AIBU to be disappointed and quite frankly let down and pissed off with dh for getting me slippers for xmas?!

[pinktree]

Ok so am I or am I being spoilt?

I am angry, 30 wks pregnant and hormonal so don't be too harsh!

Oh and I made a detailed list for him back in November! Although we did only get paid on 20th Dec (Own business,long story, whole other thread!)

I've ordered him to take back everything and he's just gone out now

No he got nothing from 'the list' and I never wear slippers!

biskybat - mine are sheepskin and furry and red and soooooooooooo nice

i also told my dh excalty what i wanted - best way to go imo, then he cant fuck it up

i wanted slippers and got them, but it is tough to be disappointed with presents from your dp
it sounds like you have been quite clear in your expectations (i think many people go wrong here tbh) so not sure what to advise
hope you can sort it out together, try to remember he is your partner not your enemy

pinktree.......did he get you anything off your list??? even ONE thing?

arent your feet cold pinktree?

what did he get you then if he didnt buy anything from your list?

AND WE WILL BE THE JURY!!

agree if you dont wear slippers you maybe a bit peeved if you get them, but sure he meant well

I will let you know if he comes back with anything, he'll probably come back with something lovely then I feel really guilty

sorry.....x-posts.

I still (personally) think you are being unreasonable. he is a man, and therefore cannot get things like presents right, even with lists!

I know that seems like a cop-out for men, but it is true, in the same way that 'hormone-make-us-hell-to-live-with' is true.

at least he bought you something!!!

you could always swap with the pressie my mother bought me......a second hand bath bag containing NHS sanitary towels.

now That is a present!!!

There are people dying out there and you are on your high horse about slippers. This credit crunch is going to get alot worse and believe you me, slippers are goint to be the last thing on your mind.

I think you treated your husband like crap. You should be ashamed of yourself, what an example to set to your children.

And dont get bloshy to people who dont share your opinion, otherwise why do you ask.

I think your mistake might have been giving him the list in november - perhaps save it til the day he gets paid or go shopping with him?

In his mind he probably did try so I think you've been harsh telling him to take the presents back.

Did you ask him why he bought you those things?

They are a bit cold crispyduck damn...

as long as the sanitary towels werent second hand

I would have hated getting slippers for christmas. BUt then I never ever ever wear them.

Occasionally wear those totes toastie things (like slipper socks) but more often than not, am bare footed around the house. I get too hot with slippers.

I wouldn't have made him go out today to try harder though - think that's rather rude.

I did once ask DH to take a present back but..
it was because I thought he really got me something far to expensive. I asked him for a colander insted.
After the he was quite happy to bring it back in favour of my much needed kitchen utensil.

Sorry, posted too fast!

Pinktree, next year you could make a list of things you really don't want (but don't tell him that!) Maybe you will get something you really are desperate for.

pinktree - what else did he get you apart from slippers?

what was on your list?

I think if your dh told you he hated what you'd bought for him and ordered you to go out and take them back, we'd all be calling him all the names under the sun.

yep I think yabu too, men are notoriously bad at buying gifts, and I guess you are feeling let down and hormonal. Though over the top at him sending them back and getting you something else. We don't buy each other anything at Xmas, it leads to us buying tat we don't want or need, we might go shopping in the sales instead.

My ds is 2, we had a lovely day yesterday I bit my tongue the whole way through. I didn't have a tantrum or anything!

I am more than aware people are starving, we give to charity regularly; 20% of our earnings to various charities. My dh has an 'ethical' company in which 10% goes to charity...although I think this is another thread.

Wish I'd never posted

the towels tho, I hasten to add, were not second hand.

pinktree........don;t feel bad about posting, please. It is ok to feel pissed off about what yu got, if you truly don;t want them and would never wear them.

but

you will find (are finding), that posting in AIBU, and also telling us that yu have sent out your DH to change things, means that you will get a backlash.......hormonal and pregnant or not.

you have learnt a very valuable lesson tho.......never post if yiu are going to be upset by any possible negative response.

I don't......

ahh pinktree, don't worry about it, tis the nature of AIBU. You have provided a valueable service for people to vent some spleen ...though I think you are missing the bigger issue here, that my MIL gave me rubber gloves for christmas