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Original poster

To find that parents with kids aged 10 insisting their children believe in Santa are creepy?

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ssd · 14/12/2008 09:28

I know of some mums who insist their kids believe in santa and the kids are taller than me, whats wrong with kids NOT believing in santa?, doesn't make you a bad parent

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ssd · 14/12/2008 19:50

usually when a parent says to me "shame on you" for something I've done it makes me question the conversation, hence me asking here AIBU?

if they said thats your business I wouldn't question it, but the "shame on you" comment made me wonder

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TheVirginGoober · 14/12/2008 19:52

I don't insist my DS1 (14) believes in Santa. He just does. He has ASD.
I'd like to say Fuck you, but, I won't.

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ssd · 14/12/2008 19:54

I'd like to reply Fuck you, but I won't either

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CrackopentheBaileys · 14/12/2008 19:57

Even though I don't agree with the OP, I think that it's unfair to take it as an insult towards your 14 year old with ASD.
I'm pretty sure OP hasn't mentioned anything about children with SN?

lottiejenkins · 14/12/2008 20:06

Well said Virgin...........i posted earlier about my ds with special needs whos 12 and still believes........

SugarSkyHigh · 14/12/2008 20:07

YANBU
The other mother at the school gate sounds weird - I don't understand the 'shame on you' thing at all. i think a large amount of the FC thing is for the parents' benefit not the child, and quite possibly gives them a sense of power

TheGashlycrumbTinies · 14/12/2008 20:07

Only had time to read the initial post, I find it an odd comment, and I see from your details you are a childminder.

TheVirginGoober · 14/12/2008 20:08

Thanks lottie. I am 36 and I still believe.
Santa IS christmas.

SugarSkyHigh · 14/12/2008 20:10

what do you mean you are 36 and you still believe? i don't know what you mean. Obviously you don't believe.

CatchaChristmasStar · 14/12/2008 20:15

Think you are being a bit unreasonable.

You'll probably find that most children this age are humouring their parents by saying they believe. I found out at 6 that Santa wasn't real, but didn't tell my parents I knew until I was 10.

Fail to see how it makes a parent creepy though.

allgonebellyup · 14/12/2008 20:20

my dd is 9 and still believes in santa, although she is doubting it now. She is not a slow reader by any means, nor is she very very very very sheltered

think i was about 10/11 when i realised, and my dad died at the same time, so it was a time to grow up in all ways.

Litchick · 14/12/2008 20:21

I8 assumed nmy kids (9yrs but mix with lots of 10yrs) wouldn't believe this year - but they do.
They wrote letters to him, posted them ( sorry GPO) and have desided that this yera one carrot between the whole gang of deers aint enough.
Should I tell them? Seriously I don't have the heart and find it adorable.

lottiejenkins · 14/12/2008 20:28

I think Virgin is having a joke Sugar....... You know ha ha ha! Dont be so flaming serious!!

ABudafulSightWereHappyTonight · 14/12/2008 20:31

There are loads of 10 year olds who still believe. Maybe they don't really but they certainly still want to. Nothing creep about it. Cannot fathom why anyone thinks it is creepy or odd. Children have to grow up far too quickly these days in a lot of ways. Let them hang on to the magic as long as possible in my view.

evenmoremiserablethanbefore · 14/12/2008 20:40

My nearly 10 year old daughters friend told her santa didnt exist....so she asked Mum {who knows everything!! }
I said of course he does.
I,m amazed that she does actually still believe in him and glad to keep the magic going that bit longer....if not for the sake of my other daughter who's 6 and is totally in awe of the whole Xmas thing.They have driven me mad today,with,'how many more days till Xmas,Mum !!!'
She has another 18 months of Primary school,but I will probably tell her the truth {if she asks} before going to Secondary school.
I like to keep them as 'my little girls' for as long as I can,before they start with the horrible,spotty boyfriends,smoking and 'getting pissed in the park' years!
OMG !!!!!!!

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ssd · 14/12/2008 20:47

my original opening posts or any subsequent posts DIDN'T MENTION kids with SN, so no need to take anything as an insult

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wannaBe · 14/12/2008 20:47

Why on earth are you so bothered about what other children believe?

If I posted a thread saying "parents who still think their 10 year olds believe in God are a bith creepy" would that be ok? Because ultimately it amounts to the same thing. Obviously we as adults know that FC isn't real, but similarly there is no proof that God is real, the religious could be perpetuating the same type of fantacy on to their children and no-one dare say anything about that.

lottiejenkins · 14/12/2008 20:49

No you didnt but you DID say that us parents are creepy! That WAS insulting!!

LynetteScavo · 14/12/2008 20:53

Goober I too am 36 and beilive.

Next you lot will be telling us there are calories in mince pies.

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ssd · 14/12/2008 20:54

and sigh I don't find kids who do believe at 10 creepy, I find the parents who INSIST that their children at 10 DO believe creepy as they seem to find it makes them a better parent to say they have believing children

why do people not read threads but post at the op with insults before reading their replies?

now I'm insulting SN kids, calling kids 10 and over creepy, oh and how dare I? I'm a childminder, I should know better

so a lot of kids aged 10 and over still really believe in santa, thats great, just don't make me feel like a bad parent if I tell you my ds doesn't believe, thats what I find creepy.

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ssd · 14/12/2008 20:55

wannaBe, you go ahead and post what you like, this is what MN is all about

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ABudafulSightWereHappyTonight · 14/12/2008 20:56

Maybe their kids DO believe in FC and they come across as insisting as they are fed up with people insinuating that there is something wrong with a child still believing in FC?

lottiejenkins · 14/12/2008 20:58

I didnt say that you said children were creepy i just said that i was insulted that you said parents were creepy..and then elaborated the reasons why my son who has special needs still believes!!!

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ssd · 14/12/2008 21:00

its not the insisting thats creepy, its the insinuating that I'm not a good parent for telling ds the truth eg the "shame on you " comment

so here's another one

what do you say to a 10 year old (that you insist never lies to you) when he asks if santa is real?

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lottiejenkins · 14/12/2008 21:01

I didnt say you werent a good parent! This is getting ridiculous now!

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