To put DD to bed without any dinner...

[PeppermintPatty]

...because she refused to eat what I've made made her.

She kept asking for a banana but I said no, she had to at least attempt to eat her soup.

She refused and had a massive tantrum She's only 14 months old, but very stubborn.

I'm certainly not going to make her something else, and I feel if I give in to her she'll be demanding a banana every meal time.

So I'm going to put her to bed without any dinner.

AIBU

Tamarto only a select few have said she is a troll or abusive and I bet they said that without reading all posts done by OP also some people were generally shocked at what OP was saying she was given good advice.

PP keep posting just be careful how you word things on here and if you dont want to be flamed down then post in chat

YABVU.
She's only 14 months old! Give her the banana - it's healthy and nutritious. It'snot like she's wanting sweets. She'll soon grow out of it if you give in to her every time.

Gateau - she was given the banana.

Your post was interesting though i wonder what the advice would have been if the child had been asking for sweets?

SERIOUSLY THE PROBLEM HAS BEEN SOLVED!!! STOP SLATING THE OP SHE GAVE HER CHILD THE BANANA I REPEAT THE CHILD HAS HAD THE BLOODY BANANA!!!! LOL HOPEFULLY WILL STOP PEOPLE WRITING.

OP I know how you feel. DS used to eat quite a variety of food but now he's down to raisins, bananas, sweetcorn, cereal, bread, crackers, erm a couple of other things. Very little protein, but he used to eat turkey and cheese and the odd lentil. If we give him sweetcorn at a meal he focuses on that and wants more to the exclusion of everything else. If no sweetcorn, he demands raisins. I get frustrated about this as it seems to me that he is stuck in a rut - he has liked other food in the past but now it gets thrown on the floor without a glance.On the very odd occassion he tries something new these days he gets loads of praise even if it then goes on the floor anyway after a lick.
Anyway, I suppose this thread has been useful in reinforcing my don't stress attitude. I can tell that my mum and MIL think I'm pandering to him and should be stricter, as well as cutting down on the breastmilk.
Anyway, sorry for hijack!

A wee bit ott there, some people don't have time to read the whole thread and are just giving their opinion. I'm sure the op realises this!

Dd (16mo) has started doing this as well. Refusing her dinner but then eating yoghurt and toast afterwards. To be honest, as much as it bugs me, as I know she's hungry, I'd rather make her the toast than have her go to bed hungry.

Pick your battles.

Am I the only one who is at the general opinion that a 14mo will sleep through the night?

Calm down mamadiva. And I wasn't slating the OP. Was just telling her she was unreasoable, which is what she asked.
Bloody hell! I'm at work and didn't have time to read the whole thread; only the oP'S comment.

bananagate roffle

I once watched gecko eat spaghettie bvoognaise and strawberry ice-cream TOGETHER

she loved it and I smiled lots and wibbled inside

Did no one see my LOL?

No we didn't - all the big in-your-face capital letters were in the way.

mamadiva are you actually peppermint patty?

I was thinkig that, Enid. Strange to get so precious about someone else's post.

I'm not peppermint, I'm always on here. all soap boxed because I got abuse about the same thing a few months ago when DS wouldn't eat anything at all. HV told me too put him to bed without and I got child abuse etc flung at me and it made me feel farking awful so I just hate to think of some poor woman sitting feeling like shit even though she was doing what she thought was best.

haven't read all the posts, but at 14 months my personal thinking is that it is over the top. Can understand that any parent doesn't want to give in and make a rod for your own back and the child's when it comes to eating, but 14 months is very little. I thought, as some others did, when I read the title of the post that your dd was about 7.

well why didnt you tell her not to do it then if it made you feel so shit when you did it?

Maybe, but don't get so aggressive just because someone , ie me, is saying YABVU. You were out of order and not so nice yourself.

I have not read all the thread, but I think 14 mo is a little young to be putting to bed without dinner. I see that she had the banana now. I make it a general rule that never to refuse fruit to my DS, there are certain circumstances, like if I was just dishing up a meal, if would suggest he waits until afterwards. However, if he asked for a banana in the middle of the night I would let him have one! Never refuse them something that is good for them.

sigh...mamadiva...it won't work...I tell ya...

And yes, people may not have the time to read the entire thread...but usually you have time to read teh first page and the last few posts at least...
Thing is, it just isn't helpful when the situation is resolved, OP realised error of way and feeling already rotten, when people then keep coming on to just give make a point made a trillion times before..is it...

I dont care if it has been resolved

can I put on record that I think refusing dinner to a 14 month old is shit.

thank you.

There are 9 pages on here, 3andnomore. Not everyone has the time to read them all (thank goodness I'm not that bored!!). So we see the thread for the first time - because it's still up there - and reply, as you do. Who's 'just making a point'? What is the problem?

Mamadiva - your post made me laugh - 'repeat the child has had the bloody banana'!!

No Enid I am not mamadiva, but would like to thank her for sticking up for me

Pardon me for being interested!................