To put my 6 week old baby in to nursery for 1 half day a week so i can have a break?

[babylovesmilk]

I am pregnant with my 3rd child and am planning to put my new baby in nursery from 9 -1, 1 day a week. My other DC will be at school. I had PND with my last child, have no family nearby and think the break will be a life line. AIBU?

Foe me, i would feel as though i had my arm cut off but personal choices and all that.

I must admit every Nursery I have worked in/had anything to do with dosnt take under 3 months.

Cm's may well do tho.

yanbu and congratulations

I still think that you should re-consider a childminder. Yes, you are trusting your child to one person, but surely that's the most natural thing for such a young baby. I just don't believe that a nursery can offer the same level of continuity to very young children. (and I've worked in a nursery).

Childminders are registered with Ofsted, CRB checked etc. etc and provide care in a home environment which is more appropriate for very very young babies. I really would urge you to go and visit a couple before dismissing the option.

YANBU at all!
If you has family nearby they would probably take LOL for a few hours to give you a break - you are just paying for an alternative - and if it somewhere you have used before and happy with it - even better!
Dont feel bad, dont seek to justify it, dont seek approval just do what YOU need to

littlefish

I know I would find it difficult to trust a childminder with my baby but I will think about it and prehaps visit some!

It beggers belief.

The fact that you already have a relationship with this nursery is a good thing. I am sure this would be fine and give you a nice break.

beepers

Would you care to shed light on your comment. I am asking if AIBU?

I do understand BLM - you want to be sure that your baby is going to be safe and well cared for.

I think you might be pleasantly surprised if you go an visit a couple of childminders. You might find someone who you click with straight away.

Would echo that you are unlikely to find a nursery able to take a 6 week old baby.

I could not have done this with my children when they were 6 weeks old. Too young IMHO.

However, your baby: your choice.

Why are you havuing another kid if you already think you can't cope?
Seems odd to me.

But if pushed and HAD to, there is no way I would put a tiny baby in a nursery at that age - would be more comfortable with a nanny or childminder, with the baby being cared for in a home environment, the quieter the better.

I just don't think four hours once a week would be worth it. If you really are going to find it hard to cope, then you'll need far more regular help then that.

Was pondering, and was just going to post along belgo's lines - are you sure that a 4 hour break will make that much of a difference?

Could you not have a 4 hour break at weekend with your partner having the 3 children as a sibling group as an alternative?

And would you actually feel like you could enjoy the time, guilt free with the baby at the nursery? Or would it add to the stresses?

Thank you Hedgewitch - could'nt have put it any better myself.

Why would you pay for half a morning's nursery when the baby will be asleep for most of the time ?
Do you not have a nice neighbour who would have him/her for a couple of hours, I would be delighted if my neighbour asked me to have her little one.

agree with pooka. Get your partner to look after the baby for an hour or so each evening, and for a few hours at the weekend. This is what I am doing since ds (aged five weeks ) was born. In the evenings it means I can recharge my batteries ready for the night time.

Still seems odd to me.
I find people to easily making themselves victims of circumstances.

Had somoenoe tall me in work the other day that she knew sometihng was going to 'test her relationship and maybe break it'.Felt like shoulting 'Well don't bloody well let it then!'

I think a short break during the week will make the world of difference - ME time. I will have help from DH at the weekends and possibley a break then too. IMO Mums feel guilty about lots of things BUT I think I will enjoy the child free time.

moondog - if the OP knows she'll need help, then looking for help is actually a good way to stop her becoming the victim of circumstances iyswim.

Why garner opinion in that case?

Katie

The baby will keep going until school. I would'nt ask anyone for this amount of help.

if you want to relax at home then yes a cm would be better than a nanny

moondog - just beacuse the op wants a few hours to herself, doesnt mean she isnt coping

its those few hours which will inable her to cope by chilling out/have time to herself/sleep etc

sure most nurseries wont have under 3mths but you never know