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Original poster

To think that a party for 3 children is a step too far ?

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KatieDD · 17/12/2008 20:07

Am a bit peeved because my DD aged 4 is in a nice little group with three other girls and has today received an invite from all three to a joint party for all three of them.

Am seriously considering sending just a card.

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Ohforfoxsake · 17/12/2008 20:20

umm, you are the one complaining its not good enough and only going to send a card.

Why isn't it good enough, and what, in your eyes, would be?

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KatieDD · 17/12/2008 20:21

I'd be more than happy to drive DD to 30 parties, she is being robbed of parties ..... oh and of course all 30 will be coming to DD's single party in April.

A joint with 2 kids I can understand, we did it once (never again though 40 kids is too many).

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ScottishMummy · 17/12/2008 20:24

what a melodramatic overstatement "robbed of parties" for the millionth time don't exaggerate

morningpaper · 17/12/2008 20:25

They didn't cunningly plan to all be born in January. Are you really just feeling left out on behalf of your DD because she wasn't born in January so is not part of the 'January gang'?

After Christmas you will have a whole SACKLOAD of unwanted gifts so it will be easy to pass something on.

If you'd rather have something intimate, why not host a little tea-party for all the girls at your house? I've done this before for special friends' birthdays, it's rather nice.

cat64 · 17/12/2008 20:26

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stillenacht · 17/12/2008 20:26

I think it sounds good - only one crappy party to go to instead of three - result!

poinsettydog · 17/12/2008 20:27

you tightarse.

Spend £3-£5 on each present. Who cares

Ohforfoxsake · 17/12/2008 20:27

"robbed of parties" ROFL

nickytinseltimes · 17/12/2008 20:28

I love shared parties. Brilliant idea.

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KatieDD · 17/12/2008 20:28

DD1 went to 30 parties ...... all PFB's of course, DD2 went to at least 15 i'd say.
DD3 has been to one.

Yes I suppose I am a bit annoyed that these 4 are great friends and she's the odd one out, I'm not even sure the actual birth dates are all in January now you mention it, I'm pretty sure one is an August baby

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tassisssss · 17/12/2008 20:28

really don't see the problem with this.

dilemma456 · 17/12/2008 20:28

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KatieDD · 17/12/2008 20:29

Pointy it is because I am not a tight arse that i'm a bit pissed off, I hate buying landfill tat for the sake of it.

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dingdongmerrilyonpie · 17/12/2008 20:31

oh, if they are having a joint birthday party and it's not actually anyone's birthday then that's ODD.

morningpaper · 17/12/2008 20:32

You have THREE daughters and you honestly think you won't have some spare presents by January?!

Corriewatcher · 17/12/2008 20:32

Oh, I've just planned a joint party for DD with 3 of her best friends for end of Jan. All us mums thought it was a good idea. Only costs about £75 each, instead of usual massive expense. Plus we are inviting all 30 children in their Yr1 class - all other parties so far this year have been really small and mainly limited to just the children their DCs knew in reception. We saw this as a way of getting all 30 kids together so they can get to know each other better. And we won't be expecting people to bring a gift for each of the 4 children - we'll just suggest that if they want to bring a gift then please give it to X. I really don't see the problem in this so think YABU.

spicemonster · 17/12/2008 20:32

I think it sounds like you are pissed off that they are having a joint party without your DD. MP is right

ScottishMummy · 17/12/2008 20:32

well kate your dd will be even odder one out when tight wad mum turns up 1 card 3 girls.yes siree that will really endear you

ease up,graciously accept invite to samll do,for dd sake

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KatieDD · 17/12/2008 20:34

I think the other thing is I was planning a big Princess party for my DD in April, I'm planning to be pregnant next year, DH isn't working so I thought I'd do something very special for DD3 5th party as if things don't pick up it'll probably be the only one she has, but as nobody else seems to be making an effort I'm inclined to think fuck it.

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KatieDD · 17/12/2008 20:34

They can have a card each, it's not one between three of them.

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poinsettydog · 17/12/2008 20:35

I don't geddit. You can't think of a non-tat present for under a tenner, is that it?

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KatieDD · 17/12/2008 20:35

Corriewatcher, which of her three best friends do I buy for then ??

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daydreambeliever · 17/12/2008 20:35

This seems ridiculous, YABU. Is it just the 'parents are tightwads/have to buy 3 pressies for only one party' issue thats bothering you or is it that they havent included your DD in the party gang, even though its not even all of the three girls birthdays in january? Well I would find that a bit hurtful on DD's behalf if her 3 best buddies had a not even birthday party (IYKWIM) and she was left out.

ScottishMummy · 17/12/2008 20:36

fair enough.make some goodies,go along,who knows might be fun

OhLITTLEFISHofBethlehem · 17/12/2008 20:36

ROFL at "Robbed of parties". What an absolutely ridiculous thing to say. You sound like a melodramatic teenager.