to want my DS to attend a more white than black school?

[NattyTurkeyAndEggnog]

am posting this timidly in case it is misinterpred...

there is a choice of two catholic schools locally, one is three quaters black african, and the other is three quaters white british.

now i said to dh that id prefer the white majority school, as i feel my white children would fit in better, and i would with the other parents. i dont mean it in a way that i think white ppl are better, or anything like that, in fact the other school has higher exam results. just that i am concerned with sending my child to a school that they will be very much a minority.

but DH said that he should go to the better results school.

now im torn, because im very aware that kids pick up on a child being different, and i was bullied horrendously in school.

please dont read this as a black/white thing, i would feel the same about him going to a non-religous school for the same reasons.

ok i will stand back and wait for the back lash now

Racism is worse than swearing in my opinion.
YABVU

Natty, it really wasn't a good idea to mention the "lower the tone of the thread."
I fear more flaming will be arriving.

course i am deeeja and ur a shining example of reasonable behaviour

Deeja (from one brown-skinned person to another) I think you should read the whole thread.

Also, in the the UK you can say that you want your child to go to a Muslim school.

And the UK taxpayer will pay for it, even though their child can't necessarily go to the same school.

But that's a whole other thread.

Lower the tone? You mean it could get lower than it is already? I've reported this thread to MN because I loathe the sentiment that inspired the thread and the thread title itself.

i feel like ive got my own thread bouncers

I don't need to read the whole thread to realise that the op is making a racist statement in the title.

'Am I being unreasonable to want my child to attend a more white that black school. then going on to say that the predominantly black school has better results.'

It really is of no consequence what other justification the op has come out with in the face of a well deserved roasting. The fact of the matter is that it is unreasonable to want your child to go to a certain school based on predominant race.

Do not try to justify that. You can't.

Quattrocento i already requested it be removed as i didnt want to upset anyone..
mumsnet said they wouldnt

Yes Natty I am: extremely shiny and very reasonable!
I have read most of the thread, but unless the op has changed her mind, then she is being very unreasonable.
I don't need to read a whole list of excuses.
Racism is a very lowly and wholly unreasonabe attitude to have. It stinks.

If she thinks her child with SN will find it easier. What more justification does she need?

I'd agree that in the long term he may be OK, but she is a typical parent wanting her kid to be OK at school.

Would you have been as upset if she'd said that she doesn't want her DS to go to school with 75% white non-English speaking pupils?

Well why would they? It is not down to Mumsnet to tidy up your ignorant mistakes.

After all, you did ask if you were being unreasonable. Yes you are.

ok well im off to bed now, as i have to get up with my kids in the morning
look forward to seeing how much flaming this gets by the morning, it is also interesting to see how many ppl on here look beyond what they see.
good night god bless!
xx

Coloured??

ooo herb - you're going to get your wrists slapped for using the "C" word

The bottom line is that your op (and opinion) is racist.

I deduce from Bauble's post that you have thrown special needs into the equation to muddy the waters. Shame on you.

The BNP use all kinds of justifications too. Doesn't make them right, extreme right wing, but not right.

no - not by me - I call my DS's coloured too - but I've been shot down in flames on here before for using the term because of it's racist connotations.

When exH and I were first discussing having chidlren we spent many hours wondering what our coloured children would look like (utterly gorgeous as it turns out ). We were living in Zimbabwe at the time where that is what they are known as - officialy! (unofficialy they refer to themselves as Goffals)

Well two of my children have asd, but I fail to see how that can be a reason to make a decision in this manner. The choice should be which school provides better for her child's sn, not which is most white!

Oh, not this again. I hate that backwards word 'coloured,'just say mix raced FFS. Trust me, you will sound more intelligent.
Night all.

I've found the oppoiste with my DS's. They've recognised from very early on that people are different colours.

Although evidently DS1 at about 1yr old got rather confused thinking that all black men were his daddy as he jumped up and down excitedly pointing at the TV when my mum was watching a programme about the Pygmy Tribe