To put DD to bed without any dinner...

[PeppermintPatty]

...because she refused to eat what I've made made her.

She kept asking for a banana but I said no, she had to at least attempt to eat her soup.

She refused and had a massive tantrum She's only 14 months old, but very stubborn.

I'm certainly not going to make her something else, and I feel if I give in to her she'll be demanding a banana every meal time.

So I'm going to put her to bed without any dinner.

AIBU

my dd is 6 and today's eating/meal/choices will not neccesarily be indicitive of tomorrow's.

we are doing fish and bread atm (sighs) at almost everymeal. BUT she's eating it. Your dd may be a fussy eater or she might just be into bananas, just go with the flow.

I never offer my 3 dc(3,4,4) anything else. If they don't like their tea.They either eat what I cook for all 5 of us or go hungry,don't often do afters anyway. No fuss,no bother I don't get stressed about it neither do they it's their choice and they don't starve, often if they are really hungry they eat it up anyway. I don't expect them to clean the plate, just to have a good attempt as I spend time making sure we all eat things we on the whole all enjoy.

One of my sons would only eat fish fingers if I gave alternatives. I can't remember at what age I started this though maybe 21/2, I'm thinking 14 months is too young but I see the op's concerns.

I now have 2 fantastic eaters,1 fussy but he always tries things now and leaves it if he doesn't like it. If they're still hungry after finishing the first course they can fill up from the fruit bowl. I don't believe in forcing kids to eat but I don't run a cafe either.

I know she's only young, but my DS1 (4) wouldn't put up with it. Nearly every single night, after refusing to eat his dinner (most often because he says he's not hungry) he's comes down from bed saying "I'm too hungry, I'm too hungry". We give him whatever he hasn't eaten before.

I think though at 14 months it's a bit young to be so strict, in a few months she'll probably be off bananas anyway, and it's not a bad food to want every meal- time!

i think that you have to do it this way when you have a big family. you can't pander to everyones tastes.

in our house, our three children have to try their meal first and then they get pudding (biscuits, ice-cream, cake, special fruit like mango or pineapple). if they flatly refuse, they get sent to bed without anything (they might be too tired to sit at the table and eat dinner).

we try and do a mix of foods, but there will be times when 'I don't like that' comes up and they have to accept that's what is for tea and nothing else.

as the previous poster said 'I don't run a cafe'!

If those of you bully your children the way you bully OPs on this website YOU should be accused of child abuse.

Yes we are entitled to opinions but if they are unhelpful and just plain hurtful to other people they shouldn't be expressed openly

I cam imagine some of the posters on here in RL. All self righteousness and intimidation. I was abused as a young person by a bullying father who thought he was just 'being cruel to be kind' and 'telling it how it is'. If you can't take 'constructive criticism' your a loser etc etc. It has caused me emotional problems.

It is wrong to throw accusations of child abuse lightly especially when the irony is you are being abusive towards the OP.

No wonder modern mothering is so hard and I believe in turmoil. There is no support for one another just bickering, jealousy and competiton to see who can be the perfect mother of the year.

I wish Tom would eat raisins! He was sat for 20 mins chewing one once then spat it out! He has mashed banana, oatabix and warm milk mixed up for breakfast.

If you have no bananas in the house and the shops are closed then you can't give your child a banana. This does not require the involvement of anybody else, least of all SS.

If you have bananas in the house, but want your dd to eat something else (because you are worried about what she eats is varied enough), then you should probably look into prioritising your battles with your children. This does require the involvement of a friendly ear but does not require the involvement of SS.

If you have no food in the house to feed your child, then there is a problem and SS should probably be called.

I doubt very much that you can die from eating too many bananas.

Don't worry I have read probably about 75% of the thread and have fully understood that op's daughter was given between one and two bananas.

Unbelievable, totally unbelievable, you ask for a bit of help and get completely slated by the holier than thou parents who just cant put a foot wrong.

and yes I think PP got it wrong and I think she realises that now (in no uncertain terms!)

I read the entire 12 pages

Am v. impressed Oliviasmama - but I think the posters at the beginning of the thread are allowed a bit more slack than those that just kept on posted even after poor PP said "enough already, I've given her the bloody banana - I get it!".

I don't know why it's still going on - there's nothing else to be said really.

She was not slated by holier than thou parents just ones who thought putting hungry baby to bed because she didn't fancy one meal and wanted a banana instead was unreasonable. Do calm down dear.....

I rest my case

I've just read the whole thread and was glad to see PP has
a) learned some useful stuff about growing babies and mealtimes
b) not allowed the more extremely phrased posts to upset her (brave woman PP)
c) not wasted her soup after all
Bananas are a superfood PeppermintPatty, your dd has great taste

I have also read the entire post, including the bitchfest from about pages 9-11.

I hope poor old PeppermintPatty has learnt her lesson and checks and doublechecks every future post for unintended meanings, typos etc.

CrushWithEyeliner, she was slated. There are some pretty nasty pieces of work posting on this site. I read alot more then I post, it's safer.

Well done Roesability for this and your other thread and general bullying and name calling

Yes. You are being unreasonable.

I don;t even understand how she has gone to sleep if still hungry?

I always put my daughter to "bed" without any dinner...if the cellar counts as bed that is....

'How to permanently crush a first-time mother's self-confidence'.

For the last time; PP realised she had got it wrong and gave her daughter the banana.

Leave the poor woman alone now.

Please.

Is this still going?

abuse,ss referrals,accusations of bad mother,control freak.What an appalling feeding frenzy on 1st time mum

honestly what patty posted did not merit such vitriolic harsh responses

sheesh harsh and uncalled for

My 14 month old calls everything "nana", indiscriminately.

But she only says about 3 words.

Patty, soak ripped bread in the soup, she'll like it better.