business,long story, whole other thread!)

I've ordered him to take back everything and he's just gone out now

OP posts:
Reallytired · 26/12/2008 14:18

I am going to have another baby. So do I have the right to hormonal rages.

This is what I asked for Christmas.

www.comet.co.uk/shopcomet/product/453102/HITACHI-AXM898U

This what I got.

www.nps.gov/plants/SOS/training/typicalshipment/index.htm

The local comet shop had it available on 20th December. Unfortunately it sold out before my husband got the chance to buy it. He has promised to get me one when they come back into stock though.

juuule · 26/12/2008 14:23

I buy my present. Dh buys his. We have a limit to what we can spend. He wraps his, I wrap mine. I write a gift tag which he sticks on his present and he does the reverse.
Big surprise for us on Christmas Day when we find out what we bought for each other
and the kids are under the impression that we have an uncanny knack of knowing what each other needs/wants.

YABU.

conniedescending · 26/12/2008 14:28

you are being unreasonable and spoiled

where did this myth that being pg is an excuse for behaving horribly???

OP - hope you apologise unreservedly to your DH when he returns

TWINSETinapeartree · 26/12/2008 15:20

connie I think that although most of think the poster was BU we were int the spirit of the new moldie free mumsnet trying to do so in a supportive way, so were acknowledging in a light hearted way the you can sometimes feel vulnerable or take things to heart when pg.

Blondeshavemorefun · 26/12/2008 15:25

not suprised op has dissapeered

some of the replies are a bit mean imo

the more i think about it, she did write a list/ask what she wanted and she didnt get any of her list

this would piss me off as well tbh

though sending dh out to return gifts today is also a bit mean

still wondereing what else he brought her, ie nice stuff or crap like washing up gloves - if i got those would be very pissed off, though also wouldnt want sanitry towels

have come to the conclusion, that i did very well this year

hercules1 · 26/12/2008 15:32

Havent read the whole thread. I put a list of jewellery on my favourites on pc and dh didnt get me anythign at all. That said, he is very preoccupied with various charity works around xmas. So I have just come back from an expensive shopping spree in which I bought a handbag and new coat. Feel much better now!

higgle · 26/12/2008 15:58

If anyone got me slippers for Christmas they would get very short shrift, and if it was my DH I'd explode with anger - they are horrible unseemly manky things that get tatty and yucky and are so totally unsexy I'd never ever wear them at all. When I had my first son I got some nice tasteful sandaly things to wear in hospital - with heels.

fossa · 26/12/2008 16:18

One of my best presents was slippers - they are like soft furry pink ugg boots and I love them and haven't taken them off.

Rookietherednosedreindeer · 26/12/2008 16:18

I'm trying to imagine what "nice tasteful sandaly things with heels" would look like, and failing miserably. Give me a comfy pair of slippers any day. Actually prefer those Totes slipper socks.

I tell DH the main thing I want, this year MBTs but he bought them muchos cheapos on Ebay last night, because I told him to wait until the sales started. Other than that he got me 3 boxes of chocolates from Thorntons, clearly inspiration running short a nice bracelet and earrings combo and a fairly hideous necklace. Did I tell him it was foul, did I heck like.

YABU, get over yourself, but next year give him the list nearer to christmas.

IllegallyBrunette · 26/12/2008 16:27

Snap Fossa, my best mate got me the same and I love them.

TWINSETinapeartree · 26/12/2008 16:39

My ex husband bought me some marabou slippers like these with some lingerie and I used to clip clop around our apartment in them, which had wooden floors.

The people who lived below me got me some like these instead

kittywise · 26/12/2008 16:51

Frankly I find the idea that if you write a present list you have a right to get something from it really awful.

People should not expect presents and certainly not expect something from a list.

Hopefully the op has gone away contemplating the awfulness of her behaviour

Blondeshavemorefun · 26/12/2008 17:22

lists are a good idea

lets face it, most men are usless at buying pressies and need all the help we give them

TWINSETinapeartree · 26/12/2008 17:33

that is a bit harsh kitty.

VirginBoffinMum · 26/12/2008 17:35

Mine is really good. I never give him a list and he always buys lovely things. I am currently loading up my new iPod as I type.

kittywise · 26/12/2008 17:40

twinset, I don't think so. A present is a gift given by someone to someone else. It is not something that should be expected.

I teach my children to be grateful for what they have received

The op is bang out of order.

Pixel · 26/12/2008 17:44

Fossa and Illegallybrunette, I've got the same ones! I now have toasty warm feet despite this draughty house, Lovely .

Flihgtattendant · 26/12/2008 17:49

I think OP sounds really spoilt as well

but then a lot of people surprise me by acting spoilt to their OH

Maybe it's the way you kind of test out a good man, being a princess about trivial stuff

I don't know - never had a man who gave me a decent present at all, or stuck around...maybe I should have acted up a bit.

My mum is very spoilt towards my dad

Never did understand that

TWINSETinapeartree · 26/12/2008 17:55

kitty I am not disgreeing about the presents but saying that you hope the OP has gone away to contemplate her awful behavior is OTT IMO.

jollyoldstnickschick · 26/12/2008 18:09

I collect fairies,and from dh i got a ornament of fairies cuddling encrusted with sparkly bits - ds 1 -15 said it looked like chavvyflesbian fairies (?) rather took the edge of for me lol .

I know people on mn have lost their dh this this and im sure they would have adored to have their dh with gifts of slippers even just for an hour

OP is imvho being very unreasonable.

jollyoldstnickschick · 26/12/2008 18:12

flight Maybe it's the way you kind of test out a good man, being a princess about trivial stuff..................was it you on another thread being really happy with several pairs of thick socs s your gift??

i would imagine that kind of easy to please nature would make you etremely desirable by most men lol

NAB3hundredChristmaslights · 26/12/2008 18:16

I asked for an apron and some pyjamas. I was very pleased to get both. I see the point about something you want, whatever it is, rather than wasted money, but never ever would I throw a tantrum and ask for things to be sent back.

Flihgtattendant · 26/12/2008 18:18

Jolly, I am loving the chav lesbo fairies

Brilliant.

Yes, you would think they'd be forming an orderly queue wouldn't you? What is that I hear? a dozen strapping gentlemen tripping over my doorstep? no, it is the cat falling off a wardrobe.

Bastards have neglected to turn up again

jollyoldstnickschick · 26/12/2008 18:21

when dh goes back to work ill put a pic of the fairies on my profile lol

jmum6 · 26/12/2008 19:25

Poor op, yes I do think pinktree is right to be annoyed, as it doesn't sound as if her dp/dh had put much thought or effort into her present.

I too would be disapointed.

Give her a break..it's christmas.