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AIBU?

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Original poster

To make DS2 clean the entire house?

233 replies

MrsSnape · 19/12/2008 17:50

In the past few months DS2 (7) has:

Kicked a hole in his bedroom door
drawn all over his bedroom door in felt tip/biro
wiped poo on the bathroom wall because he couldn't be bothered to change the bog roll
Dropped endless food on the living room floor.
Spilt drinks all over the sofa
Wiped red paint all over the hallway wall
Riped my leather computer chair because he was 'bored'
Got red 'fake blood' all over DS1's carpet which will not come out
Wiped grubby hands on the sofa instead on going to wash them properly

And just now he had bolognese on his hands and I caught him casually wiping it on living room radiator.

Sick to death of it, he has no respect for anything.

I'm thinking tomorow I will give him so anti-bacterial wipes and send him around the house cleaning from top to bottom. Just like I have to every day.

AIBU?

OP posts:
aam · 20/12/2008 18:13

Point taken. Apologies if the truth is hard to take OP.

alfiemamagotstuckupthechimney · 20/12/2008 18:18

I think some of you need to have a look at the post again, MrsSnape has also mentioned that her ds has wiped red paint over the walls, surely this is nothing to do with tidy ness but something more severe than this.

Perhaps MrsSnape you may need to seek advice with this from you GP, especially considering your ds has Dypspraxia, as prettybutterfly mentioned earlier, there can be co morbid's with this.

aam · 20/12/2008 18:21

Oh it's starting again. The OP has clarified he is OK.

Why oh why does everyone on mumsnet have to have children with dramatic conditions?

Most children I know would smear paint on walls if they could get away with it.

Also, why is getting messy with red paint so severe?

OrmIrian · 20/12/2008 18:29

Not trying to justify anything.

aam · 20/12/2008 18:33

Yes you are. It's obvious you think I'm harsh. You must know first hand that I'm wrong and the OP is the parent of a 'perfect' child.

My opinion is nothing to do with you anyway.

Lotster · 20/12/2008 18:42

Oh btw Mrs Snape, as you said you were going to reply to each post... Just re-read mine and wanted to be clear; when I gave the example of being fobbed off with presents instead of attention thing when I was younger, I wasn't making any direct comparisons to you (just in case it sounded like it), just an example of kids picking up on stuff, as in your boy saying you preferred the other.

Hope you can filter out the nonsense on here and not let it get to you.

alfiemamagotstuckupthechimney · 20/12/2008 18:43

Perhaps if you weigh up the evidence, you will see that the op has said that her ds has dyspraxia, it is a well known fact that almost certainly people with this condition usually have co morbids, this isnt just something made up, it has been researched.

Also yes maybe for a 4 year old to smear paint but I wouldnt have thought a boy of his ages, also the op has said previously that she feels her son doesnt fit in and is sort of "geeky" almost, again a well known fact that Aspergers children tend to be classed as geeky or awkward. Op has also said that once her son went to a disco and gave a very strange answer to why he couldnt go, instead of saying he just couldnt, again another trait.

I agree that it is easy to label people, but perhaps, just perhaps you are wrong and at the end of the day it is not for us to diagnose but for her gp, which is what I am recommending, unless you tell me you work in this field and you are an expert.

aam · 20/12/2008 18:48

I think you are mixing her children up.
But if you arfe determined they have a problem, go ahead.

Listen to yourself. you know her personal situation as much as me.

No one is disregarding your opinion as unfounded and basically bollocks.

aam · 20/12/2008 18:50

All this rather than consistent parenting?

alfiemamagotstuckupthechimney - why are you asking if I'm an expert? You have done an excellent job of diagnosing her son.

jollyoldstnickschick · 20/12/2008 18:53

aam you are one nasty piece of work!

alfiemamagotstuckupthechimney · 20/12/2008 18:53

If you read my post aam, I am actually saying
at the end of the day it is not for us to diagnose but for her gp.

alfiemamagotstuckupthechimney · 20/12/2008 18:55

Perhaps the op needs help, not to be critisced.

aam · 20/12/2008 19:01

OMG. Anyone else want to have a go?

I'm simply saying that I think the OP would BU to make him clean the whole house with wipes when so far she has done nothing.

Oh except buy him a Wii.

These issues ( paint, poo, food spills ) need to be addressed straight away, not when the OP chooses to. Its very confusing for the child.

Am I the only one who has read the whole thread? The OP states she is not very tidy anyway. Previously she has referred to her house as a 'tip'.

jollyoldstnickschick · 20/12/2008 19:05

Oh well lets twist the knife a bit more insinuating her house is messy thats why her child has done this aam you certainly have a way with words.

alfiemamagotstuckupthechimney · 20/12/2008 19:07

whats the matter aam, do you feel like your being picked on

TwoCuteFestiveFairys · 20/12/2008 19:07

Totally agree with alfiemama - Reading some of the OPs posts there is a possible that there is something more going on here.

You are not a bad parent Mrssnape - despite some of the bollox posted on this thread, my adice would be to all clan the house together, ready for xmas and then watch you DS like a hawk and nail the little sod as soon as he miss behaves.

aam - Can i just say that as it is very clear that you know very little about SNs it perhaps best if you dont comment about it, as alfiesmama has a DS with ASD she probably is almost an expert .

aam · 20/12/2008 19:07

jollyoldstnickschick. Have you bothered to read this thread?

aam · 20/12/2008 19:11

I am not an expert on SN. That is not the issue. The OPs child does NOT have SN.

TwoCuteFestiveFairys - you need to stop arse licking love.

Again, why introduce SN unnecessarily?

alfiemamagotstuckupthechimney · 20/12/2008 19:14

Thanks Twocute (hope thats not constrewd as arse licking aam)

If you are not an expert on sn, how on earth can you say the ops child does not have sn

this *Imho 'condtions' are an easy cop out. Isn't amazing how many children have this. ALL children can have phases of challenging behaviour.

As parents we should deal with it rather than make labels up that absolve us of blame or require some effort* is offensive.

alfiemamagotstuckupthechimney · 20/12/2008 19:15

bollocks see youve got me riled now, hence the typos and stars.

aam · 20/12/2008 19:19

Read the thread. The OP said he hasn't got SN.

You are riled because you are self absorbed, this really isn't about you or SN.

Sorry to burst your bubble.

TwoCuteFestiveFairys · 20/12/2008 19:19

OHH errr - Arse lickin LOL PMSFL

He does have SN!!! he has Dyspraxia this is a SN!! FGS, what alfiesmama was saying is lots of SNs over lap with others - for example shite smearing ect is quite common for DCs with an ASD, this is fact not guess work!! oh and btw amm you need to stop talking out of your arse love

jollyoldstnickschick · 20/12/2008 19:19

By aam on Sat 20-Dec-08 19:07:56
jollyoldstnickschick. Have you bothered to read this thread?

yes i have read it yes i have seen your totally unnecesary comments and yes i do think you are nasty.

Lotster · 20/12/2008 19:20

aaam - Are you this unpleasant in RL or just when you can hide behind anonymity?

Have you noticed that no matter how many times you have posted, you have yet to find anyone who agrees with you? This should tell you something.

It's not "arse-licking" to choose your words carefully so as not to make a difficult situation harder - parenting is hard, a bit of solidarity wouldn't go amiss.

This thread wasn't about you.

aam · 20/12/2008 19:24

I'm entitled to state my opinion.

The arselicking was for TwoCuteFestiveFairys and her parenting expert friend.

They have turned simple parenting into parenting a special needs child with NO EVIDENCE.

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