To want my family to pronounce ds2's name correctly?

[FrannyandZooey]

I am honestly not sure if I am. I feel like this is a big deal and want them to get it right, but they are all so convinced that their way is the right way, and it doesn't seem to matter what I say, that I am wondering...

It is a slightly unusual name that can be pronounced two ways. Not hard to say, at all.

If IANBU, how do I deal with this?

I would have said Loo-see-an BUT on ER the guy is called Loo-Shun.

I had a friend called Michaela but her mother pronounced it Mick eye la not Mick "aye" la.

I pronounce a name the way it is told to me, not how I think it should be done.

Keep correcting. I have a friend called Sara said Sarah, but she gets called Sara as in rhymes with tiara!

Maybe saying "It's lu-shun' like Grecian" would get the association into their heads and reassure them that there's a Proper Precedent for your pronounciation, and it's not just you being wierd?

My parents are paranoid about me doing anything 'odd' but if I give them a line they can use with their neighbours/friends, then they're fine - eg they weren't happy with me keeping my surname, but as soon as I pointed out it would die out if I didn't, they were immediately totally in favour!

Although they might end up calling him Grecian. Or 'Urn'.

I've never heard of Loo-shan, only Loo-see-an/en, but that is besides the point. You know how to pronounce your own baby's name! I think you should say something next time all your family are together.

My understanding was always that eve lynn is the male version ;as in Evelyn Waugh and that Ever lynn is the female version.

Have to say that would have pronounced lusian as lu cee an but you should only need to say it once for others to catch on and actually its up to you how you pronounce his name.

My brother is called Julian and for most of his life my gps spelled it Julien becasue gm had seen it written like this in some book!

Sorry Lucian ...sorry sorry sorry!

but....everyone who is saying you wouldn't have thought to pronounce it Looshun...we haven't told people by text, or email...we've said "we are calling him Lucian (Looshun)"

at what point would you think - "Oh, they must mean Loo-see-un"?

They'll probably start saying it right when he is old enough to tell them himself. And if he is anything like my DS1 he will tell them, loudly and in public so that they are shamed into getting it right.

DS1 is Antony.

Spell it Anthony and you have a choice of pronouncing it with a 't' or a 'th' sound. Take the h away and there is only one way to pronounce it. But MIL always got it wrong.

They might just think its one name that different people pronounce differently IYSWIM. As in if you're northern you'll say 'Bath' but down here we'd say "Barth". Have you clearly told them you don't want them to say Loo-see-an? If you've said stop it, and they haven't, then they are being highly unreasonable and a bit rude! Or is there room for you to be more direct about it?

I think you need to give them more than six weeks to get used to it. My sister called her dd Leia (aka Star Wars, although she insists unrelated). My parents heard Leah (they have not watched Star Wars!). It took a few weeks (maybe months) for everyone to get the idea that she was in fact Leia. I don't think my parents meant anything by it, they just assumed that as BIL was Jewish it must be Leah.

But yes you will have to get used to the mispronunciations (and so will your son). I am always impressed when people pronounce my name right! it's a little unusual, so I am happy to cut them some slack (in fact it really doesn't bother me when they mangle it).

My dd is called Gaby, short for Gabrielle, which is also my mother's name.

My 40 year old school teacher sister has consistently spelled dd's name as 'Gabby' on every single Christmas and birthday card she's given her since she was born.

Would like to add - we see my sister regularly. She stays at our house once a week. She's seen dd's name written down correctly many times. What's the problem?

If I'd just seen it written down, I'd have pronounced it Loo-see-an (as a friend of mine does). But that's irrelevant, since people should make the effort to call your DS by the name you've told them!

It's not as if it's a common name, where it's going to be so ingrained in their psyche that it's difficult to remember you pronounce it differently.

As for Evelyn - my neighbour pronounces it Ev-lyn.

I agree that they probably think it's a slightly differnt way of saying the same name .

I think you need to anticipate getting this alot.

We live in Milton Keynes and my Mum and Dad insist on pronoucning it Milton Kaynes

Drives me mad. YANBU.

yes, as i said earlier, I've realised most people can't spell it or say it right
but I do expect my own family to cotton on tbh

Have you told them how to say it? Not just modelled it, but have you actually told them it's looshun?

yes

AND ds has told them
although I like the idea of getting ds1 to be the Looshun monitor

I can't wait until ds2 starts correcting them, that will be fecking ages and they will have it hardwired into their brain by then

Tell them again.

I think you'll just have to give them time. He's only 6 weeks. They'll get it right eventually.

My family still don't know how to spell my DS's name and he's 18 months. Elliot. Two Ls, one T. How hard is that FFS?

Not that it annoys me or anything.

ok
coach me
when do I say it and what do I say

Whenever the family are talking to you about looshun (eg can I hold looseeun for you?) you say 'oh yes, of course. You know, we pronounce it looshun. We did think hard about the pronunciation. Do you prefer the other way?) And then you open up a whole ocnversation about it and let them air their views on the name.

If the family are talking to looshun (oohh who's a lovely chubby boy? yes it's little looseeun) I wouldn't correct them at that point. That would ruin the babytalk flow. Let it go.

"I had a friend called Michaela but her mother pronounced it Mick eye la not Mick "aye" la."

As a Scot, I can "hear" no difference.

FrannyandZooey, it's only been six weeks. Just keep saying your ds's name the way you like it and they should cotton on eventually - but if they don't, is it really all that big a deal? He's going to hear it the wrong way for the rest of his life anyway, might as well get used to it young.

I used to work with a madwoman girl who named her son Kyle and insisted everyone pronounced it something like "k eye o". I just couldn't get my tongue round it at all (to her ear, I really did try) so stopped using his name altogether.

I have never heard of Loo-shun but I would pronounce Lucia as Loo-sha. so it makes sense.

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