I know I am but I'm going to do it anyway!

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DD2 is now 6mths, has been bf on demand mostly and is fully weaned on 3 meals with desserts, juice from a cup and the occasional snack. She is still demanding night feeds which I feel she shouldn't need if she took good feeds at 10 and 230. Instead she faffs with these and wants milk during the night. I have now decided to quit breast feeding as she will not take bottles- so it is all bottles or none iyswim. I hope that being able to see how much she takes during the day and a gentle prod to take more will reduce night feeding. I have dusted off the GF book which I used with dd1 (and who has only had a handful of disturbed nights since 3mths!) in the hope that the routine will get me some modicum of sleep. I am knackered.

I know it is unreasonable to give up bf for the sake of my sleep, however, dd1 is constantly tired (2.9mths) and is behaving awfully because of it. The baby disturbs her sleep every night

I just needed to vent sorry! Grrr to all those people who say babies get their own pattern and start sleeping eventually- I can't wait til 'eventually' happens!

Well, tori, you're certainly recognisable, I'll give you that

I agree macdoodle- I hadn't read the thread when I made my first remark.
I wish I hadn't bothered.
I think the OP sounds like a decent mum- whay don't you all save your venom for someone doing something terrible

VS why did you bother joining the thread when you knew you had completely different views. I said I needed to vent and that to many of you I am being unreasonable. It turns out its only really the old faithfull tree huggers who think IABU.

VS why did you bother joining the thread when you knew you had completely different views. I said I needed to vent and that to many of you I am being unreasonable. It turns out its only really the old faithfull tree huggers who think IABU.

I can't believe how many HVs still advocate such early weaning when the government guidelines are six months. They are that for a reason. We make advances in our knowledge about health all the time, just because we 'turned out okay' doesn't mean it won't affect our children.

I know of some people who started offering foods before six months but I thought giving rice at 13 weeks was widely accepted to be high risk a long time ago.

How can going cold turkey and completely stopping breastfeeding at six months be anything other than traumatic for a small baby?
If they won't take a bottle at six months and you are desperate to start weaning then I would wait a bit and try a cup, cut down gradually not force it.

Babies do wake up a lot. We seem culturally obsessed with a 'good nights sleep' meaning a solid stretch and actually sleep goes in cycles. Some babies take longer than others to settle into an adults perception of a good night. It is hard sometimes, no-one is saying it isnt but it is a balance of everybody's needs, including the baby.

I am a banshee after some bad nights though, so I do understand how it feels. I'm just not sure that a drastic switch to formula will give you this golden sleep.

Marla... who on the thread exactly has proclaimed that their babies are "inconviniences and problems that need fixing"??

So are you saying that because we have used a form of cc that is how we view our children?

You honestly don't think that you are spoiling for a fight by making a comment like that?? Really don't get it.

My baby has never been force fed and certainly has never had her mouth opened by force for a spoon to be jammed in as suggested. She opened her mouth for food at 13wks without word of a lie. At 4mths she was trying to chew it!
Just as growth is at different rates, brain development for speech, movement etc, so do digestive systems mature at different rates. Most babies don't loose the tongue thrust reflex until 6mths, dd2 lost hers at 16wks.

As a nurse I am capable of looking at poo and deciding if it is normal or can see undigested food/fatty looking poo because a digestive system can't cope with it because I know what to look and smell for!

Who has suggested that their baby is an "inconvienience"??

MarlaSinger most of your posts have been about cc which I didn't even mention in the OP. I think you are spoiling for a fight
I am also at how much you need to swear in your posts. I have managed to keep a civil tongue despite the barrage of personal attacks on my parenting.

ROFL at MarlaSinga If I look at my poo after sweetcorn or raisins they aren't digested. Sweetcorn doesn't breakdown and has very little nutritional value to children so I don't feed it!

You see, mine are not an inconvience AT ALL. They sleep from 7pm til 8am... (without waking "loads" i'm always up before them waiting for them to wake. The youngest has a 2 hour nap every day whilst the eldest is at school so i get my feet up and watch the tele...

But hey, letting them cry for 10 mins at a time in the early days was "cruel" eh??!!!

I see now, it's you who sees your children as an "inconvenience".

Anyway, I seem to have come to a happy medium now. Bottle ff for breakfast, small ff and top up from me at 230, bottle ff 1830 and top up ff at 2230. Considering I have gone from 3-1 bf per day in 3 days I have no engorgement/pain in boobs and no let down if dd2 cries etc. I have to seriously question my supply before I changed to ff.

Blimey.

And there was me thinking that when you had a baby and became a mother their needs came before yours.

Guess I didn't get the manual with mine that says otherwise.