Would you let your dc be driven by another parent, to their house , for a play date?

[DabblesinDebate]

AIBU not to want this?

think other parent thinks i am weird because i said I would pick dc up after school and follow them in car to their house, and drop off.

I agree with Lockets.

But to be quite honest, it makes you sound madder than a box of frogs.

You are handing over responsibility by letting them go on a playdate! If this particular thing is your hang-up (and we do all have them) then fine, stick to your guns. However, if this is just one of your many hang-ups around releasing control of your child then I think you should take a good look at exactly what you expect and how realistic that is.

yabu I'm afraid.
dd is often driven by other people - sometimes my dad or friends, or the lady who comes to pick her up from school and take her to after school club. I couldn't work if I didn't allow this!

you are nuts.

seriously.

I always drive more carefully with other people's dc's in my car as I would be beside myself if anything happened when their mum had placed her trust in me. I'm sure she will feel the same about driving your dc.

Does nobody agree with me?

I cant be THIS paranoid?

Driving is dangerous.

(freak out emoticon)

(goes to check dc's can breathe under all the cotton wool they are wrapped in...)

Yes, driving IS dangerous-on top gear. But in school run traffic, not so much

unless she's given her a skateboard and told her to hold on to the back bumper.. you're dd will be fine

and you seriously need to unwind. What ar eyou going to be like when she's downing 2litres of cidar in the local park lol

yabu

How long have you known this person,even vaguely.?f they seem a decent sort of person and your dc's get on well you need to be brave and let your dc go.

If for some reason you feel uneasy about this person then you need to go with your instinct and cancel play date,get to know them more and see how you feel then

I went to collect DS's 2 friends at the beginning of half term - I had a HBB for them (same as DS's) and their parents were fine with it (after clocking the seat, I must add - which is only fair enough).

I then drove all three children all on HBBs 2 miles to the bowling party for DS.

Then I drove them home.

The parents seemed fine with this idea, so I think YABABD (you are being a bit daft) but not necessarily unreasonable

You'll be OK when it's happened for the first time, and your DC is home again, safe and well.

It'll be fine - let your DC go in the other parent's car - that's all part of the fun for your DC.

It is actually quite rude really when you think about it, because basically you are saying to them that you don't trust them with your child, and that perhaps they aren't a safe driver.

They have their own child in the car and so I am sure they are as careful as you are with your child in your car.

Although dd went on a playdate once and I followed the car so I knew where to pick up from (but ended up staying anyway as she had cake!) and was really that she didn't use her indicators

Dd was in car in front btw with playdate freind

my friend's dcs like coming in my car, it's a novelty for them.
If anything I'd be more careful with someone else's dcs in the car.

By Pawslikepaddington on Thu 06-Nov-08 23:12:41
Although dd went on a playdate once and I followed the car so I knew where to pick up from (but ended up staying anyway as she had cake!) and was really that she didn't use her indicators

Everyone has different drving standards. why compromise on with your childs safety!!!

I have a friend who had a real problem with her children being driven by other people...she was actually suffering from depression and this over anxiety was one of the symptoms..she's fine now.

It was only down the road really and we were in left turn only lanes, and like I said it was bumper to bumper traffic-if dd hadn't been safe she wouldn't have gone in the car with them again. That is a good safeguard though if you are worried-say dd can go in her car, but you will follow just so you know where to pick up from. It's a plausible excuse and you can check out their driving at the same time.

When dd was a baby - well at least under 2, the nursery used to take them to soft play in a minibus. You left your car seat and relied on them to strap them in and drive safely. I always let her go but worried madly so I don't think yabu to have those feelings.....but I figured there was ALWAYS going to be a first time when this happened - be they 2, 5 or 16. Now dd goes on trips on the school coach (they are fitted with seatbelts). I always worry just a little.....but you can't keep them wrapped up at home for ever.

I don't think YABU. I do think YAB over-anxious.

This woman is going to have your child in her home (were you planning to hang around during the playdate too?) so unless you have very good reason to think she has a drink problem or personality disorder, you can safely entrust your child to her for the (I assume) short drive there.

How well do you know her? Could you go for a coffee after school drop-off one day? You might feel less anxious if you get to know her a little.

I don't understand. Why aren't you falling over yourself to accept the offer?

By Quattrocento on Thu 06-Nov-08 23:21:17
I don't understand. Why aren't you falling over yourself to accept the offer?

Why would I be? I dont want to offload my children, I dont feel comfortable them being in someone elses care. I dotn want them to go to other ppls houses unsupervised. and eat food i havent prepared....

(i am paranoid, i guess)

but they are the most prescious thing in the world and i want to protect them for as long as i can....