AIBU to be disappointed and quite frankly let down and pissed off with dh for getting me slippers for xmas?!

[pinktree]

Ok so am I or am I being spoilt?

I am angry, 30 wks pregnant and hormonal so don't be too harsh!

Oh and I made a detailed list for him back in November! Although we did only get paid on 20th Dec (Own business,long story, whole other thread!)

I've ordered him to take back everything and he's just gone out now

I must add that they were the most stylish rubbish gloves I have ever seen...black with a kind of artdeco pattern at the top near the elbows...dh looks so fetching in them

Awww, Pinktree. Don't worry about it. Nothing wrong with posting, although AIBU is probably best avoided.

dont worry pinktree, sounds like your hormones are getting the better of you

pinktree dont feel about posting on here,its not the issue of the slippers but more that you told your man to take things back, and he did , bless him

guess if i got something i really wouldnt use, i would feel the same

he is trying to do the right thing, and tbh he prob cant please you at the moment as you are feeling hormonal, spotty and fat ( yours words)

lets hope dh comes back with something you do want!!

Sorry Biskybat but ROFL at the rubber gloves. I hope they were of the marigolds variety and not MIL's attempt to spice things up elsewhere!

they were indeed of the marigolds variety, but a glamorous version...its actually a bit of a running joke between us, she's not one of those evil MILs who would actually have me use them

This is AIBU, you are canvassing opinion. Nobody is being abusive, just many are disagreeing...you are being a bit silly to get huffy, you did ask! As it happens, I think I'd have been a bit disappointed too, but I wouldn't send him back out.

I am intrigued by your mention of charitable giving. Who can afford that much? Are the slippers encrusted in swarovski crystals?

Sorry pinktree, my post sounded nasty, foget how irrational you get when you are pregnant.

Make it up to him in some way, I am sure he was doing his best.

If I had bought you a present and you sent me back to the shops on Boxing Day I would tell you where to stick your slippers.

Dh got me nothing, where do you take that back too.
Stop being a spoilt madam.

I agree, slavetomykids.

Well, I can understand your disappointment, tbh, but don't think I would have made him take 'em back!

I'm guessing it's more an issue of how your DH views you (and how you are viewing yourself at the moment) I feel very vulnerable and ugly when I am pregnant. Maybe you are used to your dh giving you nice underwear or jewellery, which are presents you might give an attractive young girlfriend, and now he gives you slippers- which makes you feel like he sees you as a mumsy, frumpy old thing, hence the indignation- am I right? (Of course, if I'm not, I've probably just made you feel worse )

As a disclaimer- I'm NOT trying to say that only old frumpy people wear slippers (says she, sitting with her Aldi-special slipper socks on )

YANBU, Slippers I would give to the elder's of the family.

I think YABU, maybe he thought you would use the slippers in hospital when you have the baby.

If dh bought me a present I didn't really want I would never ask him to take it back.

No YANBU - presumably he asked you what you wanted, so you wrote him a list. He then proceeded to ignore the list and get something else. Why on earth should the OP be grateful for being ignored and overlooked. I bet she brought everything else, and got people what they asked for.

You did exactly the right thing having a strop and sending him out.

When we were courting my dh used to buy lovely gifts. The first couple of xmas's we were married he brought me crap. I honestly think he thought that as he now had a wife, he didn't actually have to make any effort. Ha ha, think again hubby. I had a nuclear tantrum the second time he did it. How dare he ask me what I want and then not get it .

Anyway I digress, my point being, if I hadn't had had a tantrum and shown off about it, I probably would have had slippers this year too. Instead I had some fabulous presents which I said about on the other thread.

So, have a mega tantrum now, make it clear that you expect to receive one of the things you've asked for and then come back next year and update us.

lol at nuclear tantrum nametaken.

You needed to be there really

I think you are being unreasonable, I have had nothing for Christmas and as an adult recognise it is not about presents. My Christmas has been very special because it has been spent with my special family and I am grateful to do for that.

i think that it is rude to be ungrateful and to demand your gifts are returned for not being good enough

don;t get this thing of a list of demands for Xmas.

I don't "demand" or even ask for anything at xmas.

However, if my dh asks me what I'd like, I tell him. That's OK isn't it? genuinely puzzled now.

I get the whole pregency thing though, I was outrageous throughout my pregnancy and if you can't do it then when can you? Maybe explain to dh that it is not about presents but you wanted to feel special. Maybe you can find a way of doing that together,

No, that is the general idea nametaken, if asked what you want by dh, you tell him and he doesn't give, you are then entitled to be disappointed. Normal human emotions I would have thought.

Yes I did which is the point I suppose that Christmas is not about material things.