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Original poster

To put DD to bed without any dinner...

298 replies

PeppermintPatty · 08/09/2008 19:07

...because she refused to eat what I've made made her.

She kept asking for a banana but I said no, she had to at least attempt to eat her soup.

She refused and had a massive tantrum She's only 14 months old, but very stubborn.

I'm certainly not going to make her something else, and I feel if I give in to her she'll be demanding a banana every meal time.

So I'm going to put her to bed without any dinner.

AIBU

OP posts:
3andnomore · 09/09/2008 12:02

btw, just red Daphnes message and your message wasn't actually an unreasonable reply....
but I am sure you have seen how many still posted kinda nasty replys, dispite it being sorted, iykwim

DaphneMoon · 09/09/2008 12:14

No I know it wasn't unreasonable, I was just putting my opinion across. I thought that's what MN was for.............

ElenorRigby · 09/09/2008 12:20

Sorry havnt read the whole thread but Id say she is too young for that treatment. If she was 4+ Id say yes but at 14 months shes still a baby.

DaphneMoon · 09/09/2008 12:29

Be careful Elenor, I just got blasted for not reading the entire 10 pages and daring to make an opinion.

VinegarTits · 09/09/2008 12:33

Oh ffs you dont need to read all 10 pages, but at least read the first and last 10 post or however many you need, to get the jist of how the thread has turned out instead of wading in, its fucking ignorance imo

DaphneMoon · 09/09/2008 12:37

I agree sometimes there is no need to read all the pages. I read the first and last. I usually try to read all of them, but when there is 10........well I have a life and there is ironing to be done etc......... which I really must get off this thread and go and do

Gateau · 09/09/2008 12:43

VT - people can read as few or as many posts posts as they like and reply how and when they like. It's an OPEN forum. What's with all this dictating stuff I've seen on here?

VinegarTits · 09/09/2008 12:45

Of course they can, people can do what the fuck they like, show their arses and do cartwheels, its still ignorant.

Gateau · 09/09/2008 12:48

In your opinion, maybe. And so is swearing - in my opinion.

3andnomore · 09/09/2008 12:54

daphne your post was fine...but it was on the previous page from when you posted about your interest...you obviously were actually interested and not just out to have a bitch....
so, really twasn't at you at all

ooops...hadn't posted it earlier...had to rush of to get ys to school

ElenorRigby · 09/09/2008 12:55

lol people will argue about anything!

3andnomore · 09/09/2008 12:58

thing is...if you just wade in, you may receive negative responses gateau !

Gateau · 09/09/2008 13:02

I'm replying to the OP's first comment; nobody else's. Most of the negative responses come from people with an axe to grind so I don;t care about them. If the situation has since been resolved, so what? The initial question is still there!!
Nice photo of you and your kids, btw. I like your hair. I love short hair, although mine isn't.

3andnomore · 09/09/2008 13:04

fair comment gateau...
and was that compliment to me...than thank you!

and if it wasn't at me....

Gateau · 09/09/2008 13:05

It was to you, yes.

3andnomore · 09/09/2008 13:15

phew...that would have been so embaressing if you hadn't meant me

gosh...that Baby on that picture started school last week..unbelievable!

Gateau · 09/09/2008 13:17

Just thinking, we can all get so shitty on these threads. But really, they mean nothing, do they? Not when we have our lovely - and I hope - healthy families.

RedHead81 · 09/09/2008 13:19

Gateau - well said!

BexieID · 09/09/2008 13:23

If Tom (2.5) doesn't eat his dinner we do still offer him yoghurt/fromage frais for his calcium intake as he won't drink milk. I do try not to let him have anything other then the yoghurt if hes not eaten a reasonable amount of dinner.

We used to give him banana if he didn't eat his dinner. Sometimes he wouldn't even eat the banana, so he has gone to bed hungry in the past. In fact we used to give him 2 or 3 things that he wouldn't eat. The only thing he will eat is shepherds pie, but we do give him other meals that usually go uneaten.

3andnomore · 09/09/2008 13:23

hm...I think it depends..if you already feel low, than a thread like that could upset you....

must admit...I once opened a thread in AIBU (and may I add, I saw the light and yes I was unreasonable)...but I had opened the thread to have a good ole rant and all that...and, I had to gulp hard when people were saying all sorts to me...
luckily the thread didn't go on for tooo long, lol!
But people made quite a few assumptions about my person, which I found ....but the way my rant sounded made me sound like that person, I suppose...not sure if it makes sense...

some people, I do get the feeling, find anyone opening a post on AIBU to be fair game for ridicoule and abuse...someone else suggested it might be better to have a ranting section rather then AIBU, that way those AIBU would be posted on different boards and maybe would be taken more seriously and the people that rant, everyone will know that that is what they are doing....and we all need a good rant at times ...well, I do anyway

Pesha · 09/09/2008 13:25

Ok stopped reading thread about half way through but wanted to say to OP my ds2 (16months) says 'nana' to mean all food, started from banana but since about your dd's age has come to mean all food. Also when he was about 14 months he went through a stage of refusing to eat anything unless he could feed himself with a spoon. Serioulsy he just refused everything unless he had some sort of cutlery to eat it with!

Perhaps your dd likes bananas as its something she can say and something she can feed herself rather than you feeding her as you presumably would be with soup. Maybe next time you try to give her something and she asks for nana try offering her something different like an apple or toast that she can feed herself.

Could it be that she just likes the independance of asking for something and nana is the only food she can say/think of to ask for?! Why not try giving her something boring to start with and if she rejects that then try giving her the healthy meal you want her to eat so she feels as if she got to choose it and she may just eat the lot!

BexieID · 09/09/2008 13:26

ATM, hes sat eating the left over chips on my plate (have to have dinner this time as I work late) and hes not touched his lunch!

TheHedgeWitch · 09/09/2008 13:31

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casbie · 09/09/2008 13:35

i used to just feed my little ones from my plate.

they enjoyed it a lot more and i got to sit down for a few minutes, without having constantly get up and get another piece of toast like-mine or whatever.

MinkyBorage · 09/09/2008 13:36

Aah, sorry you got a bit of a hard time PP, think you need to chill out with DD's eating though, I'm guessing she's your pfb, and you're trying to do everything perfectly, but if you carry on like this you're going to turn mealtimes in to a battlezone with potentially painful consequences.
Banana and cream cheese is a nice dip btw if you're looking to persuade her to eat something different.
Don't forget, this is just a phase!!